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Post by: Snowy on November 13, 2012, 05:21:28 AM
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Title: Re: why am i always so depressed
Post by: strongbad on November 13, 2012, 07:22:01 AM
what causes depression? at least in my life, whenever i've been depressed, there's been something causing it, whether i wanted to admit it or not.

i suffered a lot of depression in highschool  that was mainly due to not having very many friends in real life who i could relate to, even though i would convince myself that my friends were great. i'd see other people's lives and compare them to my own (which is dumb) and see how much happier they were with all their relationships.
i didn't really realize that this was why i was frequently depressed until senior year of highschool/college when i started creating a lot of meaningful relationships that i like a lot

so idk finding out why you're depressed is definitely the first step to getting out of it
Title: Re: why am i always so depressed
Post by: Commander Fuckass on November 13, 2012, 07:35:09 AM
time for snowy to start drinking heavily
Title: Re: why am i always so depressed
Post by: Andria on November 13, 2012, 08:02:13 AM
Boyah probably isn't the best place to ask. We're mostly just wasting away in the pits of despair.

if you seriously want help go see a professional
Quote from: Kefka on November 13, 2012, 07:35:09 AM
time for snowy to start drinking heavily

works for me wrench;
Title: Re: why am i always so depressed
Post by: ?????? on November 13, 2012, 08:11:20 AM
sounds like teenaged wild hormones
Title: Re: why am i always so depressed
Post by: FAMY2 on November 13, 2012, 08:13:29 AM
Quote from: Snowy on November 13, 2012, 08:06:24 AM
Quote from: Andria on November 13, 2012, 08:02:13 AM
Boyah probably isn't the best place to ask. We're mostly just wasting away in the pits of despair.

if you seriously want help go see a professional
I've considered it but I honestly don't want to bother my parents. They're busy and stressed enough, so I don't want to be another burden.


How much of a burden would it be for them if you did something stupid and they lost you?  madood;

Title: Re: why am i always so depressed
Post by: Boogus Epirus Aurelius on November 13, 2012, 08:21:49 AM
Well, hey, strongbad has a decent point. Try making a list of things that might be weighing heavier than other things. Actually sit down and write it out. That's a cathartic enough practice in itself to bump up the happy juice.

I know it's not something that people usually like to hear, but the fact of the matter is high school only matters as much as you let it matter. The majority of the relationships and friendships you have had throughout are going to dissipate and fall away after you graduate and get out into college or the workforce. And you're going to meet a ton of new people who've never heard of you before and develop some bitchin' relationships not based around any sophomoric pretense.

So if it's mainly relationships or friendships getting you down, just keep that fact above in mind and just keep reminding yourself that. Most people have similar issues in high school and it's terribly easy to get caught up and tangled.

You're a cool dude. Don't be so hard on yourself.
Title: Re: why am i always so depressed
Post by: strongbad on November 13, 2012, 10:58:21 AM
Quote from: Snowy on November 13, 2012, 07:49:10 AM
Quote from: ilovesloths on November 13, 2012, 07:22:01 AM
what causes depression? at least in my life, whenever i've been depressed, there's been something causing it, whether i wanted to admit it or not.

i suffered a lot of depression in highschool  that was mainly due to not having very many friends in real life who i could relate to, even though i would convince myself that my friends were great. i'd see other people's lives and compare them to my own (which is dumb) and see how much happier they were with all their relationships.
i didn't really realize that this was why i was frequently depressed until senior year of highschool/college when i started creating a lot of meaningful relationships that i like a lot

so idk finding out why you're depressed is definitely the first step to getting out of it
I'm not exactly sure, to be honest. I'll have a pretty okay day and then suddenly I'm feeling really down and upset. I'm not sure of an exact cause, but I'm sure that there is one and I'm just not seeing it.

I feel that I'm in the same position. My friends, while they're nice for the most part, are true friends. The person I like probably wants nothing to do with me, the people I hang out with are assholes to each other and me, and there's no one else I can hang out with. I honestly don't know anyone else and I'm very limited due to Middle School. An old friend of mine spread lies about me when I moved here and then I was bullied all throughout Middle School, so I isolated myself and really didn't hang out with anyone. I jumped into the group I'm in now because I knew some of them. Now I'm stuck and I want out. But I don't know why I'm so depressed now. I just got into this group within the past year and this has been going on for about 2 or 3 years.

yeah i feel like that's a common thing to go through in high school. i feel like when i was in highschool, i was in this mindset that my good friends had to be people that i went to school with, since that's what everyone else did. and yeah, i had some decent friends, but i should have just done shit that i enjoyed and met people that way.
like there was a lot of stuff that i wanted to do that i didnt do because my friends werent into it (competitive ssbm, cycling, climbing) when i should have done it anyway.

