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professor of mine a phone call y/n

I was supposed to have taken a class with her (among others) back last Fall, but then, well, you probably know the story. >.<

but tl;dr medical and familial issues made that completely impossible and i never showed up for even a single session lol

My problem now is that I have to put in a request with administration to retroactively withdraw from that semester (otherwise i'm liable for >$2000 for classes that i never actually attended lol), and I need clear evidence that I was a total noshow for every course. Under normal circumstances I could easily send an email (although i feel like it would be extremely rude of me to send an email out of the blue after months of unexplained silence that basically said 'hey remember me yeah sorry for totally blowing you off COULD YOU DO ME THIS HUGE FAVOR'), but she left the university after that semester, so now I'm stuck. smithicide;

even if her old school email address is still active (which it probably isn't), she pretty much has no reason to check it as she's no longer an employee there

now i have taken several courses with her in the past so she certainly knows me well enough (and omg she's just the sweetest thing ever how could i be so rude and awful smithicide;)

but she has never given me her personal phone number (i found it on her resume lol), so it would be, at the very least, a little strange for me to give a call out of the blue begging for a favor

What do? awdood;

I mean you may as well you have nothing to lose aside from momentary shame

i understand your reasoning but i'd still go with an email

it's more professional nowadays (your profession being "student")

Quote from: YPargh on July 23, 2018, 02:35:14 PMI mean you may as well you have nothing to lose aside from momentary shame

i do run the risk of eliminating whatever little respect she might or might not still have for me, if ever she had any smithicide;

i mean, i had to search for the number i found, which i'm assuming is her personal cell phone lol

Quote from: Thyme on July 23, 2018, 02:38:35 PMi understand your reasoning but i'd still go with an email

it's more professional nowadays (your profession being "student")

But then what address do I use? myface;

her phone number is on her resume but not her email? confuseddood;

oh, well yeah, her personal email address is, but she never made that public either and i feel like that would be about as awkward a method (but maybe for different reasons), esp. because it's hard to communicate emotion over text and i SERIOUSLY owe her explanations and apologies lol

it would just feel so stiff and selfish of me to say smth like:

QuoteHi Professor,

*insert life story and list of excuses here*

So may I please ask you to confirm in writing that I was never present?

Thank you.

nevermind those feelings an email like that should be fine baddood;

i just want to reiterate that neither the email address nor the phone number i found on her resume were ever made publicly available lol

these are both her personal contact details

i guess ultimately i agree that email is the more "professional" option but i simply can't imagine that it wouldn't come off as rude and demanding

jesus christ neither of these are good options lol

but i kinda have to do this or i'm yet another $2000 in debt smithicide;

Nonetheless, I'm probably going to put it off until the last second because this whole situation is just incredibly awkward. goodjob;

Can/will the school give you any contact information? Or contact her themselves?

maybe i'll try that route lol

at the same time, having someone contact her on my behalf would still be rude

but maybe they have some contact options that i don't know about

Quote from: Magyarorszag on July 23, 2018, 04:58:15 PMmaybe i'll try that route lol

at the same time, having someone contact her on my behalf would still be rude

but maybe they have some contact options that i don't know about

At least that way it would be coming through an official source.

But if you have no other way, you just have to do what you have to do.

alrightididit (https://boyah.net/forums/Smileys/default/smithicide.gif)

he's a fun excerpt:

QuoteI was tempted to begin this email with yet another "Sorry...", but at a certain point that word becomes completely meaningless. You can only give a person so many excuses and sob stories for being an unreliable flake and a terrible communicator before they begin to roll their eyes.

was i a little too heavy on the melodrama y/n

and that's not even the worst of it LOL

It sounds like you're trying to get back with an exgirlfriend or something

Upon rereading it, yeah, you're right. smithicide;

and yet i'm not sure how else i could have expressed the inner torment

You're not supposed to do that you're supposed to impose your will and seize the Rheinland Reichdood;

Well that would be particularly inappropriate considering she's a curly burgundy-haired, olive-skinned descendant of the Promised Land. sillydood;

and particularly inappropriate because she was born in the soviet union and still has a moderate russian accent goowan

[spoiler]

OMFG

MOMMYYYYYYYYYYYYYYYY I'M SO SORRYYYYYYYYYYYY :'([/spoiler]

In a surprising twist, tec, not snorkel, was the sleeper agent all along.

i wouldn't call her

if you ran into her somewhere in or outside of school (coincidentally, not stalking), i'd say get into a conversation. an unknown call out of the blue (especially if she didn't give you her number personally) is a big red flag imo

i don't like the mentality of "what's the worst that could happen???" because i think it really sucks for girls to be put in that position all the time

my 2 cents

I already sent a lengthy, cringe-worthy message to an address she didn't give me personally. We'll see what happens, I guess. putindisapproves;

