Poll
Question:
Asdf
Option 1: Talk it out
votes: 1
Option 2: Run 4 ur lyfe
votes: 4
Option 3: Idklol
votes: 2
So my gf today apparently took my old phone and charged it to read through my old text messages and found some less than positive things I said about her esp. when we were first dating. So now obv. she's pissed.
She has accused me of cheating on her numerous times as well and the deep rooted trust issues. I don't know if all this drama is worth it... she's the nicest girl outside of this too. Very patient very loving. She just cannot trust me at any point.
Should I run for the hills or try to talk it out
never understood why girls look thru phones they're just asking to get hurt lol but yea i probs wouldn't put up with that if i was u
Quote from: Travis on May 01, 2017, 08:05:13 PM
never understood why girls look thru phones they're just asking to get hurt lol but yea i probs wouldn't put up with that if i was u
for real
meh idk if she acknowledges that it is fucked up and you see promise in things like this not happening you should probably stick it out a bit longer
your mileage may vary
Idk I guess I wussed out. I had originally told her to pack her things but then being surrounded by all our happy memory momentos kind of made me back of so I guess I'll see how things go... probably not great.
Thanks for the input guys I wanted to make sure I wouldn't be overreacting
Quote from: Travis on May 01, 2017, 08:05:13 PM
never understood why girls look thru phones they're just asking to get hurt lol but yea i probs wouldn't put up with that if i was u
guys are supposed to be perfectly faithful
my ex looked through my phone when I took a shower and told his therapist lol
Quote from: ا,,,ر,ة on May 01, 2017, 10:01:09 PM
Quote from: Travis on May 01, 2017, 08:05:13 PM
never understood why girls look thru phones they're just asking to get hurt lol but yea i probs wouldn't put up with that if i was u
guys are supposed to be perfectly faithful
my ex looked through my phone when I took a shower and told his therapist lol
what a little weasel
Personally I would stand for this 0%
Golden rule - never but anything in text that you don't want printed in a newspaper. It will cause problems eventually.
Lots of women have trust issues. Especially if their man is an extrovert and extremely handsome. girl;
Quote from: steal on May 02, 2017, 11:01:07 AM
that kind of fractured trust is hard to heal in my experience
does she not trust you because of stuff that you did, or stuff that someone else did?
Other people. Apparently she is used to being second fiddle and broken up with for others
Quote from: FAMY2 on May 02, 2017, 09:39:16 AM
Lots of women have trust issues. Especially if their man is an extrovert and extremely handsome. girl;
b u l l s h i t
That's no excuse. Breach of trust is a breach of trust.
Quote from: Ｐｏｐ"ｉｃｌ...！Ｐｏｐ"ｉｃｌ...！Ｐｏｐ"ｉｃｌ...！ on May 02, 2017, 06:32:36 PM
Quote from: FAMY2 on May 02, 2017, 09:39:16 AM
Lots of women have trust issues. Especially if their man is an extrovert and extremely handsome. girl;
b u l l s h i t
That's no excuse. Breach of trust is a breach of trust.
Especially when I consider myself neither extroverted nor extremely handsome (regular handsome at best) baddood;
Quote from: YPargh on May 02, 2017, 07:53:12 PM
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Quote from: FAMY2 on May 02, 2017, 09:39:16 AM
Lots of women have trust issues. Especially if their man is an extrovert and extremely handsome. girl;
b u l l s h i t
That's no excuse. Breach of trust is a breach of trust.
Especially when I consider myself neither extroverted nor extremely handsome (regular handsome at best) baddood;
I'm saying "trust issues" aren't an excuse either. Just because you have trust issues doesn't give you carte blanche to shit all over your partner's privacy.
as a lonely basement dwelling kissless neckbeard: the fact that you've made this thread at all means you already know the answer to your question
ypr, if it's validation for the uncomfortable thoughts that you're having that you're looking for:
you have my full permission to leave her behind
we all know that you deserve better
Quote from: YPargh on May 02, 2017, 07:53:12 PM
Quote from: Ｐｏｐ"ｉｃｌ...！Ｐｏｐ"ｉｃｌ...！Ｐｏｐ"ｉｃｌ...！ on May 02, 2017, 06:32:36 PM
Quote from: FAMY2 on May 02, 2017, 09:39:16 AM
Lots of women have trust issues. Especially if their man is an extrovert and extremely handsome. girl;
b u l l s h i t
That's no excuse. Breach of trust is a breach of trust.