i don't know if this applies to you, but it's some food for thought i guess
Title: Re: why am i always so depressed
Post by: NOA_Haunted on November 13, 2012, 11:00:20 AM
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Title: Re: why am i always so depressed
Post by: strongbad on November 13, 2012, 01:53:04 PM
what do you want to be doing that you aren't doing?
Title: Re: why am i always so depressed
Post by: strongbad on November 13, 2012, 02:04:37 PM
Quote from: Snowy on November 13, 2012, 01:56:09 PM
Quote from: ilovesloths on November 13, 2012, 01:53:04 PM
what do you want to be doing that you aren't doing?
I'm not exactly sure, to be honest. I just know that I'm not happy doing what I'm doing now, so obviously I haven't found that thing for me yet.

try some new stuff!
i'd highly recommend bouldering as a hobby. it's cheap (you only need climbing shoes which are like $80 and a membership to a gym) and it's so fucking fun.

or something of that sort
Title: Re: why am i always so depressed
Post by: NOA_Haunted on November 13, 2012, 03:50:31 PM
Dude, get into cycling you have to have a bike somewhere. I started bike riding for exercise now I'm addicted but its getting to be winter so I'm turning an old mountain bike into a stationary bike.

Also with a slim diet change (no soda/smaller portions) I lost like 20 pounds in a few months biking on and off and gained a lot of leg muscle.
Title: Re: why am i always so depressed
Post by: The Hand That Fisted Everyone on November 13, 2012, 05:38:26 PM
i advocate biking cause its fun to do and you can see places in a new perspective. slightly higher then a pedestrian and slower than a vehicle you can kind of get the details of things and notice other things that youwouldnt have before
Title: Re: why am i always so depressed
Post by: strongbad on November 13, 2012, 07:27:09 PM
Quote from: xXTheHaunted on November 13, 2012, 03:50:31 PM
Dude, get into cycling you have to have a bike somewhere. I started bike riding for exercise now I'm addicted but its getting to be winter so I'm turning an old mountain bike into a stationary bike.

Also with a slim diet change (no soda/smaller portions) I lost like 20 pounds in a few months biking on and off and gained a lot of leg muscle.


dude yeah cycling is the shit!

Quote from: Snowy on November 13, 2012, 07:26:26 PM
I do have a stationary bike in the next room over. I could probably bike while playing something on my computer or DS and just forget how long I've been biking and just bike for a long time

dude go outside and cycle
it's way better
Title: Re: why am i always so depressed
Post by: NOA_Haunted on November 13, 2012, 07:52:28 PM
Quote from: Snowy on November 13, 2012, 07:30:55 PM
Quote from: ilovesloths on November 13, 2012, 07:27:09 PM
Quote from: xXTheHaunted on November 13, 2012, 03:50:31 PM
Dude, get into cycling you have to have a bike somewhere. I started bike riding for exercise now I'm addicted but its getting to be winter so I'm turning an old mountain bike into a stationary bike.

Also with a slim diet change (no soda/smaller portions) I lost like 20 pounds in a few months biking on and off and gained a lot of leg muscle.


dude yeah cycling is the shit!

Quote from: Snowy on November 13, 2012, 07:26:26 PM
I do have a stationary bike in the next room over. I could probably bike while playing something on my computer or DS and just forget how long I've been biking and just bike for a long time

dude go outside and cycle
it's way better
If it wasn't 40ยบ out now, I would. Cycling in the spring and summer is great.
I was going at least 10 miles a day for little over a month this Summer. Some times I'd ride to my office that is 20 miles away from my house. We have massive bike trail that goes through the woods and stuff. It's about 92 miles long and starts in my town and goes North.
Title: Re: why am i always so depressed
Post by: strongbad on November 13, 2012, 08:36:53 PM
that sounds awesome
yeah last year i lived around 5 and a half miles from campus and i ended up biking around 12 miles a day. really fun though. you get way more absorbed in your surroundings than when you're driving.
Title: Re: why am i always so depressed
Post by: Commander Fuckass on November 14, 2012, 09:10:12 AM
it shouldn't matter if it's 40 degrees out, your bodyheat will make you feel warm and you can go on with out being cold  akudood;
Title: Re: why am i always so depressed
Post by: strongbad on November 14, 2012, 10:01:10 AM
Quote from: Kefka on November 14, 2012, 09:10:12 AM
it shouldn't matter if it's 40 degrees out, your bodyheat will make you feel warm and you can go on with out being cold  akudood;

yeah true
as long as you have adequate gear for the wind, you'll be fine.
it gets pretty fucking cold and rainy in bellingham and as long as i have my windbreaker and gloves and stuff i'm fine
Title: Re: why am i always so depressed
Post by: NOA_Haunted on November 14, 2012, 11:53:45 AM
Wind is a bitch no matter the temperature. Unless, you have a nice tailwind.  giggle;
Title: Re: why am i always so depressed
Post by: strongbad on November 14, 2012, 04:48:50 PM
[youtube]http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=ql9Zd1AZEQg&feature=plcp[/youtube]
snowy get into kendama
Title: Re: why am i always so depressed
Post by: NOA_Haunted on November 14, 2012, 04:56:12 PM
Quote from: ilovesloths on November 14, 2012, 04:48:50 PM
[youtube]http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=ql9Zd1AZEQg&feature=plcp[/youtube]
snowy get into kendama