Quote from: antmaster5000 on July 25, 2018, 09:47:19 PMif you ran into her somewhere in or outside of school (coincidentally, not stalking)

i lol'd

well that's exceedingly unlikely to happen, but you know

Her resume does also have her home address on it, and it isn't really that far off from my own. befuddlement

i should show up at her doorstep one day with flowers and rugelach y/n

Quote from: Magyarorszag on July 09, 2017, 05:00:51 PM

Quote from: https://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/Rugelach(http://i.imgur.com/BBLZy1h.jpg) (https://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/Rugelach)

Quote from: antmaster5000 on July 25, 2018, 09:47:19 PMi wouldn't call her

if you ran into her somewhere in or outside of school (coincidentally, not stalking), i'd say get into a conversation. an unknown call out of the blue (especially if she didn't give you her number personally) is a big red flag imo

i don't like the mentality of "what's the worst that could happen???" because i think it really sucks for girls to be put in that position all the time

my 2 cents

It's not about her being a girl though, it's about Tec getting money back. Same situation if it's a man, he's not getting the money back if he doesnt try!

oh yeah i just skimmed the first post and thought that there were more romantic intentions

sry yeah you should do it tec

did u fuck her yet its been like 4 days

I think we're all forgetting the most important thing here... Did tec link back to boyah?

Quote from: don't let's on July 25, 2018, 08:17:36 PMIn a surprising twist, tec, not snorkel, was the sleeper agent all along.

It's true. putindisapproves;

Quote from: antmaster5000 on July 26, 2018, 08:23:47 AMoh yeah i just skimmed the first post and thought that there were more romantic intentions

sry yeah you should do it tec

rofl jesus CHRIST

I promise I'm neither quite that delusional, nor quite that much of a creep. myface;

the tl;dr is that if i don't deal with this i'm stuck with >$2000 in tuition fees and some horrifying grades (although she herself was kind enough not to give me an F) for courses i never even attended once, lol

so, i mean, i'm not just casually chatting her up lol, i certainly wouldn't harass her or anyone else irl if it weren't for a necessary reason

Not that I even could casually ch@ her up if I were so brazen as to consider doing such a thing. She's probably like 15 years my senior and married. cry;

...nonetheless, i still think there's a chance she might appreciate some strictly apologetic flowers and rugelach y/n

...sooo she replied lol

some paraphrased excerpts:

QuotePlease don't worry about your disappearing. Of course I worried about you.

QuoteThe people around you will be fine if you don't respond on time, trust me. I am glad you wrote though, as I was worried that I won't ever know how you are.

I am such a piece of garbage. smithicide;

she must think i'm the most pitiful being on the face of the earth

She didn't even question the fact that I must have done some serious snooping to get access to her personal contact info, even though I'm certain she's at least somewhat irritated/disturbed by that. >.<

jesus christ what did i do to deserve such a sweet, forgiving, accommodating, attractive young former professor :'(

AAAAAAAAAAAAAAAAAAAAAAAAAA I'M SO PATHETIC

Also, I have absolutely no idea how to respond, for several reasons. One of them is that it seems like they might have already accepted my petition, entirely without her input. akudood;

so i may have harassed this kind woman for nothing lol

I mean it seems like she's glad to get an update from you, just stop romanticizing it so much and calm down lol
seems like it all worked out fine

sry i'm a forlorn loser it's hard sometimes :'(

Quote from: don't let's on July 26, 2018, 09:15:16 AMI think we're all forgetting the most important thing here... Did tec link back to boyah?

lol

you know, her banter level and humor are seriously top notch, she'd fit right in tbh

In fact, I think I'm going to include a personal invite to Boyah with the strictly apologetic flowers and rugelach I'm preparing to deliver to her doorstep. happydood;

Quote from: Magyarorszag on July 29, 2018, 07:09:34 PMAlso, I have absolutely no idea how to respond, for several reasons.

Did she ask a question of any kind in her reply? Because otherwise you don't have to respond. confuseddood;

but yeah what hiro said

Sit on her lap and have her sing you a song as she rocks you to sleep

oh my goodness, the things i would do to have her whisper sweet russian нежности into my ears and lull me into a sound slumber :'(

yeah so not only did they accept my petition but this afternoon i got an email confirming that they approved it in full, wiped away all respective debts, and nullified those no-show grades akudood;

all entirely without her input lol

So ultimately I hunted her down and harassed her for no reason (although i would have wanted to explain myself and apologize in any case lol). I guess all that's left for me to do is express gratitude once again, and extend to her a cordial invite to Boyah. befuddlement

Quote from: Snowy on July 30, 2018, 07:31:22 PMinvite her to boyah by showing her this thread

mfw that one time she was explaining to me how to pronounce a foreign word after class in her private office

"Nuu-. You know, like a nude [painting]?"

...attractive young former professor, why would you use that particular example >.<

goodness gracious woman DRAW ME LIKE ONE OF YOUR SOVIET GIRLS

anyway i literally only just replied to her lol jesus CHRIST i'm such a piece of sh@

...It's absolutely none of my business, but I'm kind of curious about what her plans are now that she's divorced from the university. Would it be wildly inappropriate of me to ask? y/n