growing UP

[ncba93ivyase]

I'm starting to feel old and I can't handle this shit.

One of my high school friends is already divorced and he's on the verge of suicide now. Apparently he also joined the army and his life is just hell.

Another friend of mine who failed everything in high school somehow became a programmer and is making decent money.

Everybody around me in college is getting married.

People are starting to have kids.

Everybody's biggest concern now isn't how they'll travel to some great city or get/create their dream job, but how they'll manage to pay bills this month.

Everybody who's going into a "normal" life is telling me to give up on my dreams and get a job "before it's too late."

People like Hiro are worried about ending up in a relationship with an irresponsible single mom instead of someone who actually loves them.

My former best friend is giving up on her phd plans and is instead thinking her mediocre job is a better longterm plan.

I can't let this happen to me. I can't become one of them. It's awful.

[Mando Pandango]

With the exception of getting married, everything else sounds like "giving up" to me

if you're passionate about something, pour everything you have into it and opportunities will present themselves. Ignore the quitters and do you

[Hiro]

People like Hiro are worried about ending up in a relationship with an irresponsible single mom instead of someone who actually loves them.

I didn't say this lol, I meant when I'm in my mid/late-30's the single moms in that age area will be more likely to be interested in me than women right now
Also I know girls who are now pregnant with their 2nd baby, and my sister's ex just got divorced

But yeah what Popsi said

[ncba93ivyase]

I didn't say this lol, I meant when I'm in my mid/late-30's the single moms in that age area will be more likely to be interested in me than women right now
Also I know girls who are now pregnant with their 2nd baby, and my sister's ex just got divorced

But yeah what Popsi said

i know someone with three kids and i don't know how many dads

there's also some "good christian girl" who literally got pregnant with some guy named tyrone. oh god this guy even looks like a tyrone. they'd known each other for a few weeks when it happened.

But yeah, it's pretty discouraging when everyone around you is giving up and telling you that you should give up too.

When I was in San Francisco for a job interview, my parents were "disappointed" because I was considering taking a high paying job in the field I want to go into instead of finishing college.

[Hippopo]

Finding happiness in the things you already have isn't giving up.

Perhaps being too idealistic in your dreams will lead to more pain when you realize you've given up more time and money and have the same outcome as those around you. 

In all seriousness, aim for something and go for it, but don't negatively judge those who change their plans for something more traditional.

[ME##]

Finding happiness in the things you already have isn't giving up.

but none of those people sound happy.  or at least, not happy to me.

[The Hand That Fisted Everyone]

In all seriousness, aim for something and go for it, but don't negatively judge those who change their plans for something more traditional.

this. people change and adapt and so do their aspirations.

[ncba93ivyase]

In all seriousness, aim for something and go for it, but don't negatively judge those who change their plans for something more traditional.

the people who give up on their dreams when they're young and capable are the same ones who will complain about trouble with bills and missed opportunities 30 years from now

not a single person i know who just settled for a crappy job were completely satisfied with how their life turned out. they might be happy with friends and family, but personal happiness and accomplishment is nonexistent

seeing people around me become the unhappy older people i used to know is painful

[Boogus Epirus Aurelius]

the people who give up on their dreams when they're young and capable are the same ones who will complain about trouble with bills and missed opportunities 30 years from now

not a single person i know who just settled for a crappy job were completely satisfied with how their life turned out. they might be happy with friends and family, but personal happiness and accomplishment is nonexistent

seeing people around me become the unhappy older people i used to know is painful

On the opposite side of the spectrum, I have a handful of friends, one in particular, who did take that early twenties dive into her "passion" and she quickly discovered it was everything she didn't want it to be. She's sunk into ugly debt and is back to square one and beyond.

The whole "follow your dreams" route is wonderful and all, but it's risky and dangerous and requires complete forethought and dedication.

The trick is balancing the idealistic with the pragmatic.  Who's to say someone can't re-discover and re-boot their old aspirations through a more traditional job offering in the future?

I know where you're coming from and everything, but you have to learn how to turn that way of thinking off in your head because it gets you absolutely nowhere. I was actually talking to Silvertone about this a few weeks-ish ago, relating it to how I saw a bunch of old high-school acquaintances in the bar and how they all were at vastly different spaces than they had originally intended. Focus on yourself, your own aspirations, your own place in space and how you feel about it.

[silvertone]

you can grow old but you dont have to grow up -american proverb

[Daddy]

I probably would have fucked up 

I recently thought of this: Even a year and a half ago my original plan was to wait until I finished school and got a stable job where the pay isn't too bad then get engaged with Selena.  This would have happened probably next month - December.

Shortly thereafter I started to lose interest and then things went to shit and it ended.  Now instead of that I'm attempting to start a new relationship. It's probably for the better but I did feel kind of bad about how those plans can change so drastically.

[Hippopo]

but none of those people sound happy.  or at least, not happy to me.

I don't think it was Lawlz' intention to make their lives sound happy to anyone.

[ncba93ivyase]

I recently thought of this: Even a year and a half ago my original plan was to wait until I finished school and got a stable job where the pay isn't too bad then get engaged with Selena.  

think about this: you would've settled for a boring life and instead you're making something more exciting

What bothers me is everybody settling for the path of least resistance.

also i just found out that some guy who helped me out a lot in high school died

people i used to know are dying and getting divorced and having kids. i don't want to be old enough to feel this

[??????]

i feel really young lol
my roommate is very nice and allows me to not pay rent in manhattan sometimes
but i know very well the pressures of sustaining personal housing in this city is incredibly difficult (since this city is increasingly catering for the rich and elite)
all of my friends that aren't rich live in closet-sized rooms with a blanket serving as a door or having no windows
for 600-900$ a month
also some of my friends' from NJ killed themselves, but I don't care about them that much because they were mean to me :'(

I ignore everything my mother tells me. She wants me to go back, go to a nearby community college and get a degree in the medical field to earn a stable wage. It's all so boring.
Instead, I stay here and get psychiatric treatment and analysis while cultivating my buried pleasures back again. It's been such a long time since I've allowed myself to enjoy simple things.

I get very sad when I think of other 20-somethings that already got their degrees or certifications, but then I realize that my friends are still shitty and jobless and aren't really going anywhere after graduating from college and are in the same position as me, who only finished 2 semesters lol
Plus, college would've made me more unstable~
Just look at Snowy :'(

[YPrrrr]

Hooray disillusionment!