I'm really confused and I just don't know why I isolate myself from people a lot...
Whenever I'm talking with someone, and we'll just stop and it's silent and we're just looking at random shit for a moment, I say some excuse that I have to go or some shit because I don't know what else to do with them. It's hard for me to say "Thank You", "Hey", or some other greetings, and after I say it, I feel so...odd about it. Whenever I talk bad about someone when I'm by that person, I don't really make it as a bad thing, but saying bad things makes it so easier to me to say for some reason. For an expamle; Me and a person are playing a game and he loses. I say "You suck.", people would always feel a bit bad about what I said, right? But really, it's just a different way of saying "You'll do better next time." and whenever I say bad things about a person, most of the time I'm joking/being sarcastic.
When I was younger, I always felt that being with people, meant that you were weak and had to depend on people. So most of the time, I went alone and I tried to make friends, but most of them were too different from me. So, as a loner most of the time, I get so depressed, I have the same thought that repels me from socializing, but at the same time I'm fighting with another thought that wants to make friends. But, whenever I hear that word "bond", I just feel sick to my stomache and I just want to walk away from whoever said that.
I guess what I'm trying to say, is that I really hate it when people say that they love one another or are friends or some shit like that. I don't like being "soft" with people.
Even talking about this shit is really...akward. I have to know what the fuck I have to do to get out of this abyss. So, what should I do when I'm probably the only one who's so anti-social?
Ummm, tl;dr.
Make some friends.
Because you're a pathetic ass asian with a huge ass head.
So don't be soft with people, and find some people that will appreciate a dryer sense of humor. You'll find them eventually... it's harder though because the people you like are most likely anti-social too. I don't know, take some risks and don't care what others will think of you if they don't respond positively
Quote from: Yprie on July 06, 2008, 09:27:40 AM
So don't be soft with people, and find some people that will appreciate a dryer sense of humor. You'll find them eventually... it's harder though because the people you like are most likely anti-social too. I don't know, take some risks and don't care what others will think of you if they don't respond positively
but ure a giant
Quote from: Harvey Dent on July 06, 2008, 09:28:51 AM
but ure a giant
Yeah, everyone likes me because I'll step on them if they don't
Quote from: Yprie on July 06, 2008, 09:30:18 AM
Yeah, everyone likes me because I'll step on them if they don't
People like me so I don't shoot them. UNLEASH THE BEAST
Quote from: JMV on July 06, 2008, 09:32:21 AM
People like me so I don't shoot them. UNLEASH THE BEAST
i don't like you. |:
pew pew ur ded faget
Hide in your house like me. The only friend you need is your hand. ;)
Quote from: Harvey Dent on July 06, 2008, 09:25:46 AM
Because you're a pathetic ass asian with a huge ass head.
Don't you think I already know this? Oh well, keep wasting your time.
Lack of self confidence and fear of getting close to people.
I was kinda like that at first. Without going into too much detail... :(, start trusting one person to help you. Let them help you overcome your problems. But be careful who you pick. Make sure they are trust worthy. It helps if they are a lot like you too.
Quote from: Clair on July 06, 2008, 10:58:41 AM
Lack of self confidence and fear of getting close to people.
I was kinda like that at first. Without going into too much detail... :(, start trusting one person to help you. Let them help you overcome your problems. But be careful who you pick. Make sure they are trust worthy. It helps if they are a lot like you too.
There's only one like that, but he's a bit more confident than me.
Quote from: Original_MIB on July 06, 2008, 11:07:59 AM
There's only one like that, but he's a bit more confident than me.
That's good. You can learn from him and he can grow from teaching you. caterpie;
Quote from: Clair on July 06, 2008, 11:09:22 AM
That's good. You can learn from him and he can grow from teaching you. caterpie;
No, he thinks I'm more of a Psychologist than anybody else that has tried to help him. But, I don't see how he makes so many friends and is still depressed...
psyduck; I have lots of friends and am clinically depressed. Ask all my older friends. Nate will tell you how I get.
Once you learn to cope with it you know how to help yourself out of it.
Have you tried adding body language on the list of "things you need to get better at in order to succeed socially?"
Why do you keep complaining about your life?
Quote from: Nyerp on July 06, 2008, 11:34:24 AM
Why do you keep complaining about your life?
Because he needs help fixing it?
Rae is depressed?
Also, confidence and a positive attitude is all you need. Have the right combination and you can even be content shoveling shit. You don't necessarily need others to enjoy things and or have a good time.
I think you haven't found people you like to hang out with yet.
Life isn't about being proper, if you don't feel like saying thank you, then don't. I actually do say thank you a lot and I like when I do something and someone says thank you back but if they don't mean it, I'd rather them not.
Explore your classrooms and find people you share the same ideas with and try to hang out with them. I think friends really fall into place, not really something you can force.
Quote from: Socks on July 06, 2008, 02:17:54 PM
Rae is depressed?
Hard to believe sometimes isn't it? I rarely show it any more. powerofone;