OH GOD GUYS, I HIT SOMETHING DEEP WITHIN MYSELF.

[The Hand That Fisted Everyone]

So it's been six months since me and my ex broke up. And everyday since then, (sans the time I was in new york) I have thought about her.

But just now, when I was going to be a pussy and whine about it on the anon board, I discovered something groundbreaking that I think has caused me to get over her.

I'm not in love with her, I'm just so fucking scared of being alone for my entire life that I idealized our relationship and wanted her back. I created feelings of love for her long after they had died off. I suppose zombie feelings would be a good way of describing them. The real feelings died along time ago, but they're still walking around. A violent, stupid, destructive force. These personal zombies did nothing but cause me grief. The more I think about it, the more I can't really understand how I could have been with her.

Being single sucks, and I have tried putting myself in relationships though they were never quite the same. I feel like I can put myself out there now and break through to something fantastic.

"Whoah slow down there mr. feelings, what are you saying?"

What I am saying is I'm going to begin writing a self-help book entitled:

[spoiler]

SHOTGUNS FOR YOUR HEART

How to procure the tools for killing the zombies of your soul

[/spoiler]

all jokes aside, I'm so happy about this revelation that I had to tell someone. And I'm distant enough from you guys to tell  you. So here we are.

[Mando Pandango]

That's a pretty awesome name for a self-help book.

[Zach]

there is this amazingly attractive and charming girl in my archery class

i chatted with her a little yesterday. tomorrow i plan on showing up early enough to find a good shooting spot close to hers so we can talk more.

[mouse parade]

i'm making a sig out of your book title

[YPrrrr]

That is one good thing about emotional pain... it usually brings about a moment of revelation and clarity

Or a killing spree, y'know, whichever

[just1more]

After the last time I had a major crush on a girl, and kept trying and trying to hang out with her and thinking of undying love, I realized how immature and unrealistic I was being. I was being desperate, desperate for a relationship, so desperate that I assumed that any girl that would so much as flirt with me wanted to have a long-term relationship with me, and if that relationship were to never be, I would keep saying to myself that I would never get a girlfriend. God damn was I pathetic. It took me until this summer to realize that girl's aren't like that at all, and I have matured a lot as a result.

Now to answer your problem, here are a few tidbits of advice.

First of all, there are plenty of girls out there. If one or two turn you down, it's not the end of the world, and if you break up with one, it's not the end of the world either. We're still young and there are plenty of people you can talk to and start relationships with, whether it be for friendship, or for romance.

Secondly, as I said before, we are still young. We really d have all of the time in the world to start and end relationships. Sure some people, such as myself, may take longer than others to enter a relationship, and some people, such as Sid, may take a little while to get over an old one. But we have plenty of time to find new friends, new relationships, and maybe even mend old friendships. Plus, there's a good chance that future relationships will be even better than old ones.

Third, stop thinking back to the past. Dwelling on the past isn't healthy for you. The past has already happened, and there's nothing you or anyone else can do to change it. We are in the here and now, and you should look to the future for all the good things that have yet to happen. The only reasons you should ever look at the past are to learn from your mistakes, to prepare yourself for bad experiences, and to remember the good times.

Finally, stop thinking that being single sucks just because you can't always have someone by your side. Having a relationship does have a price: you lose a lot of your freedom. When you're single, you really can do whatever you want, because you don't have to worry about your girlfriend disliking whatever you do. You can talk to whomever you want, go wherever and whenever you want, do whatever you want, and flirt with as many girls as you want. And who knows? Maybe you'll end up in a relationship with one of those girls. Only when you are sure you want to give up those freedoms just so you can be with that special someone, do you know that you are truly ready for a relationship with them.

[Socks]

...in my archery class

what the FFFFFFFFFFFFFFFFFFFFFFFFFFFFFFFFFFFFFFFFFFFFFFFFFFFFFFFFFFFFFFFFFFFFFFFFuck

...and she could hunt you thanks to a top notch education in archery at an American university

[Minus;]

Wow well that does suck.
I have been single for a long time.

There was this guy i had a crush on for a long time, who i would talk to a lot. But he had a boyfriend, and he was 22. Being he was 5 years older than me, i don't think he'd want anything to do with me, but was still my friend. We don't talk as much anymore. And i rarely see him. And yesterday i was leaving my school, and he walked right by me and right in between me and the wall on the way to the football game. It was surprising, didn't expect to see him there. He didn't see me. It was odd to see him again. I always think of him. He was watching a relative who was on the team.

It sucks being so young, and liking older people.
And never having people you don't like, like you, but you like people who don't like you.
and awesome name for a self help book, sounds like id read it.
captivates you from the cover itself.

[Classic]

It's always the sweet guys like you all that have trouble. 

Just keep trying guys.

[Minus;]

Well ill never have him!
Thats cause hes the person i've wanted the most.

[Classic]

Well ill never have him!
Thats cause hes the person i've wanted the most.

My comment was really towards everyone, but still. 
Look at it like this. You'll never find love if you spend all your time searching. It'll come to you.

But that doesn't mean you can be apathetic towards it. 

[Minus;]

Oh well yeah thats why im not searching so hard.

[the shortest route to the sea]

The wheels of destiny will only turn if you keep dancing.

Dance, dance dance.

[Socks]

The wheels of destiny will only turn if you keep dancing.

and because where destiny is the laws of physics don't apply... or reality for that matter

[the shortest route to the sea]

and because where destiny is the laws of physics don't apply... or reality for that matter

I have this firm belief that as long as I stay engaged in life, take risks and follow my intuition / good sense / good advice from others, it'll all turn out alright.