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Title: oh sages of boyah
Post by: Zach on November 15, 2010, 01:33:04 PM
I am in need of your wisdom.

Why is it that any girl that is intelligent and attractive is either in a relationship with an asshole or just broke up with her asshole boyfriend so she can immediately jump into another relationship with an asshole?

Just curious. This seems to be happening a lot with everyone I'm interested in talking to.
Title: Re: oh sages of boyah
Post by: C.Mongler on November 15, 2010, 01:34:05 PM
looks liek you aint fast enough bro GET THE FUCK IN THERE BEFORE THEY MEET NEW ASSHOLES
Title: Re: oh sages of boyah
Post by: Daddy on November 15, 2010, 01:44:51 PM
because you are an asshole
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Post by: Cookie on November 15, 2010, 01:45:55 PM
because girls are whores
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Post by: ME## on November 15, 2010, 03:29:24 PM
girls like the confidence that assholes have
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Post by: C.Mongler on November 15, 2010, 04:14:41 PM
yeah you have to be confident. not necessarily an asshole, its just most assholes ARE confident
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Post by: strongbad on November 15, 2010, 04:30:40 PM
I don't fucking know dude.
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Post by: just1more on November 15, 2010, 04:59:06 PM
Just be confident.

And stop actively looking for long term relationships.
Title: Re: oh sages of boyah
Post by: ME## on November 15, 2010, 05:00:33 PM
Quote from: yoseph on November 15, 2010, 04:59:06 PM
And stop actively looking for long term relationships.


he can do what he pleases in that regard goodjob;
Title: Re: oh sages of boyah
Post by: just1more on November 15, 2010, 05:06:43 PM
Quote from: Jim on November 15, 2010, 05:00:33 PM
he can do what he pleases in that regard goodjob;

Allow me to clarify. He can wish for a long-term relationship if he so pleases. However, he should not "get serious" with one and ask a girl "So, we're boyfriend and girlfriend now, right?" or anything to that effect after the first date.  n_n
Title: Re: oh sages of boyah
Post by: ME## on November 15, 2010, 05:24:38 PM
Quote from: yoseph on November 15, 2010, 05:06:43 PM
Allow me to clarify. He can wish for a long-term relationship if he so pleases. However, he should not "get serious" with one and ask a girl "So, we're boyfriend and girlfriend now, right?" or anything to that effect after the first date.  n_n


since when does confirming that you're 'boyfriend and girlfriend' make it a 'long term' relationship goodjob;
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Post by: just1more on November 15, 2010, 05:26:12 PM
Quote from: Jim on November 15, 2010, 05:24:38 PM
since when does confirming that you're 'boyfriend and girlfriend' make it a 'long term' relationship goodjob;

I didn't say it confirmed anything. I meant that it had those connotations.
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Post by: C.Mongler on November 15, 2010, 05:27:01 PM
Quote from: yoseph on November 15, 2010, 05:26:12 PM
I didn't say it confirmed anything. I meant that it had those connotations.


no it doesnt, it just has the connotations of exclusivity  bassir;
Title: Re: oh sages of boyah
Post by: ME## on November 15, 2010, 05:31:54 PM
Quote from: yoseph on November 15, 2010, 05:26:12 PM
I didn't say it confirmed anything. I meant that it had those connotations.

'So, are we boyfriend and girlfriend now?'.  To me, that seems to be one one confirming if they're boyfriend and girlfriend.  And confirming that you are indeed that, doesn't mean that it's a long term relationship. goodjob;
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Post by: ?????? on November 15, 2010, 05:50:25 PM
Quote from: Jim on November 15, 2010, 05:31:54 PM
'So, are we boyfriend and girlfriend now?'.  To me, that seems to be one one confirming if they're boyfriend and girlfriend.  And confirming that you are indeed that, doesn't mean that it's a long term relationship. goodjob;
So, you're breaking up with me now?  goowan
Title: Re: oh sages of boyah
Post by: ME## on November 15, 2010, 05:54:12 PM
Quote from: Analysis Paralysis on November 15, 2010, 05:50:25 PM
So, you're breaking up with me now?  goowan


There's no such thing as a boyfriend and boyfriend relationship, so of course. goowan
Title: Re: oh sages of boyah
Post by: Zach on November 15, 2010, 11:26:03 PM
Quote from: yoseph on November 15, 2010, 04:59:06 PM
Just be confident.

And stop actively looking for long term relationships.


I'm not actively looking for a long term relationship. I'm actively looking for a date.

