even though you guys probably don't care, it would mean a lot to me if you pretended you did.
so, i've known this guy for 6 months. dated him for 4 and a half, off and on. let's call him bob.
before i knew him, i had a huge crush on his best friend, who didn't like me back.
eventually i got over it, when i started dating bob.
so, i pretty much fell in love with bob, i liked him more then anyone before, and he pretty much meant the world to me. i REALLY cared about him, he meant everything to me. if you've ever been in love, i'm sure you know the feeling. the "i can't live without you, i need you to breathe, i'm only living my life for you" feeling.
well, we just broke up. idk, 2 days ago? but we were still best friends.
except, i sign on this morning and he's screaming at me about how i never cared about him and was always using him and i never meant anything to him and i'm not the person he thought i was and he doesn't think he can ever talk to me again because he just doesn't understand how i've managed to live with myself knowing what i was doing to him.
and honestly, i have no clue what he's talking about.
i'm like, freaking out because he means so much to me. i'm begging him to tell me what he's talking about, i'm so fucking confused.
so he tells me he was talking to my "best friend" (let's call her sara) and sara told him that all along i've been using him and i never really liked him and i was only going out with him to get to his best friend.
which is total bullshit.
do you honestly think i would have spent the last 4 months of my life completely in love with this boy, but i was just taking advantage of him? NO. i'm not that kind of girl. i can get whatever the hell i want pretty much, and i was with him.
so he's flipping out on me about how he never knew who i was and can't believe he wasted all that time on me and doesn't want to talk to me ever again because i'm just a bitch who was taking advantage of him for the past half a fucking year.
bullSHIT.
and now i'm beyond upset because truthfully this kid means everything to me and i'll always love him and i just don't understand how he could give me up because one bitch told him i was "using" him.
i'm not sure what kind of person he is that he can give up everything we have just because of one nasty rumor.
and i know i shouldn't care, and if he can't believe me then i shouldn't eve be friends with him. but he means the world to me, really. he does. and i have no idea what to do. i'm so close to the edge it hurts.
ok, sorry. i'm done.
can someone help me? :(
Well, I assume "signing on" means he's yelling you through AIM or something. I suggest you get him to calm down and speak to him. Just throw all the logic you threw at us at him.
If he truly "loves" you back, he'll understand and come to his senses.
Quote from: prettygirl on July 25, 2007, 01:43:45 PM
if you've ever been in love, i'm sure you know the feeling.
Nope. The only love I ever had was that for a computer.
For some reason, I can never like anyone more than "like".
*pretends to care*
Become a lesbian.
What did you to sara to deserve this? psyduck;
Typical high-school drama...friend gets jealous of friend's boyfriend and tells lies about friend to friend's boyfriend to effectively shatter any bit of relationship that was left.
I hear it all the time, and I can't believe that there are guys out there who actually believe that shit. No offense, but your ex doesn't sound like the smartest guy ever...but I suppose that when you're down, it's easier to believe something like that.
Like I told you on AIM, I don't really have any good or unique suggestions. I'm not that good at helping people out, because last time I tried to help someone with their life, that person blocked me on MSN, started hating me, and almost killed himself repeatedly.
psyduck;
But um...what can you do really, other than try your hardest to convince him that your "friend" was lying? You need to get him to calm down somehow...like Bassir said, use logic. Use bits of your relationship and remind him of how it was like, and ask him how that could've possibly been fake. You get the idea.
Quote from: Bassir on July 25, 2007, 01:48:40 PM
Well, I assume "signing on" means he's yelling you through AIM or something. I suggest you get him to calm down and speak to him. Just throw all the logic you threw at us at him.
If he truly "loves" you back, he'll understand and come to his senses.
Nope. The only love I ever had was that for a computer.
For some reason, I can never like anyone more than "like".
lucky you!
Quote from: Kaz on July 25, 2007, 01:51:16 PM
Typical high-school drama...friend gets jealous of friend's boyfriend and tells lies about friend to friend's boyfriend to effectively shatter any bit of relationship that was left.
