Okay so I'm back from Connecticon and yadda yadda, I had a great time as always and there are tons of thoings I want to tell you all about, but there's only one thing that deserves it's own thread.
I'm being stalked. And when I say stalked, I don't mean I got followed aroud a few hours buy some guy, I don't mean someone looked up all my info on facebook, I don't mean that someone won't leave me alone, etc. I'm used to all that shit and it doesn't really concern me. My problem is MUCH bigger.
okay, let's backtrack. A few months ago, a boy added on me on facebook. Seeing that he's going to the same college as me next year, I happily accepted and we made small talk about majors and lame stuff like that. We haven't really talked much, but he's constantly sending me replies on Twitter and tends to comment on my facebook posts a lot. He's a little strange, and I know he's on multiple medications but I have no idea what for. I also know he has a single dorm room as a freshman next year... and you need a damn good reason to get that.
Fast forward to about 2 weeks ago. He makes a post on facebook telling me he may be going to connecticon and I reply saying he should because it's always fun.
Saturday, I get stopped by this same boy to say hi. I say hi of course and introduce him to my friends. And then he was pretty much just like "alright bye then." I saw him a second time later that day but I was busy looking for krystle and told him so. He was welcome to help me look for her, but as I was walking in a straight line towards the door, he turned, said bye, and went somewhere else.
So everything seems generally normal, right? At worst he's just a bit if a socially awkward kid (then again, who at cons isn't?) He just wants to be friends with me, maybe get to know me, whatever. Nothing to worry about, right? Yeah, that's what I thought too.
Earlier today I was stalked by a friend of mine (a girl I've met a few times for various conventions) and she said "I have a friend who really wants to meet you." So I was naturally confused and asked why, she says that this friend said to her "A really famous youtube is going to be at connecticon dressed as a mouse." Because the girl knew I was dressing as a mouse she asked him if I was the same girl, and apparently I was (famous youtuber? I don't think so.) So she promised him to introduce us.
So she calls up this kid and he comes running over from across the convention center. Turns out, he's some 16-17 year old asian boy and he was SO nervous to talk to me. It was adorable. Well, up until he started to talk, anyway. the first words out of his mouth were "I know someone who is stalking you. And I mean REALLY stalking you." He then proceeded to tell me about how he's been going back and forth with some boy online talking about me and how he's been commenting on everything of mine and something about how they argue and that I had to take a picture with him (the asian) and post it one my twitter to spite him. I was a little bit weirded out and didn't really understand what he was talking about, but I agreed to take the picture anyway. Afterwards I asked him who the stalker person he was talking about was, and he tells me the name of the same boy I had met the day before who I'm going to school with next year.
So at this point I thought I knew what was going on. I explained to the asian that that boy wasn't stalking me, I'm going to school with him next year and I had just met him the day before. We only met each other because we're both going to WPI. My little excuse, however, was quickly squashed when the asian told me that the boy had been talking about me for at least a year and that he had applied to colleges based on my college decisions and had decided on WPI because I decided on WPI.
this. changed. everything.
So okay I learned my lesson, I REALLY have to be careful about what I post online from now on. But if anyone has any ideas on what I should do in my current situation, please tell. Part of me is completely creeped out and the other part says it's not a big deal and that I shouldn't even bother worrying about it. Either way, is there anything I can even do besides wait and see what happens?
bah I don't know ;_;
i read half of that and stopped sorry
i read the first word and stopped sorry
i just saw the big text wall and scrolled down to read the other posts
i'll get to eventually.
Get Jaleel to beat him up. :3
Hahaha yeah, think of all the photos you have on Boyah (which by the way there are too many of in the picture of yourself thread)
maybe the guy's awesome and is your soul mate
It must have been the chipmunk voice that you use in your videos sometimes. When he heard that high-pitched squealing, he was instantly smitten.
Personally, I see some potential between you two. Love is in the air at WPI. cjlubdoods;
Usually when I'm being stalked I sleep with my stalker. The next morning they wake up wondering if there's more to life than empty, meaningless sex and they never call again.
Works like a charm. You should try it too.
Well it didn't sound that bad until you got to the part where he applied to WPI because of you. akudood;
I don't know, I've only dealt with "no big deal" kind of stalking. Did you talk to him about it?
