this video reminded me of you

[??????]

you
http://vimeo.com/28466163

[Boogus Epirus Aurelius]

My favoirte video is invalid youtube link

[Mando Pandango]

Just read the description and yup that's me

[??????]

My favoirte video is invalid youtube link

shut the fuck up

Just read the description and yup that's me

you seem ~funny~ and decent looking though

[silvertone]

sex is the most overhyped thing, i dont even need to try it to know it will not be that good.

[Thyme]

rofl love-shy
haven't seen that word in a while

[C.Mongler]

this is my life 

[Mando Pandango]

you seem ~funny~ and decent looking though

and incapable of talking to strangers, let alone women

so

[??????]

and incapable of talking to strangers, let alone women

so

but you talked to snowy and he's almost looks like a woman :'(

[Mando Pandango]

but he wasn't a stranger!

[Snowy]

but you talked to snowy and he's almost looks like a woman :'(

No I don't.

[Daddy]

i have the opposite problem

[Socks]

First of all, fuck the demeaning and negative connotation directed in the title of the thread and implied held by the author.

and incapable of talking to strangers, let alone women

so

Now, I know you didn't ask me a question or anything. But I will use your little inspiration in order to post a long ass reply.

I don't have an issue with the talking part, but I never think that the conversation or what is said will ultimately matter as far as I and said person is concerned. So I'm liable to say anything, from silence to outright bullshit. And that's because I don't generally get close with people. I know people that I consider friends, and I socialize with them, sure, but I think of them through association. Though this is not a negative in my mind. It means that I don't expect them to keep in touch should the circumstances change. And in turn, this largely absolves me of any obligation that I would have to uphold. It's not meant to sound cold. I just don't really pursue personal relations with anyone outside of my family. And I certainly don't think I could tell a friend that he is family. I may treat them that way, but I cannot call them that. I can conceive how and why someone might feel that a friend of theirs is their family. I can also anticipate that some people reading this will dismiss or not put such emphasis on family. Ultimately that's because in both cases they most likely didn't have one. I think because we can live alone if we want and practically wherever we want, in a population that is much greater and much more greatly connected, where different and unfamiliar people are easy to meet, people forget that we are still clannish creatures. It is no accident that even in the modern world, turbulent as it is, the nuclear family is the basis for all society. Friends are luxury in comparison.

Women are another category altogether, as you can't consider someone that you fuck or live with or 'love' on the basis of friend. It is something different, something more. A relationship with a woman is the closest relationship you can have that is comparable to a family. The basis for which is typically romance and function. Personally speaking, I am uncertain as to when, if I should marry, I will begin to think of that person as my family. She will be my wife, of course, someone I care for and want, and who I will live with at home or have lived with. But I honestly can't say for certain what I will think of them. And I hope this changes in the future, because it bothers me not to know for certain, especially when I consider things at length so as to establish them. Although I am not the type to ask if my approach is the right one, or if I should embrace another, because I follow what comes naturally for me. I just have to make sure it's true, it doesn't matter if it is popular.

As far as my relationships with women currently. It has become mostly physical and is intermittent. No more hopeless romantic here. I am different now. It is something actual I have become. I can feel it. I don't care for women the way I used to. They are no longer irresistible or pristine. I am not nervous or taken aback in the presence of an attractive woman, because I no longer offer them anything on the basis of instinct. Everything is deliberate, and with control. I don't feel I must make them desire me, so there is no worry, only a possibility. If they want something from me we can delve into the details and I'll see how I feel then. Otherwise everything is left alone and on a formal tone and footing. I don't feel a need to engage sexually with every girl I find attractive. I don't even see the need to tell them anything of the sort. In fact I am in awe of situations where the girls I interact with are unsure as to why I don't approach them like most guys they've encountered. It's as if they expect me to read off a common script,  and it confuses them when the lines are different. I refuse to undertake measures to simply fuck a girl or have her suck my dick. It is unnecessary and compromising. I no longer have issues with casual sex. It doesn't cause attachment like it used to, because my feelings and outlook is not the same. I no longer consider it sinful or impure. Just a choice. But it is not an equal choice. I am willing to fuck someone that I do not know, because I am a man, so the act will always give me control. I lose nothing. The woman on the other hand has lost it all. If she does not realize this she is unknowingly confused, if she does but does not care then she is a whore. Yes, sex is a power play that favors men. Where women gain influence is in emotions and relationships, attaching circumstances and morals. Control all of these and she is left with nothing but a body that I can overpower and penetrate. I was always amazed to hear a girl desire or consent to such, and in the past would shy away from it for her sake, but now I engage freely and keep my thoughts to myself. Thanks for the bust, basically, and don't expect me to have respect for you. I don't feel bad for this anymore, like I said there is a choice. But there are still good girls in the world though, and of course they are worth looking for. I won't describe my feelings or thoughts as to what I consider a true relationship. Suffice to say I will make someone feel fortunate because of them one day. I will also say that what's described in the video is mostly bullshit, and stems from a person having never met their counterpart in emotional thought. If someone doesn't consider intimacy the way you do, then you can't successfully establish or sustain an intimacy with them that you both believe in or want. That's it. Everything else is a snowball effect and self affliction, caused over time and from lack of clarity or conviction about yourself and outlook. This can turn into an actual impairment toward interacting with the opposite sex, but it's not inherent, it is inherited. It's very much a chicken or the egg story, but with initiative and reinforcement. Too bad most of the guys in that video weren't born in a small village to make a peasant girl happy. They were born into a vast sin city, where finding your other half is like passing through a labyrinth. Getting stuck or lost is a real possibility.