Poll
Question:
I fucked this poll up.
Option 1: No.
votes: 4
Option 2: Yes.
votes: 4
Option 3: Maybe.
votes: 7
I really...well what's been bothering for my whole life, which makes me sound so retarded and such a pathetic person because everybody knows how to do this...but...
How do you make a friend? (Here's where everything starts.)
Even though lots of people say you don't need a friend to have fun in life, then what the fuck do you do when you have depression, is dependant, and have different views of what most people think about?
You see...I don't watch T.V., I don't listen to anything else, but Japanese Rock. I don't watch sports, I don't play videogames, I really can't compare to naybody or conect to anybody, since nobody is really depressed with the same problems as me... But wait, you don't have to connect to a person to make a friend, so what the fuck would you guys do if you don't have naything to connect to? Why is it, that I talk to people, but people don't go like "Hey, you wanna hangout this weekend?" and I would talk to this person a lot, to the point where we could connect to so many things in out personal lives, but then their other friends...come and then the person that I'm talking to, then I get in a position where I don't know what to do when they're talking about stuff i don't know about. In my school, there's so many people that have friends and know who's who and whenever the staff let's us do anything with our friends, I stay at a corner, just being depressed and comparing myself until I come with a solution that i'm too fucked up for this world.
So, again...how do you make a friend? So many people here have friends, I'm always clueless to what they're talking about, the jokes that I get and don't laugh at, and more.
But, now that I've shown you the worst of me, I think that sympathy will come over. Which is why, I wouldn't talk about my problems too much as this thread, until now. When I ask people for help, the challenge is over for me, when so many people have known to be having friends without any help.
God, I'm so pathetic.
I can be your friend :3
Best way to make a friend is to post on a Forum based off of a Video Game Forum
Same here man
Quote from: KonohaShinobi on June 22, 2008, 10:08:52 PM
I can be your friend :3
Sorry for my most and vulgar language, but...
Did you read the whole fucking post?
I DON'T KNOW :'(
Quote from: Original_MIB on June 22, 2008, 10:10:34 PM
Sorry for my most and vulgar language, but...
Did you read the whole fucking post?
Yes it was like," BAWWW I HAVE NO FRIENDS BAWWW YOU GUYS HAVE FRIENDS BAWWW BAWWW BAWWW HOW IS IT SO EASY BAWWW I'M EMO AND SUICIDAL BECAUSE I'M RONERY! BAWWW!"
The only thing you can do is try to make friends with everyone, do whatever you can
Well...It's kind of hard to give advice, it seems like you have people problems.
I suppose just being more out going would help.
Quote from: KonohaShinobi on June 22, 2008, 10:12:34 PM
Yes it was like," BAWWW I HAVE NO FRIENDS BAWWW YOU GUYS HAVE FRIENDS BAWWW BAWWW BAWWW HOW IS IT SO EASY BAWWW I'M EMO AND SUICIDAL BECAUSE I'M RONERY! BAWWW!"
Ok, then why don't you help?
Quote from: Original_MIB on June 22, 2008, 10:13:54 PM
Ok, then why don't you help?
I did, I offered my companionship, and I had a sarcastic post giving advise.
Quote from: Original_MIB on June 22, 2008, 10:13:54 PM
Ok, then why don't you help?
Because Kono's an asshole.srsly
Quote from: Cameron on June 22, 2008, 10:15:18 PM
Because Kono's an asshole.srsly
Quote from: KonohaShinobi on June 22, 2008, 10:15:03 PM
I did, I offered my companionship, and I had a sarcastic post giving advise.
baddood;
Quote from: Cameron on June 22, 2008, 10:13:44 PM
Well...It's kind of hard to give advice, it seems like you have people problems.
I suppose just being more out going would help.
Luckily for you, I can't ignore you because there's a malfunction in the forum's system. But, I've calmed down since I've made that rant to you, so sorry about that...
But so anyway, where the fuck would I start at? Maybe I would be wasting their time? I always feel like that way.
Quote from: Original_MIB on June 22, 2008, 10:16:25 PM
You should of explained, if i didn't get it.
"I will be your friend."
what do you not understand, lol?
