Who here has good or bad parents here? Post why.

[Boogus Epirus Aurelius]

This is a strangely interesting thread although I cant stand the posts that conform to the general tone of "I hate my parents because they're annoying". How petty it that?

Jmv, I sympathize, but the whole "overprotective" thing....
As far as the ratings deal, she probably just had your best interests at heart. I guess I dont find conforming to those when you're younger as the worst thing in the world.
Same with the grades. When I was younger I never expected a single thing for getting decent grades. It's absolutly repulsive to think that some parents actually pay their children to achieve a certain grade or merit. What's that teaching them? That they should expect some massive reward for every little mediocre achievement they come upon. No thinaks. It's the general tone of society now; give me something for doing this......

Divorce, seperation and essential abandonment are especially shitty things, but you cant let those negative experiences mould your person. You should be using those tougher lessons to reinforce, not break down.  The best thing to do, duder, would be wipe away some of the bitter attitude and spread out socially. Your entire attitude depends on how you percieve the world around and the experiences you've been though. So, just tweak your mindset a little bit, tell yourself things really could be a hell of a lot worse (starving kids in china, Aids, the usual) and take a new stance. I'll probably get called out for my little suggestions, but take note my intentions were good and golden. Peace.

[bluaki]

Well, my dad left us before my first birthday and never has communicated with us since. I guess he's better than my sister's dad who has done the same but doesn't pay child support.

My mom sheltered me way too much (I didn't know what sex is until about one year ago). She also seems a little immature with extremely poor money management skills, trying to go out and do something every single weekend and bringing me along (We went places like the local zoo, Tampa Busch Gardens, Orlando Sea World, Florida Aquarium, etc. like every week), never planning in advance (so I never knew when we were going until I'm woken up the day we leave), keeping way too many pets, making the whole house a huge mess, and trying to pick arguments with my grandmother over ridiculous things. She spoils me with plenty of presents on my birthday and Christmas but those are the only two days each year she ever gets me anything and she never gives me any money to spend on anything other than school lunches. Instead of being too overprotective, she was trying to encourage me to do things like getting a girlfriend, going to parties, and having a large group of friends to go out and do stuff with (none of which I have ever done).

My grandmother has always been there since my mom can't afford a house of her own but there isn't much to say about her. She's a lot more responsible than my mom, paying all bills for the house (TV, electric, phone, internet, water, etc) and buying groceries for us. She used to work as a nurse from 2pm-12am every day but recently retired in December. My mom's want to leave the house grew after my grandmother retired because of wanting to avoid her. My grandmother rarely argues against my mom because she knows that it never can accomplish anything with my mom not respecting any opinions other than her own. She usually just stays home now, trying to make slight progress on cleaning up my mom's messes and often watching soap operas.

I think that my dad sucks, my mom tries but her personality messes things up, and my grandmother is good but not good enough to stand up to some of the stupid things my mom does.

Edit: I noticed I have a lot of parenthesis so I think making them smaller makes the post easier to read.

[ME##]

Instead of being too overprotective, she was trying to encourage me to do things like getting a boyfriend, going to parties, and having a large group of friends to go out and do stuff with (none of which I have ever done).

My mother is the same way and it pisses me off. Nearly every other week she's asking how do I expect to ever get a girlfriend, friends, or go to a party. And when I tell her that I don't give a damn about that stuff she says I'm lying and I'm depressed and should go see a psychiatrist.

[The Hand That Fisted Everyone]

My parents aren't bad parents, it's just my dad.

My dad is a huge druggy. HUGE. He first started doing drugs at age 12 when my uncle gave him some of his weed. He's now 45 years old and addicted to crack. he's been arrested under the influence many times and drinks to come down from the crack. He's also bipolar. He's supposed to be on medication for it but he can never afford it. My sister got the worst of his antics though. She's walked in on him when he had a shotgun in his mouth, she's had to drive him to hospital because he took a bunch of pills, and he's also been so high he didn't know who he was talking to and offered her some of his crack. His never been to any of our awards ceremonies or anything because he has "antisocial disorder" and never wanted to be around people. I've seen him hallucinate and claim there were bears in the backyard and spiders on the walls, and one time he kept trying to convince me and my mom and my sister that his dead mom was in the backyard. I've visited him in rehab several times, the last of which I found out that he drinks to come down from his high. He was arrested once because he got set up by the cops (in one of his stints of him getting his act together) for selling weed to a guy and was later convicted and served a few months in prison. He's also been very abusive to my mom, I've never seen a black eye on her or anything, but he's called her a bitch and pushed her around alot. He's done the same to my sister. I've almost gotten into a fist fight with him a couple of times. Now he's doing the whole "I'm sorry please don't divorce me I want to be with my kids" spiel and I'm just tired of him.

The only problem with my mom is that she tells all her friends about this. Why would you go around telling your friends that you're married to a crack head? Course she needs someone to talk to and I shouldn't be so harsh on her.

[Sam]

As far as parents go, I'm pretty set. Well, my parents provide me with everything I need, really.

The only thing is, and I'm not complaining because I was really never taught otherwise, but my parents have never shown affection to me or my brotehrs. Unless it was during a time I can't remember, my parents have never told me they loved me and I never said it to them either.