I've never dealt with any kind of stalking. Is it normal to experience that?
Be mean to him and he will go away
Quote from: Skylark on August 02, 2009, 04:59:42 PM
I've never dealt with any kind of stalking. Is it normal to experience that?
Be mean] to him and he will go away
:O
You could stalk him and put together a bunch of really frightening shit and contact police and stuff to fuck with him
actually I'll do that if you want, sounds fun
Is he obsessive enough to read 7+ paragraphs?
I suppose the first thing you need to do is verify the stalking, it sounds more like the asian guy is stalking you. uhhh other than that try not to go into any secluded areas with him.
First of all, why would you need a major reason to get your own room? It just costs more. Universities want your money.
Secondly, I suggest countering him with another one of your stalkers. This of course is Jaleel. I would love to see the fight that ensues.
baddood;
Or you could just try to avoid him or be a bitch to him I dunno
Just ignore him.
Oh I'm not good at dealing with quiet subtle threats.
I can only offer up excessively violent reaction and psychological manipulation but both end pretty badly for both parties.
Quote from: Cyanide on August 02, 2009, 04:56:31 PM
Well it didn't sound that bad until you got to the part where he applied to WPI because of you. akudood;
I don't know, I've only dealt with "no big deal" kind of stalking. Did you talk to him about it?
I barely talk to him at all, I thought he was just one of the other 800 people I was going to school with next year. I haven't talked to him any more than 50 of my other classmates. The asian could have been exaggerating/falsifying things when he told me, but the very fact that he knew who this person was is unsettling.
Quote from: Skylark on August 02, 2009, 04:59:42 PM
I've never dealt with any kind of stalking. Is it normal to experience that?
Be mean to him and he will go away
at first I thought I said "Be mean to him and he will be gay." teehee
Quote from: Ken on August 02, 2009, 05:14:33 PM
First of all, why would you need a major reason to get your own room? It just costs more. Universities want your money.
Secondly, I suggest countering him with another one of your stalkers. This of course is Jaleel. I would love to see the fight that ensues.
baddood;
Or you could just try to avoid him or be a bitch to him I dunno
WPI isn't a university, it's a college. A college with very limited housing (There are only enough rooms for about 50% of upperclassmen) Single-person dorms are very sparse and only available to RA's and students who have a medical or mental condition that would make living with others difficult.
Quote from: Bassir on August 02, 2009, 05:18:08 PM
Just ignore him.
...easier said than done.
Why do you have so many stalkers sammy
Also that's really creepy
Uh, how about you stop being a dick to the kid? akudood; I mean really, if you just ignore him, he could go right around and snap and possibly kill and/or rape you. Just confront him before he goes to college thinking you guys are going to be best friends forever. akudood;
Quote from: Sam on August 02, 2009, 05:37:48 PM
...easier said than done.
Everything on this planet is easier said than done. akudood;
IDK. Hope they give up. Most of the time I don't realize it until someone points it out. And online I just tell my Prince. hocuspocus;
I'm not stalking you! I JUST WANT TO BE NEAR YOU, MY LOVE!!! cjlubdoods; cjlubdoods;
Seriously, this is creepy. I mean, it's not cool at all. Be careful, Pink. >.<
"Invite him to Boyah"
Quote from: Hippo P. Otamus on August 02, 2009, 06:37:47 PM
I'm not stalking you! I JUST WANT TO BE NEAR YOU, MY LOVE!!! cjlubdoods; cjlubdoods;
Seriously, this is creepy. I mean, it's not cool at all. Be careful, Pink. >.<
Hippo I need to send you the photos from my Wind Waker shoot. :3
Do nothing. Unless you're really concerned call the police.
Is he cute?
So are we talking about that Connor guy that's always commenting on your shit?
