About a week ago my mom sat down my brother and I and told us that my mom and dad are going to divorce. She was telling us that pretty much the only reason they're still togethor is for us, the kids. She said once we move out or go to college they're going to more than likely get one. She also told us how my dad got an attorney a while back and was ready for the divorce. Its not like I knew things were alright. My dad always came home late and sometimes never came home from work. (He owns a banquet) I mean sure, my dad is a good guy and so is my mom. I just wish if they are going to splitt hat they'd do it and don't think they can't because of my brother and I. It makes me feel like a distraction. I'd rather have them seperated and nice to eachother then fighting and mad at eachother. My dad has been sleeping downstairs on the couch for the longest time anyway. edumacate;
I know some of you here have divorced parents. How did it work out? Were things better or worse after the split?
My parents got a divorce when i was a one year old. I think its better this way. We would probably not have as much money now.
Quote from: Caz on January 16, 2008, 06:21:52 PM
My parents got a divorce when i was a one year old. I think its better this way. We would probably not have as much money now.
Well I don't really care about if we make more money to tell you the truth :P
Quote from: W4W1 on January 16, 2008, 06:23:21 PM
Well I don't really care about if we make more money to tell you the truth :P
Sux to be you then.
Well, a divorce doesnt necessarily mean more money.
The divorce between my mom and dad set a series of events that led us to have more money now for both my mom and dad.
I actually never lived with them together and dont know what it feels like to live with them together. The fact that they split is not important to me.
My parents got a divorce this year, which is great because they're a lot happier now.
My "father" walked out when I was two. baddood;
My stepfather(who I usually just refer to as my father when I post) raised me. My mother and he got divorced around the same time as my graduation from high school. I live with him right now. doodthing;
Quote from: Houdini on January 16, 2008, 06:29:49 PM
My parents got a divorce this year, which is great because they're a lot happier now.
Thats the thing. I feel like telling them to just do it. If they just wait for us it feels like the kids are just obstacles. I'd rather see them happy then together to tell you the truth
Quote from: JMV290 on January 16, 2008, 06:34:06 PM
My "father" walked out when I was two. baddood;
My stepfather(who I usually just refer to as my father when I post) raised me. My mother and he got divorced around the same time as my graduation from high school. I live with him right now. doodthing;
Thats pretty weird.
You still talk to your mom right?
Quote from: Caz on January 16, 2008, 06:35:35 PM
Thats pretty weird.
You still talk to your mom right?
some times.
she's mean to me.
Quote from: JMV290 on January 16, 2008, 06:34:06 PM
My "father" walked out when I was two. baddood;
My stepfather(who I usually just refer to as my father when I post) raised me. My mother and he got divorced around the same time as my graduation from high school. I live with him right now. doodthing;
I know, I just read your post about it and decided I should post it. I agree withy ou on how parents shouldn't be determined by genetics or however it was worded, I forgot. >.<
Quote from: JMV290 on January 16, 2008, 06:35:57 PM
some times.
she's mean to me.
Like mean the way parents are sometimes, or really mean?
Quote from: Caz on January 16, 2008, 06:38:19 PM
Like mean the way parents are sometimes, or really mean?
in between.
She didn't talk to me for almost a month. doodthing;
Quote from: JMV290 on January 16, 2008, 06:41:31 PM
in between.
She didn't talk to me for almost a month. doodthing;
Did she like stop caring about you? gonk;
Quote from: Caz on January 16, 2008, 06:43:56 PM
Did she like stop caring about you? gonk;
I told her to shut up and hung up on her.
Quote from: Caz on January 16, 2008, 06:50:54 PM
Why? :(
She wanted me to visit her and I was like "How do you expect me to get there? You don't give me money for anything." She then yelled at me.
Quote from: JMV290 on January 16, 2008, 06:52:39 PM
She wanted me to visit her and I was like "How do you expect me to get there? You don't give me money for anything." She then yelled at me.
Did you yell at her in Italian? befuddlement
Quote from: JMV290 on January 16, 2008, 06:55:45 PM
no
I thought it would be funny if you were all pissed and yelled in italian...
My dad's parents are divorced... It's kind of awkward because I like them both, but they always talk about how horrible the other one was
I always think that my parents are inches away from getting a divorce (They've been married for 20 years, oh yeah I have a 21 year old brother.) but they never seem to get one, they don't hate each other it's just my dad is gone 3/7 times a week until late, or never even home. He sleeps in the same room as my mom barley as well.
It seems like they're close to a divorce but my dad doesn't do either because he dislikes my mom, just because he runs a family business and he has a hard time sleeping. I'd be sad but not too extremely surprised if my parents divorced.
I'm sorry, most everyone's parents I know are divorced. Or at least 1/3 of them. Seems way way too often.