What is that? Some kind of devil Yo-Yo?
Title: Re: why am i always so depressed
Post by: strongbad on November 14, 2012, 05:25:55 PM
(http://web-japan.org/kidsweb/virtual/kendama/images/name_e.jpg)
(sorry for hijacking the thread snowy, i still care)

it's like a glorified ball-and-cup. i played with it for probably 1-2 hours a day over the summer because i worked at a summer camp and it's pretty addicting. steep learning curve, though.
Title: Re: why am i always so depressed
Post by: snoorkel on November 14, 2012, 09:52:37 PM
move out of your parents house and get a personal identity

become mroe self aware and start working toward long-term goals
Title: Re: why am i always so depressed
Post by: just1more on November 14, 2012, 10:17:16 PM
Have you tried therapy? I've been going to therapy for my depression over the past month and a half, and it's been really helping. Also, it really helps to open up to family and friends, particularly your closest friends. Just do things that would make you happy and take your mind off things. Also also, regular exercise helps a lot. It is a huge stress release, and will get you feeling so much better and more confident about yourself.

I know it can be hard, especially when you're feeling *really* down, but it helps to know other people are there that care for your well-being.
Title: Re: why am i always so depressed
Post by: NOA_Haunted on November 15, 2012, 06:25:30 AM
My mom made me see a shrink in high school. After the second visit i realized the guy didn't remember anything about me i stopped going. I was like how are you going to help me of you ask me the same questions over and over?
Title: Re: why am i always so depressed
Post by: PLEASEHELP1991 on November 15, 2012, 02:33:24 PM
i wish i had resolved my deep-seated anxiety by the time i finished high school
now i have to take crazy meds like clucky
Title: Re: why am i always so depressed
Post by: just1more on November 15, 2012, 06:46:42 PM
That sucks guys. You should really try it again and just tell them everything. They're there to help you make sense of it all.

I'm fortunate enough to get therapy for free at my college, and my therapist is a smoking hot pre-doctoral intern. Double-win!
Title: Re: why am i always so depressed
Post by: Boogus Epirus Aurelius on November 15, 2012, 06:50:58 PM
Quote from: yoseph on November 15, 2012, 06:46:42 PM
That sucks guys. You should really try it again and just tell them everything. They're there to help you make sense of it all.

I'm fortunate enough to get therapy for free at my college, and my therapist is a smoking hot pre-doctoral intern. Double-win!


Good christ.........
Title: Re: why am i always so depressed
Post by: just1more on November 17, 2012, 03:34:25 PM
Quote from: Boognish-Redux- on November 15, 2012, 06:50:58 PM
Quote from: yoseph on November 15, 2012, 06:46:42 PM
That sucks guys. You should really try it again and just tell them everything. They're there to help you make sense of it all.

I'm fortunate enough to get therapy for free at my college, and my therapist is a smoking hot pre-doctoral intern. Double-win!


Good christ.........

Is there something wrong with having an attractive therapist? Am I missing something?

Oh wait. I get it. You just don't like the fact that I'm attracted to her. Got it.
Title: Re: why am i always so depressed
Post by: Travis on November 18, 2012, 12:24:15 AM
Quote from: yoseph on November 17, 2012, 03:34:25 PM
Quote from: Boognish-Redux- on November 15, 2012, 06:50:58 PM
Quote from: yoseph on November 15, 2012, 06:46:42 PM
That sucks guys. You should really try it again and just tell them everything. They're there to help you make sense of it all.

I'm fortunate enough to get therapy for free at my college, and my therapist is a smoking hot pre-doctoral intern. Double-win!


Good christ.........

Is there something wrong with having an attractive therapist? Am I missing something?

Oh wait. I get it. You just don't like the fact that I'm attracted to her. Got it.
snarky
Title: Re: why am i always so depressed
Post by: ?????? on November 19, 2012, 05:21:02 PM
Quote from: yoseph on November 17, 2012, 03:34:25 PM
Quote from: Boognish-Redux- on November 15, 2012, 06:50:58 PM
Quote from: yoseph on November 15, 2012, 06:46:42 PM
That sucks guys. You should really try it again and just tell them everything. They're there to help you make sense of it all.