Especially when I consider myself neither extroverted nor extremely handsome (regular handsome at best) baddood;
I wasn't giving it as an excuse. Just a fact of life. Beauty is in the eye of the beholder.
break up before u get cucked
I cannot deal with sum1 going thru my phone
selena did it
anna did it
cindy doesn't do it tho so thats good
and gee i wonder which one is getting the marriage
how old are these messages?
i'd say that's pretty shitty of her and would expect a pretty good apology from her at the least
Quote from: ƕɾο on May 03, 2017, 12:46:31 PM
how old are these messages?
i'd say that's pretty shitty of her and would expect a pretty good apology from her at the least
Over a year ago
They were on my old phone so she actually had to dig it out of my drawer, charge it, and then dig back through everything.
Quote from: YPargh on May 03, 2017, 12:49:41 PM
Quote from: ƕɾο on May 03, 2017, 12:46:31 PM
how old are these messages?
i'd say that's pretty shitty of her and would expect a pretty good apology from her at the least
Over a year ago
They were on my old phone so she actually had to dig it out of my drawer, charge it, and then dig back through everything.
In your position, I would be fucking
livid.
You know what to do, YPR. I wish you and your future ex girlfriend good luck. wrench;
Yeah I know what to do it's just so goddamn hard. I am an utter wimp when the tears come out. We've broken up twice in the two days since but I couldn't let her get out the door :(
I have faith in you both. Just let her down as gently as possible. :(
u deserve better m8
Quote from: Majorana's Mask on May 03, 2017, 04:38:26 PM
I have faith in you both. Just let her down as gently as possible. :(
this is impossible IME. just suck it up and take it, all the bad feelings, thats sadly the best you can do.
she was mad at you right? i mean unfortunately thats just a personality flaw shes going to have to fix in her future, otherwise you have years of headaches ahead of you.
Quote from: ADX on May 03, 2017, 07:18:05 PM
this is impossible IME. just suck it up and take it, all the bad feelings, thats sadly the best you can do.
she was mad at you right? i mean unfortunately thats just a personality flaw shes going to have to fix in her future, otherwise you have years of headaches ahead of you.
Quote from: YPargh on May 03, 2017, 04:37:25 PM
Yeah I know what to do it's just so goddamn hard. I am an utter wimp when the tears come out. We've broken up twice in the two days since but I couldn't let her get out the door :(
lol aww :'(
She is obviously another candidate for therapy. She has been left before in her life, whether by friends or family or romantic partners, and she is deathly afraid of seeing it happen again. She does truly love you and doesn't want to experience the anguish of loss again and that's why she is so infuriatingly obsessive.
Which is why you're having such a hard time breaking up.
But she has to learn that so long as she keeps expecting the loved ones in her life to leave her, that's exactly what's going to happen. It's exactly what should happen. It's a self-fulfilling prophecy.
she is miserably lonely and afraid just like the rest of us but that
does not give her the right to treat you like her property, as she is perpetuating the cycle of abuse she learned in childhood
Give her some tough advice like we've been giving you fine folks here and say your goodbyes. Insist that she see a good therapist or physician, and sincerely wish her good luck.
She will scream. You may whimper. But you must not look back.
Everyone's a candidate for therapy, man. We've all got our issues.
idk man i'm pretty good
haha
right
not me im perfect!!!
!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!
Quote from: ADX on May 03, 2017, 09:14:06 PM
not me im perfect!!!
!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!
srsly
guys please take my """advice""" with a black sea of salt, i'm a basement dwelling neckbeard manchild who has never so much as seen a woman or man and i have no damn idea what i'm talking about
i'm just conceited, speculating wildly, and i think i'm hot shit
in fact, this unusual overconfidence is probably a 1.66.1 glitch
well the only counterpoint id give is that nobodys perfect, every relationship and every person is fucked in some ways and you just have to let it blow over you at some point. i just wouldnt want to put up with the "youre CHEATING ON ME, arent you???" conversations twice a year, its just not worth it.
that said i think digging up an old phone, charging it and reading the texts is beyond "personality quirk" and becomes an oh fuck this person has a real problem, do i want to deal with this for the next however long.
i say this as someone with a few occasionally dysfunctional 2-3 year relationships, so maybe i dont know with long term relationships. but at some point you have to ask yourself if this is something you see yourself putting up with long term. i think its too much, i think it veers into lack of respect which is a reaaallly hard thing to come back from.
spam;
You're right, nobody's perfect. Like I said, we're all afraid and lonely and are sometimes prone to being clingy. In moderation I think that is perfectly healthy and even mutually beneficial.
QuoteQuote from: ADX on May 03, 2017, 09:20:03 PM
"youre CHEATING ON ME, arent you???" conversations twice a year
Quote from: ADX on May 03, 2017, 09:20:03 PM
that said i think digging up an old phone, charging it and reading the texts is beyond "personality quirk" and becomes an oh fuck this person has a real problem, do i want to deal with this for the next however long.
But THIS is detrimental. It is, quite literally, by official DSMV definition, a mental disorder.