Quote from: KonohaShinobi on June 22, 2008, 10:17:06 PM
"I will be your friend."
what do you not understand, lol?
No, your other post...
Quote from: Original_MIB on June 22, 2008, 10:11:38 PM
You shouldn't of posted, then.
Uh...talk to people? I dunno. But I can relate, everybody at school seems so stupid. Nobody plays games or listens to music or watches TV I like. Also, they all already think I'm weird pretty much because of my sitting by myself and not talking my whole school life.
suicide;
You shouldn't care if You're wasting your time. The only reason you don't have friends is because your too afraid to do what it takes to make friends, as i am. But I'm gonna try to change that when school starts up again
Quote from: Original_MIB on June 22, 2008, 10:17:52 PM
No, your other post...
oh lol
Also, get yourself out there. Get a myspace or a facebook and talk to niggers from your school. It'll help if you don't like talking in person, or generally hate people.
Quote from: steal on June 22, 2008, 10:17:28 PM
YOU have to take charge. You have to just man up and put yourself out there, don't wait for someone else to ask you if you want to hang out on the weekend, ask them first.
Just keep trying. Once you start to make some good friends, the rest just keep coming. Good luck.
Wait, why don't people do that themselves to me? Also, I'm really surprised that you know what I'm feeling, when you posted that I shouldn't be waiting. But, then again, lots of people ask.
Thanks, I always thought you were an asshole... (God, I had to post that, but it feels so fucking cheesy with being soft and touchy.)
But, sometimes, I think that having friends, is just so weak and I should go alone in any condition. But, I have to break this thought, so badly.
Quote from: Original_MIB on June 22, 2008, 10:15:59 PM
Luckily for you, I can't ignore you because there's a malfunction in the forum's system. But, I've calmed down since I've made that rant to you, so sorry about that...
But so anyway, where the fuck would I start at? Maybe I would be wasting their time? I always feel like that way.
All is forgiven.
I would say try to find common ground but uh...yeah.Just try listening to people when they talk, and this may sound stupid, but try to hang out with them and see if you like doing what they do.And even then, you don't have to have much in common with a person for them to like you.
Quote from: KonohaShinobi on June 22, 2008, 10:19:19 PM
oh lol
Also, get yourself out there. Get a myspace or a facebook and talk to niggers from your school. It'll help if you don't like talking in person, or generally hate people.
Well, without Facebook. (Also, I do have a Facebook.)
Quote from: Original_MIB on June 22, 2008, 10:20:46 PM
Wait, why don't people do that themselves to me? Also, I'm really surprised that you know what I'm feeling, when you posted that I shouldn't be waiting. But, then again, lots of people ask.
Thanks, I always thought you were an asshole... (God, I had to post that, but it feels so fucking cheesy with being soft and touchy.)
But, sometimes, I think that having friends, is just so weak and I should go alone in any condition. But, I have to break this thought, so badly.
Don't take this the wrong way, but it's probably because you're not like most people, and people tend to stay away from quite kids.
If anyone here is a social fuck-up, it's me.
Quote from: Original_MIB on June 22, 2008, 10:20:46 PM
Wait, why don't people do that themselves to me? Also, I'm really surprised that you know what I'm feeling, when you posted that I shouldn't be waiting. But, then again, lots of people ask.
Thanks, I always thought you were an asshole... (God, I had to post that, but it feels so fucking cheesy with being soft and touchy.)
But, sometimes, I think that having friends, is just so weak and I should go alone in any condition. But, I have to break this thought, so badly.
Lol, if you want to be a lone wolf and think of having companions as weak, what is this thread for, lol.
Quote from: Pyner on June 22, 2008, 10:22:11 PM
If anyone here is a social fuck-up, it's me.
This isn't about you.
The question in the poll isn't a yes or no question. doodhuh;
Uhm, I guess try listening to more music and see who you can discuss music with. If someone talks, talk back. Just don't let it bother you a lot because that makes things worse.
I have difficulties forming relationships and such, but it really doesn't bother me. Sure, I'd like to talk to people more and not bore them as much but I'm fine the way I am.
Basically try to watch some TV, read the news, listen to a wider variety of music, and things like that. I guess that will help a bit.