I really do hate it when parents say they need to stay together "for the kids." Growing up seeing your parents in a stressed relationship can be a lot worse than growing up without a dad or a mom.
I've lived most of my life with my mom, and I've turned out pretty well. For many years after the divorce, I saw my dad regularly and spent a lot of time with him too. He was a great guy at heart...he just did some things that he shouldn't have. Made some wrong choices. Smuggling drugs got him landed in an overseas prison...but that was after the divorce. However, him getting in prison seemed to be the most awkward part of my childhood, because it was basically the same time that my mom got remarried to a man who lived in Minnesota, but just happened to be working in California, where we lived at the time. It was weird not knowing why my dad was far away in prison, and I didn't really understand it then...but obviously it's all pretty clear now.
Honestly, I would've rather my mom stayed single and we kept living in California...but seeing as how my little sisters would've never been born, that's too selfish of me to really want. That stepfather wasn't much of a father to me, though I know my mom wanted him to be. He was extremely controlling of my mom and of me...and even now that I'm 19 I can't look at his face without disgust. The only people he ever cared about were his blood children, and because I wasn't his real son, I wasn't good enough for him. So he treated me like shit.
All things considered, my life seems to pretty well portray that us kids can get along fine with separated parents. Hell, it also shows that trying to get a new parent for your kid after a divorce can be a horrible idea too. I turned out fine, even though I hardly even see my dad anymore. Last summer was the first time in 6 years that I saw him...and it was awkward. And we haven't spoken since that summer.
Although, in your case, I'm not sure how I would feel. When my parents divorced, I was only a year or so old. And I was almost 5 by the time my mom remarried and we moved up here. I was too young to really understand or feel the pain. Growing up without a father is just something I got used to, I guess. Whether or not you can adjust to your parents being separated will probably turn out to be a much different struggle.
Um...wow. My mom just told me that her and my dad are splitting up.
I knew they weren't getting along as well as they used to, but...wow. I never thought I'd be one of those people with divorced parents. And actually, recently they seemed to be happier with each other. You never know, I guess..
Quote from: Pyrate on February 01, 2008, 10:04:57 AM
Um...wow. My mom just told me that her and my dad are splitting up.
I knew they weren't getting along as well as they used to, but...wow. I never thought I'd be one of those people with divorced parents. And actually, recently they seemed to be happier with each other. You never know, I guess..
Yeah, that happens. Pretty much everyone is getting divorced these days, so you're not alone.
My parents divorced this year too. It's awkward at first but it works out fine in the end, as everyone is much happier. Just expect your parents to fight a lot right after they split, because they'll both be really pissed at each other at that time, and you'll often get caught in the middle.
To me, divorce is a very weird subject. My parents are happily married, and so are all my friend's. doodthing;
Quote from: Hyper on February 02, 2008, 02:25:51 AM
To me, divorce is a very weird subject. My parents are happily married, and so are all my friend's. doodthing;
Thanks for your meaningful and well thought-out contribution to this thread.
My parents fight all the time as of recent and 99% of the time don't sleep in the same bed, but for whatever reason, I still think they're happy together. doodthing;
And even if they're not, I know they wouldn't get a divorce because they just don't believe in them. They believe in sucking it up, I guess.
Quote from: samsam on February 22, 2008, 02:12:27 PM
My parents fight all the time as of recent and 99% of the time don't sleep in the same bed, but for whatever reason, I still think they're happy together. doodthing;
And even if they're not, I know they wouldn't get a divorce because they just don't believe in them. They believe in sucking it up, I guess.
This is exactly what's going on between my parents... They just had a fight over the phone over which movies my mom rented... doodthing; My dad claims he just sleeps in the spare room because my mom snores, which she does pretty badly, but it's kind of disconcerting that he just started doing it all of a sudden
Quote from: Your Posting Rival on February 22, 2008, 02:15:23 PM
This is exactly what's going on between my parents... They just had a fight over the phone over which movies my mom rented... doodthing; My dad claims he just sleeps in the spare room because my mom snores, which she does pretty badly, but it's kind of disconcerting that he just started doing it all of a sudden
Quote from: samsam on February 22, 2008, 02:12:27 PM
My parents fight all the time as of recent and 99% of the time don't sleep in the same bed, but for whatever reason, I still think they're happy together. doodthing;
And even if they're not, I know they wouldn't get a divorce because they just don't believe in them. They believe in sucking it up, I guess.
I guess it's not the best time to let you know that's what happened in the year or two before my parents got divorced.
Quote from: JMV290 on February 22, 2008, 06:37:40 PM
I guess it's not the best time to let you know that's what happened in the year or two before my parents got divorced.
I honestly don't think my parents would ever even come close to considering a divorce.