I hear it all the time, and I can't believe that there are guys out there who actually believe that shit. No offense, but your ex doesn't sound like the smartest guy ever...but I suppose that when you're down, it's easier to believe something like that.
Like I told you on AIM, I don't really have any good or unique suggestions. I'm not that good at helping people out, because last time I tried to help someone with their life, that person blocked me on MSN, started hating me, and almost killed himself repeatedly.
psyduck;
But um...what can you do really, other than try your hardest to convince him that your "friend" was lying? You need to get him to calm down somehow...like Bassir said, use logic. Use bits of your relationship and remind him of how it was like, and ask him how that could've possibly been fake. You get the idea.
he signed off :/
i've been talking to him through texts and i sent him a longass msg on myspace with like all the things you said. thanks. :)
Quote from: SuperCluckyz on July 25, 2007, 01:50:51 PM
What did you to sara to deserve this? psyduck;
she's my "best friend!" so i have nooo idea. i think she just did it to let him know.
maybe she thought it was true, she didn't want him to tell me tho, he told me anyways.
ACTUALLY! sara is the chick mf was dating.
idk what her prob is.
i just sent her a text that said "you fucking bitch!"
she hasn't responded. hm.
Quote from: prettygirl on July 25, 2007, 02:03:23 PM
i wish.
Try and find out.
It seems like a pretty logical plan...
You're still just a young loli. "Love" rarely ever lasts at your age. psyduck;
Quote from: Lawlz on July 25, 2007, 02:06:28 PM
You're still just a young loli. "Love" rarely ever lasts at your age. psyduck;
how would you know?
Quote from: prettygirl on July 25, 2007, 02:07:46 PM
how would you know?
Because I've gone through middle school and I'm nearly complete with high school.... Anyone with some sense knows petty teen relationships are, for the most part, complete shit. You really shouldn't even begin to take anything seriously until about your junior year when you truly begin to mature. Even then, most relationships don't exceed a month or two. psyduck;
Quote from: Lawlz on July 25, 2007, 02:12:11 PM
Because I've gone through middle school and I'm nearly complete with high school.... Anyone with some sense knows petty teen relationships are, for the most part, complete shit. You really shouldn't even begin to take anything seriously until about your junior year when you truly begin to mature. Even then, most relationships don't exceed a month or two. psyduck;
i was with him for 4, i've never been with a guy more then 3 weeks before him.
Just act all cute and sorry. Thats how I had my boyfriend pity me and get over whatever I do. Or you could get over it and it may heal over time.
Quote from: Karachu on July 25, 2007, 02:15:36 PM
Just act all cute and sorry. Thats how I had my boyfriend pity me and get over whatever I do. Or you could get over it and it may heal over time.
hahahaa, smooth, lol. :)
Quote from: Karachu on July 25, 2007, 02:15:36 PM
Just act all cute and sorry. Thats how I had my boyfriend pity me and get over whatever I do. Or you could get over it and it may heal over time.
Yeah, because if someone loves you, they will stick with you out of pity. psyduck;
Quote from: prettygirl on July 25, 2007, 02:15:18 PM
i was with him for 4, i've never been with a guy more then 3 weeks before him.
I know a girl that was with her boyfriend for 11 months. Just right before they acheived one year, he just started acting like a complete dick toward her. He would laugh at her, push her around, and just be a regular dick. He was hoping he'd get some sweet sex for sticking around that long, but she was a christfag and wouldn't put out until marriage. psyduck;
Act like a bitch towards him and see if that works.
Quote from: Lawlz on July 25, 2007, 02:19:25 PM
Yeah, because if someone loves you, they will stick with you out of pity. psyduck;I know a girl that was with her boyfriend for 11 months. Just right before they acheived one year, he just started acting like a complete dick toward her. He would laugh at her, push her around, and just be a regular dick. He was hoping he'd get some sweet sex for sticking around that long, but she was a christfag and wouldn't put out until marriage. psyduck;
I knew a woman who was with her bf for 6 years. They broke up. She went downhill.