Quote from: Cameron on June 22, 2008, 10:22:37 PM
This isn't about you.
I'm trying to make him feel better. doodthing;
Quote from: Cameron on June 22, 2008, 10:21:47 PM
Don't take this the wrong way, but it's probably because you're not like most people, and people tend to stay away from quite kids.
Not really, whenever I was depressed and cired, was when the "popular" guys would come, they would try to be understanding, but I would laugh my ass off inside my head.
But, they did have something in common, with social problems, and I would get so...confused by it.
Quote from: KonohaShinobi on June 22, 2008, 10:22:23 PM
Lol, if you want to be a lone wolf and think of having companions as weak, what is this thread for, lol.
If you didn't read the last sentence.
"But, I have to break this thought, so badly."
Quote from: Original_MIB on June 22, 2008, 10:25:14 PM
If you didn't read the last sentence.
"But, I have to break this thought, so badly."
Why?
Quote from: Cameron on June 22, 2008, 10:22:37 PM
This isn't about you.
You shouldn't really make these kind of posts, it's really mean, and he could be the same person as me.
Just stop feeling sorry for yourself and be happy for all you have. Start thinking you can do it. go out there and just try to befriend everyone that isn't in the wrong crowd. If they reject you, it won't hurt nearly as bad as you think it will.
Quote from: Original_MIB on June 22, 2008, 10:26:11 PM
You shouldn't really make these kind of posts, it's really mean, and he could be the same person as me.
Lol
Quote from: Original_MIB on June 22, 2008, 10:23:59 PM
Not really, whenever I was depressed and cired, was when the "popular" guys would come, they would try to be understanding, but I would laugh my ass off inside my head.
But, they did have something in common, with social problems, and I would get so...confused by it.
Hate to break it to you, but those "popular" guys are probably just assholes trying to get you to tell you your "sob story" for shits and giggles, I watch stuff like it happen all the time.
I would actually recommend trying to befriend someone like yourself, they'd understand you and the relationship would build from there.
Quote from: I am Hiro on June 22, 2008, 10:26:27 PM
Just stop feeling sorry for yourself and be happy for all you have. Start thinking you can do it. go out there and just try to befriend everyone that isn't in the wrong crowd. If they reject you, it won't hurt nearly as bad as you think it will.
Be happy for all I have? I'd rather give it away now, if it weren't for some of the posts on this thread. Ha.
For what I have, is all a negative influence to my life and my process of thinking does so.
Quote from: Original_MIB on June 22, 2008, 10:26:11 PM
You shouldn't really make these kind of posts, it's really mean, and he could be the same person as me.
I wasn't trying to be mean, I was trying to keep this thread on topic, I thought he was whining just to whine, but he was trying to make you feel better.
I'm not anywhere near as much of an asshole as you think I am.
Quote from: Cameron on June 22, 2008, 10:26:56 PM
Hate to break it to you, but those "popular" guys are probably just assholes trying to get you to tell you your "sob story" for shits and giggles, I watch stuff like it happen all the time.
I would actually recommend trying to befriend someone like yourself, they'd understand you and the relationship would build from there.
No, you're wrong, but if we're going to have a debate off of this, then I'll just regret posting that.
Also, I think they would be too busy, just with other friends most of the time.
Quote from: Cameron on June 22, 2008, 10:28:53 PM
I wasn't trying to be mean, I was trying to keep this thread on topic, I thought he was whining just to whine, but he was trying to make you feel better.
I'm not anywhere near as much of an asshole as you think I am.
Then why do I think so?
God, let's just get back on topic...
You might think life sucks compared to others, but compare it to other places in the world, you are lucky. others feel the Same way, just do something about it.
Quote from: I am Hiro on June 22, 2008, 10:30:08 PM
You might think life sucks compared to others, but compare it to other places in the world, you are lucky. others feel the Same way, just do something about it.
I don't give a fuck about other people having worst problems right now, I'll deal with them when I'm done dealing with mine.
Don't feel like they'll just wanna be with others instead and you're wasting their time, you're not.
Quote from: I am Hiro on June 22, 2008, 10:32:36 PM
Don't feel like they'll just wanna be with others instead and you're wasting their time, you're not.