I'm fortunate enough to get therapy for free at my college, and my therapist is a smoking hot pre-doctoral intern. Double-win!


Good christ.........

Is there something wrong with having an attractive therapist? Am I missing something?

Oh wait. I get it. You just don't like the fact that I'm attracted to her. Got it.
i was attracted to my therapist
and then we fucked

Title: Re: why am i always so depressed
Post by: YPrrrr on November 19, 2012, 05:22:21 PM
Quote from: Clucky on November 19, 2012, 05:21:02 PM
Quote from: yoseph on November 17, 2012, 03:34:25 PM
Quote from: Boognish-Redux- on November 15, 2012, 06:50:58 PM
Quote from: yoseph on November 15, 2012, 06:46:42 PM
That sucks guys. You should really try it again and just tell them everything. They're there to help you make sense of it all.

I'm fortunate enough to get therapy for free at my college, and my therapist is a smoking hot pre-doctoral intern. Double-win!


Good christ.........

Is there something wrong with having an attractive therapist? Am I missing something?

Oh wait. I get it. You just don't like the fact that I'm attracted to her. Got it.
i was attracted to my therapist
and then we fucked


Too much freud
Title: Re: why am i always so depressed
Post by: ?????? on November 19, 2012, 05:24:02 PM
Quote from: NDDR on November 19, 2012, 05:22:21 PM
Quote from: Clucky on November 19, 2012, 05:21:02 PM
Quote from: yoseph on November 17, 2012, 03:34:25 PM
Quote from: Boognish-Redux- on November 15, 2012, 06:50:58 PM
Quote from: yoseph on November 15, 2012, 06:46:42 PM
That sucks guys. You should really try it again and just tell them everything. They're there to help you make sense of it all.

I'm fortunate enough to get therapy for free at my college, and my therapist is a smoking hot pre-doctoral intern. Double-win!


Good christ.........

Is there something wrong with having an attractive therapist? Am I missing something?

Oh wait. I get it. You just don't like the fact that I'm attracted to her. Got it.
i was attracted to my therapist
and then we fucked


Too much freud
mistook me for an intelligent, well-cultured bastard when i was, in fact, exposed only to nintendo forums and bad online comics
Title: Re: why am i always so depressed
Post by: PLEASEHELP1991 on November 19, 2012, 05:41:02 PM
Clucky is everyone on Boyah
Title: Re: why am i always so depressed
Post by: ?????? on November 19, 2012, 05:42:29 PM
A SHOW THAT YOU CREATE
Title: Re: why am i always so depressed
Post by: Geno on November 19, 2012, 05:46:07 PM
It's because you're in high school. Everyone is depressed.
Title: Re: why am i always so depressed
Post by: Kalahari Inkantation on November 19, 2012, 05:57:04 PM
depression
a noun
a disease you get from living too much
Title: Re: why am i always so depressed
Post by: strongbad on November 19, 2012, 06:54:09 PM
Quote from: Geno on November 19, 2012, 05:46:07 PM
It's because you're in high school. Everyone is depressed.
Title: Re: why am i always so depressed
Post by: NOA_Haunted on November 19, 2012, 08:06:24 PM
Wait, snowy is in High School?
Title: Re: why am i always so depressed
Post by: NOA_Haunted on November 20, 2012, 10:36:30 AM
Quote from: Snowy on November 20, 2012, 04:05:31 AM
Quote from: xXTheHaunted on November 19, 2012, 08:06:24 PM
Wait, snowy is in High School?
yes
mind is blown.
Title: Re: why am i always so depressed
Post by: NOA_Haunted on November 20, 2012, 10:39:49 AM
I don't know. Just thought you were older lol
Title: Re: why am i always so depressed
Post by: Samus Aran on November 20, 2012, 04:23:24 PM
snowy's still our baby when icandy's not around
Title: Re: why am i always so depressed
Post by: 6M69I69B9 on November 21, 2012, 11:22:02 AM
Uhhh, I don't know how to go with this, since I'm always having middle-aged people, mainly teachers/professors/etc. more as acquaintances than peers, but, I don't know- I suggest a social worker or some teacher you're comfortable with.  I don't know how you should approach it, because out of nowhere, I just start really "deep" conversations with these guys.

I became friends with a professor that actually considers me as a friend.  He said that he never wants to lose contact with me, and we talk so damn casually.  But lately, he's been having troubles of his own.  I've been trying to cheer him up, as he has done the same for me.  But for now, he's trying to spend time with his own family, but he said he'd try to contact me sometime, even when I said it was optional like two times.

He's such a great person.   :(