Quote from: yoseph on November 15, 2010, 05:06:43 PM
Allow me to clarify. He can wish for a long-term relationship if he so pleases. However, he should not "get serious" with one and ask a girl "So, we're boyfriend and girlfriend now, right?" or anything to that effect after the first date.  n_n


Who the hell said anything about that? You're reading way too much into this. I'm pretty sure I know how to handle that part once I get there.
Title: Re: oh sages of boyah
Post by: Classic on November 15, 2010, 11:34:00 PM
Zach, you're a good guy. Just be yourself, mmkay? There are girls out there who are looking for sweeties like you.  cjlubdoods;
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Post by: Zach on November 16, 2010, 11:26:08 PM
Quote from: Classique on November 15, 2010, 11:34:00 PM
Zach, you're a good guy. Just be yourself, mmkay? There are girls out there who are looking for sweeties like you.  cjlubdoods;


Thank you Tyler.  happydood;

Latest update: Girl I was after recently became single, but our schedules rarely line up so I haven't had a lot of time to talk to her. Then I discover that she's hooked up with a guy I know who is an absolute dickhead and I don't understand why anyone would ever want to date him.

This is almost always what happens.
Title: Re: oh sages of boyah
Post by: Classic on November 16, 2010, 11:28:56 PM
"Que Sera Sera".

Good things will come your way eventually. I promise. Maybe not now, maybe not tomorrow, but keep on your toes and it will happen.
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Post by: Hiro on November 16, 2010, 11:56:40 PM
Quote from: Classique on November 16, 2010, 11:28:56 PM
"Que Sera Sera".

Good things will come your way eventually. I promise. Maybe not now, maybe not tomorrow, but keep on your toes and it will happen.
this

also if she just hooked up with a dickhead maybe she's not the type of girl you want to be with anyways
Title: Re: oh sages of boyah
Post by: Zach on November 17, 2010, 12:15:52 AM
Quote from: Admin on November 16, 2010, 11:56:40 PM
this

also if she just hooked up with a dickhead maybe she's not the type of girl you want to be with anyways


this is the usual response i get to these types of situations, and i would likely agree if this didn't happen to most every girl i'm interested in. i think it's just that women in general must be attracted to dickheads. that's the only conclusion i am able to come to.

maybe the answer is to become the dickhead
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Post by: Classic on November 17, 2010, 09:37:59 AM
Wrong.
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Post by: ME## on November 17, 2010, 09:42:10 AM
Quote from: Zach on November 17, 2010, 12:15:52 AM
this is the usual response i get to these types of situations, and i would likely agree if this didn't happen to most every girl i'm interested in. i think it's just that women in general must be attracted to dickheads. that's the only conclusion i am able to come to.

maybe the answer is to become the dickhead


don't.  just be confident.   n_u
Title: Re: oh sages of boyah
Post by: Hiro on November 17, 2010, 10:29:09 AM
Quote from: Zach on November 17, 2010, 12:15:52 AM
this is the usual response i get to these types of situations, and i would likely agree if this didn't happen to most every girl i'm interested in. i think it's just that women in general must be attracted to dickheads. that's the only conclusion i am able to come to.

maybe the answer is to become the dickhead
maybe you're just going after the wrong types of girls  akudood;
Title: Re: oh sages of boyah
Post by: Boogus Epirus Aurelius on November 17, 2010, 10:39:04 AM
Just stop making a point of actively looking.
And don't act like it's some mandatory, necessary thing. Take your time and let things just develop.
Title: Re: oh sages of boyah
Post by: strongbad on November 17, 2010, 10:48:59 AM
Quote from: Chemical Zen on November 17, 2010, 10:39:04 AM
Just stop making a point of actively looking.
And don't act like it's some mandatory, necessary thing. Take your time and let things just develop.


This is definitely true.
During highschool, it was almost all that I focused on and I ended up trying too hard and not getting what I wanted, which made me feel like shit. What I'm doing now is just becoming friends with girls for the sake of being friends, and who knows, something might develop further, but I'm happy just having people I can hang out with.
Title: Re: oh sages of boyah
Post by: rdl on November 17, 2010, 11:36:42 AM
Quote from: Chemical Zen on November 17, 2010, 10:39:04 AM
And don't act like it's some mandatory, necessary thing. Take your time and let things just develop.
Exactly. Everybody these days act like you need to be fucking. Always, all the time, there needs to be a vagina within arms reach.

There's more to life. There's gotta be. Be friendly, be confident, one day a girl will come your way who'll want you, you won't be the one asking her out and you won't be actively trying to get her to warm up to you, you'll just kind of automatically get along with each other.

true love

(i mean yeah i can see how having a girlfriend would be therapeutic, but there ARE other ways to find peace and purpose, if that's what you're looking for).
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Post by: Boogus Epirus Aurelius on November 17, 2010, 12:11:59 PM
Quote from: XLR on November 17, 2010, 11:36:42 AM
Exactly. Everybody these days act like you need to be fucking. Always, all the time, there needs to be a vagina within arms reach.

There's more to life. There's gotta be. Be friendly, be confident, one day a girl will come your way who'll want you, you won't be the one asking her out and you won't be actively trying to get her to warm up to you, you'll just kind of automatically get along with each other.

true love

(i mean yeah i can see how having a girlfriend would be therapeutic, but there ARE other ways to find peace and purpose, if that's what you're looking for).


Also, relationships aren't for everyone. Some people just aren't meant to be involved in that dynamic, so they shouldn't feel pressured to do so.