It'll always feel like that, I can't help it.
I didn't say to deal with theirs, i just said be lucky you don't live in a war zone
If they were your friend, you wouldn't feel that way.
Quote from: I am Hiro on June 22, 2008, 10:33:53 PM
I didn't say to deal with theirs, i just said be lucky you don't live in a war zone
I'd love that and switch my place for their's, if I was more pathetically depressed.
I don't think so. It would also help to get off the internet and make friends no matter how hard it is.
Steal wins this thread
Quote from: steal on June 22, 2008, 10:36:47 PM
Because they're either happy with the friends they have or feeling just as lonely and hopeless as you are. Sitting around and dreaming of better times and being confused about why you feel the way you feel and wondering what the hell you're going to do with yourself is only going to drag you further down, I know, I've done it for years, and still do to a slightly lesser extent. Everyone's weak. I wish there were easier ways, but the easiest way to make friends is to force yourself into things. I made my best friend because my mom made me carpool with him for 2 years, which I guess is more of a coincidence than anything, but he wasn't really what I'd consider a good friend until a bit less than a year ago. These things take time.
But yeah actually I was quite an asshole to you because I thought you were a fucking idiot, but the more I see you post about yourself and your feelings the more I realize how human you are, and how there's a lot more to you than I would have thought a few months ago. Plus I feel like I can relate. :(
Oh, so sympathy? I just can't accept it, but sometimes I know I have to for some reason. But wait, you don't even know me, so why should I accept it? These are one of the questions I deal with in life and that will always keep pushing away people, but I have a feeling it's true.
Also, you DEFINATELY have the same way of thinking as me, what the fuck. Really shocking...
Quote from: steal on June 22, 2008, 10:58:19 PM
Why should I have to know you any better than I do now to feel sympathy for you? Do I need to know you any better to try to help you? The fact of the matter is, I can't help you. But I can help you help yourself.
Questioning everything is what's making you so miserable. The sad truth of this world is that ignorance truly is bliss, over thinking your situation and the world makes you realize how shitty everything is, and how hopeless you are, which makes you miserable. And on a related manner, being a compliant slave to the needs of those above you is how you get by in the world, which is a lesson I've realized but refuse to learn. I don't know quite what I'm trying to get across here, but you really have to take things into your own hands, and agree to disagree with society. Believe it or not, there's plenty of people stuck in the same miserable mindset as you, you just have to bite the bullet and try. The world's a tough place, as you very well know, you can't make something from nothing. So do something.
I've noticed that too, that ignorance is truely...a bliss. There's just this other side of me I've been fighting for such a long time and sometimes it looks like it's right and sometimes stupid. But now I know that ignorance is a bliss and which is a sad truth, is that maybe I could stop people from coming to the same conclusion we've both had about this world. Also, I can't really believe it, that there's a lot of people stuck in the same mindset, everybody looks so calm and happy while I am always seen as a depressed person.
Also, I know what you're trying to come across to me, and it makes a lot of sense. I guess I'll try... I just can't stop realizing so many things and questioning why, why, and why? It's a really hard thing to get across from.
good job thumbup;
Quote from: steal on June 22, 2008, 11:17:00 PM
Well, as hard as you think it is to believe it, tough nuts, it's a fact, nearly everyone in high school is fucking miserable. Some are just better at hiding it and some are just to lesser extents than others, and some are simply too stupid to feel anything deep. This deep depressive pessimism is an extremely hard mindset to pull yourself out of and believe me, friends are the best remedy you can ever have. I hope I've been some sort of help to you.
am i inspiring y/n
You are truely an inspiration and you truely showed that you've been in my situation. But there's one more thing that I've realized, that maybe you didn't.
Ignorance, maybe a bliss, but it's not a sad truth. It blocks us from all negative thoughts, which we won't truely ever need. Also, if you've thought as much as me about life, you may know why I am a Catholic, and I'm not brainwashed.
It's because, we all care for each other, it's something that nobody will never disagree upon. You may disagree, but this will follow you throughout life. Somebody, made us and cared. I don't care about the Bible stuff, it's just that everybody truely cares, and nobody can't control that kind of feeling. Even animals, bugs...basically, all organisms.