1. Notify proper authorities.
2. Invest in pepper spray.
3. Delete your damn Facebook already. No one needs that shit anyway.
Quote from: laylay on August 02, 2009, 08:13:23 PM
Do nothing. Unless you're really concerned call the police.
our police don't ride horses (usually, once I saw some riding horses downtown and I was like wtf, I think they were mounted riot police) so it's not cool to call them and they're not very effective since they don't have horses :(
I would get Asian boy to do all the talking for you. Cause depending on how this guy is, you telling him to leave you alone might get him to a) get depressed/kill himself, b) get pissed at you or c) leave you alone. the odds arent really in your favor.
so, if you remain mostly neutral while asian boy tells him not to stalk you because thats just fucked up and no one wants to be fucked up, then you should be fine. then just echo asian boy's sentiments if the stalker asks you if you agree with something he said and i guess that might work.
i dunno, you could probably come up with a better plan than that. i'm obviously not in your situation so im not as hard pressed to find a solution.
also yeah get pepper spray
also why call the cops? he hasnt said anything incriminating yet, has he?
I bet its Water2 giggle;
Act like you're dead. It works for possums.
Quote from: Lwar on August 02, 2009, 06:16:13 PM
Uh, how about you stop being a dick to the kid? akudood; I mean really, if you just ignore him, he could go right around and snap and possibly kill and/or rape you. Just confront him before he goes to college thinking you guys are going to be best friends forever. akudood;
...first of all, you're pretty rude.
second, I've never been a dick to him, I've always been friendly. Not overly friendly, but I've treated him the same as I've treated all my other classmates.
Tell him you'd like to try something kinky involving his genitals and a hammer drill.
Tell him he's dumb.
Quote from: Sam on August 02, 2009, 10:06:59 PM
...first of all, you're pretty rude.
second, I've never been a dick to him, I've always been friendly. Not overly friendly, but I've treated him the same as I've treated all my other classmates.
I'm saying, don't be a dick and take some of the advice just to ignore him. baddood;
You should stop randomly friending people on facebook. You went through and deleted people you really didn't know before, but you keep friending complete strangers anyway akudood;
Just stop wearing makeup and he won't stalk you n_u
Quote from: YPR on August 03, 2009, 10:37:48 AM
You should stop randomly friending people on facebook. You went through and deleted people you really didn't know before, but you keep friending complete strangers anyway akudood;
Just stop wearing makeup and he won't stalk you n_u
Like I said, I friended him (or he friended me, I really can't recall) because we were both incoming freshman at WPI. I have at least 50-100 other friends on facebook for the same reason, it gives me a chance to meet people so I'm not lonely when I show up.. I thing it's legitimate.
also yeah, you're right :(
Quote from: Zach on August 02, 2009, 08:34:33 PM
So are we talking about that Connor guy that's always commenting on your shit?
no, he's pretty cool
I'd take RDX's advice up there if I were you. Seems like the most logical first step.
I think avoiding and being a bitch would piss him off more. Um...I guess I'd tell someone and get him to go away or something.
I've decided I'm just going to give the kid a chance and pretend I didn't hear anything about the whole stalking deal. If he ends up being a huge creep in college then I'll start to worry about how to deal with him, but for now I don't think it would be right of me to jump to conclusions or do anything drastic.
But if I'm murdered in college, I want boyah to avenge me.
The whole situation does seem a bit out of place, but I think you have enough reason to be suspicious / aware of the kid. Keep an eye on him, and take more than seriously any rumour you hear about him. Use the asian kid as you can. RDX seems to be the wisest person here (for what reason, who knows), so keep what he said in mind. Above all just be realistic and aware.
Yeah don't listen to the "be mean" or other shit that will worsen the situaiton. baddood;
He will start obsessing over why you are being mean to him, and then try harder to get your approval. Then you will try to be even meaner when that doesn't work, which just makes him become more obsessed, and the cycle repeats.
Being mean and just trying to push him away like that will just make it worse. akudood;
Quote from: YPR on August 03, 2009, 10:37:48 AM
You should stop randomly friending people on facebook. You went through and deleted people you really didn't know before, but you keep friending complete strangers anyway akudood;
I agree with YPR
i too am going to WPI
no not really im going to JMU any of you niggas goin with me giggle;
Quote from: C Mongler on August 04, 2009, 12:40:22 AM
i too am going to WPI
no not really im going to JMU any of you niggas goin with me giggle;
we could be best buddies. giggle;
On a somehwat unrelated note, I came really close to going to school with a Mr. Kevin Redmond.
Watch this video: http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=QWDberjBG7o