Quote from: JMV290 on July 25, 2007, 02:20:43 PM
Act like a bitch towards him and see if that works.
if it didn't, it would be a problem though.
Quote from: Karachu on July 25, 2007, 02:15:36 PM
Just act all cute and sorry. Thats how I had my boyfriend pity me and get over whatever I do. Or you could get over it and it may heal over time.
"Get over whatever I do"...you trying to say that you do things you shouldn't, and expect your guy to stay with you? If so, I just lost a bit of respect for you.
That's just bull shit right there. He dated you for 4.5 months and can't even believe you after breaking up?
Trust is big in a relationship. If he can't trust you, he ain't worth your time.
I'm taking a gamble on names here.
Bob = Rob
Sara = Tara(you said mf's girlfriend so I knew this)
Quote from: WrenchNinja on July 25, 2007, 02:27:57 PM
That's just bull shit right there. He dated you for 4.5 months and can't even believe you after breaking up?
Trust is big in a relationship. If he can't trust you, he ain't worth your time.
I'm taking a gamble on names here.
Bob = Rob
Sara = Tara(you said mf's girlfriend so I knew this)
nopeee, bob had nothing to do with his name, it was just the shorted, first one i thought of, lol.
that's what i was thinking! the trust thing!
i don't know why i still want to be friends with him when he doesn't trust me at all....
Quote from: prettygirl on July 25, 2007, 02:31:28 PM
nopeee, bob had nothing to do with his name, it was just the shorted, first one i thought of, lol.
that's what i was thinking! the trust thing!
i don't know why i still want to be friends with him when he doesn't trust me at all....
Because he's attractive?
Quote from: prettygirl on July 25, 2007, 02:49:45 PM
he's not.
Then just leave California for a handsome, kind and loving man in Tennessee. spam;
Quote from: prettygirl on July 25, 2007, 02:07:46 PM
how would you know?
Just listen to him, he's right.
I've experienced it, and it's horrible.
It just rarely works at a young age.
Quote from: Lawlz on July 25, 2007, 02:50:45 PM
Then just leave California for a handsome, kind and loving man in Tennessee. spam;
hahhahahahahahhahahahahahahhahahahahahahahah!
i love you lawlz wub;
Love is just shit rolled up in crap with a side of poop juice.
Quote from: Lawlz on July 25, 2007, 02:12:11 PM
Because I've gone through middle school and I'm nearly complete with high school.... Anyone with some sense knows petty teen relationships are, for the most part, complete shit. You really shouldn't even begin to take anything seriously until about your junior year when you truly begin to mature. Even then, most relationships don't exceed a month or two. psyduck;
hey whatever happened with eirika navi;
Quote from: Commodore Guff on July 25, 2007, 03:49:41 PM
hey whatever happened with eirika navi;
sir das mi poynt lol
Quote from: Trevor on July 25, 2007, 02:51:01 PM
Just listen to him, he's right.
I've experienced it, and it's horrible.
It just rarely works at a young age.
Unless you're awesome like me. spam;
Quote from: Kaz on July 25, 2007, 03:55:26 PM
Unless you're awesome like me. spam;
QuoteIt just rarely works at a young age.
emo;
Quote from: Lawlz on July 25, 2007, 03:52:19 PM
sir das mi poynt lol
lol
u suck at relationships spam;
Quote from: Commodore Guff on July 25, 2007, 04:02:08 PM
lol
u suck at relationships spam;
dis bitch lieks abuse das y she dint wunt me caterpie;
Quote from: Lawlz on July 25, 2007, 04:03:00 PM
dis bitch lieks abuse das y she dint wunt me caterpie;
My last girlfriend can't only like one guy. Dumb bitch :| lol.
This is a good demonstration of why I think all adolescents should be sedated and stored in crates until they turn 18.
Who gives a shit?
Tell your friends to fuck off and move to a distant country, living off the land eating squirrels and berries.