So anyway, thank you, your advice has touched me more than my Guidance Counsler. He's awesome and really sociable, but he's so attatched to his job and it's not his fault. But he was, more clueless and you've only known me for...I don't know, and you got through to me, more than him. I say, that only lonely people that has gone out of this dark abyss and has been in there for 3 years or longer, should only be the kind of people who should help adolescents, not some inexperienced adults who read out of text books in order to try to help them out, but making it more worst. That is why, I'm going to be a Guidance Counsler, and some words from my current Guidance Counsler.
I am so happy for you
Quote from: Hirââ,¬Â¢O on June 23, 2008, 12:51:50 AM
I am so happy for you
Thanks...but I haven't done anything to start my journey, yet.
But, thanks for your support. We are kind of the same...I guess. Like me a year ago or more, you just can't put it in words, right?
Yeah, but I've solved it too.:) haven't really started either. i look forward to it
Quote from: JMV on June 22, 2008, 10:23:00 PM
but I'm fine the way I am.
luls, like punching your wall or cracking your phone because of someone is totally normal. <3
Quote from: Cluckie on June 23, 2008, 05:29:50 AM
luls, like punching your wall or cracking your phone because of someone is totally normal.
And that's just the tip of the iceberg.
Quote from: steal on June 22, 2008, 11:17:00 PM
Well, as hard as you think it is to believe it, tough nuts, it's a fact, nearly everyone in high school is fucking miserable. Some are just better at hiding it and some are just to lesser extents than others, and some are simply too stupid to feel anything deep. This deep depressive pessimism is an extremely hard mindset to pull yourself out of and believe me, friends are the best remedy you can ever have. I hope I've been some sort of help to you.
am i inspiring y/n
Well, I'm not really shy but I've been having this problem for life...just where do I belong? I can never find somebody that is just like me, I don't see how people have converations for so long...I don't see how people could be looking at their cellphones for such a long time. I don't like America's music or any other country's music, but Japan's Rock Music. I don't watch T.V. I hate MTV (With a fucking passion.), it's rare for me to laugh, I hate watching sports (I'd rather play myself, than being taking the bait.), I hate Human's Society (Fucking morons.).
I can't see myself in the future...
.... you bumped this :(
Depressed again?
Go see Wall-E
Quote from: Hiro! on June 27, 2008, 12:59:59 PM
.... you bumped this :(
Depressed again?
Go see Wall-E
If you really suggest this, then you seriously haven't read my new post.
Quote from: Original_MIB on June 27, 2008, 01:01:55 PM
If you really suggest this, then you seriously haven't read my new post.
I did read it :(
Everyone goes through periods of where do I belong.
I can have conversations for hours. It takes some practice. Be open to trying new things and new ideas. You don't have to like them.
Figure out a few interests you have and try to share them with people. Start small. Like on here. Everyone has something to offer society.
I never look for myself in the future. It never goes how it should anyways.
Always speak your mind. Always say hi to everyone you know well as they pass you. Ask them what they're doing over the weekend, and maybe you'll get invited. Sometimes you have to invite yourself to get places, like "oh hay coo can i come."
Good luck man.
Or you could make one of these videos.
[youtube]http://youtube.com/watch?v=6Bm26wA5tQg[/youtube]
Quote from: Clair on June 27, 2008, 01:10:57 PM
It never goes how it should anyways.
Actually it does, whether or not we like it is another matter altogether.
Join a after school activity
Quote from: Socks on June 27, 2008, 06:26:47 PM
Actually it does, whether or not we like it is another matter altogether.
So you believe in fate?
Quote from: Clair on June 27, 2008, 06:43:40 PM
So you believe in fate?
I believe that both my actions and those of others will have an affect on me that I cannot necessarily always control or desire. Whatever terms one wants to apply to that is their prerogative. I don't believe in luck either BTW.
Quote from: Socks on June 27, 2008, 06:47:37 PM
I believe that both my actions and those of others will have an affect on me that I cannot necessarily always control or desire. Whatever terms one wants to apply to that is their prerogative. I don't believe in luck either BTW.