Quote from: https://www.psychologytoday.com/blog/rethinking-psychology/201307/the-new-definition-mental-disorderA mental disorder is a syndrome characterized by clinically significant disturbance in an individual's cognition, emotion regulation, or behavior that reflects a dysfunction in the psychological, biological, or developmental processes underlying mental functioning. Mental disorders are usually associated with significant distress in social, occupational, or other important activities. An expectable or culturally approved response to a common stressor or loss, such as the death of a loved one, is not a mental disorder. Socially deviant behavior (e.g., political, religious, or sexual) and conflicts that are primarily between the individual and society are not mental disorders unless the deviance or conflict results from a dysfunction in the individual, as described above.
www.dsm5.org/
Quote from: ADX on May 03, 2017, 09:20:03 PM
i say this as someone with a few occasionally dysfunctional 2-3 year relationships, so maybe i dont know with long term relationships. but at some point you have to ask yourself if this is something you see yourself putting up with long term. i think its too much, i think it veers into lack of respect which is a reaaallly hard thing to come back from.
i say this as someone whose only dysfunctional 24-yr relationship is that with ximself
tbh people who read thro other peoples messages are bitches. it's a pointless game and u just gonna hurt yoself. like who doesn't talk shit about someone they know, i whine about petty shit people i know do all the time, but ITS CALLED VENTING, and i know they do it to me too but its a part of life, i don't gotta know about it tho and its all good good
but if shes going to those lengths to find something to be upset about, problem is her not you bro
Quote from: Majorana's Mask on May 03, 2017, 09:15:21 PM
guys please take my """advice""" with a black sea of salt
so i actually meant
dead sea here
https://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/Dead_Sea#Chemistry
if that mistake isn't evidence enough that i have no idea what i'm talking about and no place in these sorts of threads, idk what to tell ya
Quote from: FAMY2 on May 02, 2017, 09:39:16 AM
Golden rule - never but anything in text that you don't want printed in a newspaper. It will cause problems eventually.
Lots of women have trust issues. Especially if their man is an extrovert and extremely handsome. girl;
does boyah count???? if so i am fkd i whine so much on boyah lol
one day felt is going to publish this entire website as a memoir with our screen names replaced with our full legal names, social security numbers, and addresses, so yeah yer fukd
oh no now everyone's gonna know about my TINY DICK
i've got about 4.2 inches to my name, so i'm nearly average and proud
[spoiler]
...you measure from the end of the tailbone, right[/spoiler]
Quote from: Majorana's Mask on May 05, 2017, 01:47:13 PM
i've got about 4.2 inches to my name, so i'm nearly average and proud
[spoiler]
...you measure from the end of the tailbone, right[/spoiler]
measurements should always start at the cervix actually
ah, makes sense
now where's my speculum
ypr has your future ex accepted your unfriend request yet
lol compared to what i've had to put up with here thats easily forgettable but annoying, i've forgotten what decent behavior is
but if its over a year ago why would she even be upset
Women never forget. What you said 10 years ago still matters. girl;
if what ræ says is true, then get as far away from her as possible, ypr
Yes that is exactly what I am worried about
Especially since the text messages said she was fat (i mean she was) so here come the self esteem and eating disorders that are all blamed on me >.<
good lord
Ikr awdood;
now's a good time to get her into feedism hocuspocus;
(sorry)
Quote from: Thyme on May 11, 2017, 09:46:28 AM
now's a good time to get her into feedism hocuspocus;
(sorry)
I'm pretty sure I ruined any chance at that sorry Thyme she's going the other way saddood;
Quote from: Thyme on May 11, 2017, 09:46:28 AM
now's a good time to get her into feedism hocuspocus;
(sorry)
good lord
well YPR didja do it??
Know how that goes lol
GL
dump her
and then clean your room
she will soon learn that a ypr breakup is meaningless and then when you really do it, she won't take you seriously at all
and then you'll have a mentally unstable stalker situation
for ten years, like ræ said
Quote from: Majorana's Mask on May 11, 2017, 04:07:38 PM
she will soon learn that a ypr breakup is meaningless and then when you really do it, she won't take you seriously at all
and then you'll have a mentally unstable stalker situation
for ten years, like ræ said
this
baddood;
Guess I'll just have to move far away or get married to her then n_u
Quote from: YPargh on May 11, 2017, 04:18:41 PM
Guess I'll just have to move far away or get married to her then n_u
clean your room right now
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Quote from: YPargh on May 11, 2017, 04:18:41 PM
Guess I'll just have to move far away or get married to her then n_u
clean your room right now
she cleans my room usually though saddood;
Quote from: YPargh on May 11, 2017, 04:18:41 PM
Guess I'll just have to move far away or get married to her then n_u
she can and will move too, you know :|
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Guess I'll just have to move far away or get married to her then n_u
clean your room right now
she cleans my room usually though saddood;
good lord
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Quote from: YPargh on May 11, 2017, 04:18:41 PM
Guess I'll just have to move far away or get married to her then n_u
clean your room right now
she cleans my room usually though saddood;
CLEAN YOUR ROOM
NOW
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Guess I'll just have to move far away or get married to her then n_u
clean your room right now
she cleans my room usually though saddood;
CLEAN YOUR ROOM
NOW
I Don't even think it's that dirty :(
Itt the beauty of Mexican traditional values: she cooks, she cleans, she's insanely jealous.