Quote from: JMV290 on February 22, 2008, 06:37:40 PM
I guess it's not the best time to let you know that's what happened in the year or two before my parents got divorced.
They've said they won't numerous times... that doesn't usually mean much though. I blame Iraq. My dad has completely changed since going... He's really irritable and easily angered.
Quote from: samsam on February 22, 2008, 02:12:27 PM
My parents fight all the time as of recent and 99% of the time don't sleep in the same bed, but for whatever reason, I still think they're happy together. doodthing;
And even if they're not, I know they wouldn't get a divorce because they just don't believe in them. They believe in sucking it up, I guess.
Don't buy it. My parents solemnly swore never to divorce, but that sure didn't stop them.
Quote from: JMV290 on February 22, 2008, 06:37:40 PM
I guess it's not the best time to let you know that's what happened in the year or two before my parents got divorced.
Ya, thats what my parents always told me too.
Quote from: Houdini on February 22, 2008, 08:06:38 PM
Don't buy it. My parents solemnly swore never to divorce, but that sure didn't stop them.
Gee, you guys sure know how to make me happy. >.>
Quote from: samsam on February 22, 2008, 08:25:25 PM
Gee, you guys sure know how to make me happy. >.>
...Happy Birthday! doodella;
lol
Anyways, JMV, the divorce is underway. The first court date is the in the middle of March, I think the 19th.
Quote from: samsam on February 22, 2008, 08:25:25 PM
Gee, you guys sure know how to make me happy. >.>
It's reality. Deal with it.
Quote from: Houdini on February 23, 2008, 08:46:10 PM
It's reality. Deal with it.
...I don't really care, and I can deal with it perfectly fine, thanks.
My parents are happily married.
It took long, but it is over now. Today my parents were officially divorced.
My parents are divorced. My life didn't really get any better afterward or anything, honestly. But that's more because of additional factors, like moving far away and living with a terrible stepfather.
But I don't really care about my dad, so it's not like I feel terrible sad whenever I think about how they divorced or anything. It doesn't really matter a whole lot in regards to how my life has progressed.
Quote from: Sam on February 23, 2008, 09:26:07 PM
...I don't really care
Quote from: Sam on February 22, 2008, 08:25:25 PM
Gee, you guys sure know how to make me happy. >.>
you sure have a funny way of showing it
Wow, sucks to have your parents guys. Strong Christian fundamentals have let my parents live a happy life, not to mention they've known each other since they were children. I blame the divorce rate on the fact that most people don't get to know each other very well before marriage because they fake their behavior. Once they show their true selves it often gets uglier.
Exactly why I never do what most people do and fake myself. I take pride in being a pretty genuine person.
My parent's got divorced recently, but the only thing I've noticed is they don't talk about each other and my mom never did anything around the house.
divorce isnt a bad thing.
i wouldnt wanna be married to someone forever.
plus your parents shouldnt have to take you into consideration before divorcing.
your like 80.
and plus why would you want them to stay together.
there just gunna hate each other and fight all the time.
Quote from: bojangelsrocks on October 10, 2008, 06:49:44 AM
divorce isnt a bad thing.
i wouldnt wanna be married to someone forever.
plus your parents shouldnt have to take you into consideration before divorcing.
your like 80.
and plus why would you want them to stay together.
there just gunna hate each other and fight all the time.
I don't agree with your point of view.
I mean, if a couple grows apart and is constantly fighting, then yeah, I think it's better for them to get a divorce. Even for the kids, it's not healthy to see their parents fightining 24-7.
But it seems like you're looking at divorce like... something that's inevitable and no big deal. Marriage should be aiming for eternity (ot at least until death). Marriage shouldn't be "oh, I really like this person so we should get married and I'll divorce them in 10 years."
If you're not ready to spend the rest of your life with someone, don't amrry them. If something happens along the path that changes your feelings toward each other, then maybe that was inevitable. But don't marry someone just because you love them or are in love with them, There has to be so much more than that.
Unless of course you're just looking for a tax break.
My parents are in the situation of getting a divorce. They're getting the papers ready. It really didn't have a big impact on me but it sucks how I don't see my mom, sister, and brother every day.
I've never seen my parents fight... ever... They're so dependent on each other, I don't think it's possible that they could live without one another anymore.
Quote from: Hippopotamus on October 11, 2008, 02:56:26 PM
I've never seen my parents fight... ever... They're so dependent on each other, I don't think it's possible that they could live without one another anymore.
and this is why hippo is the perfect human being
Quote from: Sam on October 11, 2008, 02:58:08 PM
and this is why hippo is the perfect human being
<3
You're the perfect one, though. :3
Quote from: Hippopotamus on October 11, 2008, 03:09:20 PM
<3
You're the perfect one, though. :3
nooooooooooooooot even close hippums