Do you believe our choices can change the outcome? Or was that determined beforehand?
Quote from: Clair on June 27, 2008, 06:52:39 PM
Do you believe our choices can change the outcome? Or was that determined beforehand?
Ah, the paradoxes. Hard to say since I'm divided on the topic, I've spent many many hours thinking about it and in the end always come back to where I began, at the question. I do believe that we can influence the outcome but to what degree and for what measure I do not know.
Born alone, die alone.
Quote from: Socks on June 27, 2008, 06:56:30 PM
Ah, the paradoxes. Hard to say since I'm divided on the topic, I've spent many many hours thinking about it and in the end always come back to where I began, at the question. I do believe that we can influence the outcome but to what degree and for what measure I do not know.
I think it may have all been decided before we were here. The general course of life. We can influence it to a small degree.
Quote from: V on June 27, 2008, 07:02:31 PM
Born alone, die alone.
I hope I do.
Yes, I have friends and I have realized 90% of friends anyone has are very fickle.
You may hear the corny B-after school special advice of "just being yourself" will help. And that's absolutely right as corny and lame as it is. Over time you'll find a certain niche to fit in. It's how it all works. Don't be someone you're not. It'll only end up hurting you more.
Also, I thought we were pretty cool with each other. :(
Quote from: Socks on June 27, 2008, 07:25:08 PM
I didn't see this coming, hmm.
Ever watch a person die? Very sad and disturbing. I'd rather save someone that experience.
Quote from: Clair on June 27, 2008, 07:38:09 PM
Ever watch a person die? Very sad and disturbing. I'd rather save someone that experience.
At the expense of your own happiness during life?
Quote from: Clair on June 27, 2008, 07:38:09 PM
Ever watch a person die? Very sad and disturbing. I'd rather save someone that experience.
I thought as much but ever consider the joy you may have brought to someone during your life which death cannot erase but only help to make that much more important and meaningful? It all depends on your point of view.
Quote from: Socks on June 27, 2008, 07:40:37 PM
I thought as much but ever consider the joy you may have brought to someone during your life which death cannot erase but only help to make that much more important and meaningful? It all depends on your point of view.
Of course. That's why if I have a choice those people will not be near me.
Quote from: Clair on June 27, 2008, 08:09:34 PM
That's why if I have a choice those people will not be near me.
That would probably be more hurtful to them then your actual death. You can't choose whether or not to die but you can sometimes choose how you die. when the day comes if you are fortunate enough to go out peacefully I strongly suggest you reconsider.
Quote from: Socks on June 27, 2008, 08:12:47 PM
That would probably be more hurtful to them then your actual death. You can't choose whether or not to die but you can sometimes choose how you die. when the day comes if you are fortunate enough to go out peacefully I strongly suggest you reconsider.
Should I invite you perhaps? :3
Quote from: Clair on June 27, 2008, 08:14:36 PM
Should I invite you perhaps?
I have not yet given you a reason for such an honor.
Quote from: Socks on June 27, 2008, 08:15:54 PM
I have not yet given you a reason for such an honor.
Time will tell.
lol i shall be your friend. My senses tell me tehe type of friend you should search for is...An emo buddy!
Wow, MIB are you over weight?
Quote from: CMW on June 27, 2008, 09:21:06 PM
Wow, MIB are you over weight?
What the fuck? Get the fuck out of my thread if you're going to post stupid shit like your's.
Also, SNORKEL, you certainly know what I'm feeling. You're accurate as much as Steal's accurate. Thank for helping, to those who've tried to help.
Quote from: CMW on June 27, 2008, 09:21:06 PM
Wow, MIB are you over weight?
he is :'(
I don't have friends but it's a choice I made. I don't care and it's unlikely I will for at least another 5 years.
Quote from: Lawlz on June 28, 2008, 09:53:29 AM
he is :'(
I don't have friends but it's a choice I made. I don't care and it's unlikely I will for at least another 5 years.
Hmm...I just can't see myself alone.
Without anybody in my life, I think life will be...just pointless. In this lonely Summer, I've realized what future I would be having in the future if I don't act up.
Also, I'm not REALLY overweight.