The only issue I have right now with them is that my dad's been neglecting the rest of us by never being home.. ever. He only comes home to sleep, and he's never helpful anymore. I do remember when ... okay, now I'm just rambling and I don't know where I'm even going with this and I have to go to bed.

SO

My parents are good, but I'm prety sure within the next couple years my dad is going to continue downhill and they'll probably separate. Personally, I think both of my parents are complete dumbasses, but I guess I'd rather have dumbasses than no-asses?

[6M69I69B9]

Update about my parents...

My mom, she may be hardworking, experienced, and fun sometimes. But, she just doesn't understand me. She doesn't know half of what's in my mind a lot. I've been so depressed that I had to go to Rehab, and I've talked infron of my mom, and she still doesn't understasnd. She always repeats "Just do something else." whenever I'm depressed, but it's not that easy.

My Dad, I don't know.. He knows how to fix and clean, but he's just so dense when it comes to emotions and knowledge. He's lazy and selfish. I hate him most of the time.

So really, they're not really good to me.

[famy]

My mom has these mental breakdowns and is a little emotionally unstable, but with what she went through (and is still going through) I can't really blame her. She goes overboard sometimes and she would beat me (doesn't happen anymore because I could kick her ass yay), now it gets taken out on the younger children and I feel bad for them.

My dad, while not being a completely terrible person, has done some terrible things and completely lacks a decent sense of empathy. He doesn't understand any of his kids or his wife.

Anyone can tell that the two were never meant to be together, and it seems like they're going to separate really soon. My mom actually did leave twice for a couple of days, but she's back. For the past two months, they've been constantly fighting and I really can't stand it anymore. My mom's even said the only reason she can even handle being around us is her weed, which really doesn't make me like her that much.

And they're trying to get me to pick who I'd rather be with if they were to separate, which is complete bullshit. I honestly don't have a relationship with either one of them at all, neither one makes an attempt to reach out to me (I don't try to connect with them either), and if that were to happen I would most likely choose to move in with my older brother. I'd have to get a job to help him pay rent, but I'd much rather be with someone I actually like than one of my parents that I don't plus dealing with their new boyfriends/girlfriends who I'm sure I'll hate.

[Boogus Epirus Aurelius]

Update about my parents...

My mom, she may be hardworking, experienced, and fun sometimes. But, she just doesn't understand me. She doesn't know half of what's in my mind a lot. I've been so depressed that I had to go to Rehab, and I've talked infron of my mom, and she still doesn't understasnd. She always repeats "Just do something else." whenever I'm depressed, but it's not that easy.

My Dad, I don't know.. He knows how to fix and clean, but he's just so dense when it comes to emotions and knowledge. He's lazy and selfish. I hate him most of the time.

So really, they're not really good to me.

How old are you?

You can't expect your parents, or anyone really, to understand every single thought and nuance that's flying through your hormone riddled brain.  It's called being a teenager.
Your dad may not be capable of really expressing his emotions. Why the hell would you hate him for that?
Is everyone depressed these days? What for?

[sans culottes]

My dad is really cool, basically.

I love my mom, but I also hate her. I could really go on and on about this. To sum it up, she cares too much about the small things in life, never admits when she's wrong about something, wants me to be what I'm not, is a bit racist, and also a bigot.

Also, lots of druggy parents here. I didn't expect that. Just about everyone tries drugs, I'm sure both of my parents have tried them but they overall don't do drugs at all.

[6M69I69B9]

How old are you?

You can't expect your parents, or anyone really, to understand every single thought and nuance that's flying through your hormone riddled brain.  It's called being a teenager.
Your dad may not be capable of really expressing his emotions. Why the hell would you hate him for that?
Is everyone depressed these days? What for?

Because, most parents always get to know what's up our heads, even especially when we talk to them, but my parents don't get it. Also, he's so lazy that lets my mom work and he sits on his ass all day long. Also, it's so simple to understand, everyone in the family is getting damaged by it, and they can take it, but I have a very negative mind. My mom, she is just so hard to get through, I've been saying it infront of her, even with my counsler helping her, but she still doesn't get it...

I like how you hate us for hating our parents, (I just hate my dad.) but you don't even know what the fuck is going on in our worlds. So, don't assume that shit.

I'm 15.

[Paul]

Despite all the arguments I have had with both of my parents; they treat me very well. My mom is typical. Tries to give me everything I want and the same goes for my dad. But I am not rich. I pay for most of my stuff and take it as a responsibility. They are awesome parents. i have no real boundaries. They have full trust in me and I don't get out much so they don't care much for my boundaries. They do try to set a curfew for me but that doesn't work out. Yes they have some flaws, but what couple doesn't?

[Pyrate]

Oh, I didn't know it was typical for parents to give you whatever you want.

[Paul]

Oh, I didn't know it was typical for parents to give you whatever you want.

I said they try. Doesn't almost ever parent want to give their kid everything he/she wants?

[famy]

I said they try. Doesn't almost ever parent want to give their kid everything he/she wants?

No, they do not. 

[Paul]

Oh