All very typical I am told by my male Mexican co-workers
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Guess I'll just have to move far away or get married to her then n_u
clean your room right now
she cleans my room usually though saddood;
CLEAN YOUR ROOM
NOW
I Don't even think it's that dirty :(
i can tell it is
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Guess I'll just have to move far away or get married to her then n_u
clean your room right now
she cleans my room usually though saddood;
CLEAN YOUR ROOM
NOW
I Don't even think it's that dirty :(
i can tell it is
I just have s few shirts and shorts on the floor that's it >.<
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Guess I'll just have to move far away or get married to her then n_u
clean your room right now
she cleans my room usually though saddood;
CLEAN YOUR ROOM
NOW
I Don't even think it's that dirty :(
i can tell it is
I just have s few shirts and shorts on the floor that's it >.<
ypr
clean your fucking room
you will know the answer
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Guess I'll just have to move far away or get married to her then n_u
clean your room right now
she cleans my room usually though saddood;
CLEAN YOUR ROOM
NOW
I Don't even think it's that dirty :(
it will be very soon
Quote from: YPargh on May 11, 2017, 04:49:52 PM
Itt the beauty of Mexican traditional values: she cooks, she cleans, she's insanely jealous.
All very typical I am told by my male Mexican co-workers
give the president her address and your break up will be solved for you
Quote from: YPargh on May 11, 2017, 04:49:52 PM
Itt the beauty of Mexican traditional values: she cooks, she cleans, she's insanely jealous.
All very typical I am told by my male Mexican co-workers
TIL my gf is mexican
Quote from: antmaster5000 on May 12, 2017, 09:57:04 AM
Quote from: YPargh on May 11, 2017, 04:49:52 PM
Itt the beauty of Mexican traditional values: she cooks, she cleans, she's insanely jealous.
All very typical I am told by my male Mexican co-workers
TIL my gf is mexican
You are a mostly lucky man n_u
Quote from: YPargh on May 12, 2017, 10:08:18 AM
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Quote from: YPargh on May 11, 2017, 04:49:52 PM
Itt the beauty of Mexican traditional values: she cooks, she cleans, she's insanely jealous.
All very typical I am told by my male Mexican co-workers
TIL my gf is mexican
You are a mostly lucky man n_u
yeah despite the amount of bitching i do on boyah about my relationship lindsay is a good gf
but sometimes she needs to friggin chill out lol
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Itt the beauty of Mexican traditional values: she cooks, she cleans, she's insanely jealous.
All very typical I am told by my male Mexican co-workers
TIL my gf is mexican
You are a mostly lucky man n_u
yeah despite the amount of bitching i do on boyah about my relationship lindsay is a good gf
but sometimes she needs to friggin chill out lol
bitch shut up and hit this blunt - Strongbad 2017
>current year
>aubrey still doesn't vape
weed mints are the new meta
Quote from: David on May 12, 2017, 10:47:26 AM
>current year
>aubrey still doesn't vape
I hit a volcano back in 2008 baddood;
But I don't want to be involved in that vape scene it's so pretentious
Quote from: YPargh on May 12, 2017, 10:50:58 AM
pretentious
but marine le pen vapes
(http://i.imgur.com/ZCiRY6G.jpg)
Quote from: Majorana's Mask on May 12, 2017, 10:52:44 AM
Quote from: YPargh on May 12, 2017, 10:50:58 AM
pretentious
but marine le pen vapes
(http://i.imgur.com/ZCiRY6G.jpg)
I Don't really need any more addictive things in my life I've already ruined it with the internet kthx
Quote from: Snowy on May 11, 2017, 05:03:10 PM
Quote from: FAMY2 on May 11, 2017, 07:17:23 AM
Women never forget. What you said 10 years ago still matters. girl;
Gina remembers shit I said to her/about her on NS2 when we first met almost 10 years ago. awdood;
It's a girl thing. We all do it so beware. I remember everything people say to me. :3
now i'm scared
how do you use that information
Mostly in a good way. I can remember what people like and don't like especially food.
But if you talk about me behind my back or mean I remember. And some day it will come up in a conversation and I will remind you how cruel it was and how I was hurt. And this will be you. smth; smth;
lol
Today she joked that she was eating for two and I nearly died
lord god i pray i've never misspoken about ræ
Quote from: YPargh on May 16, 2017, 04:04:29 PM
Today she joked that she was eating for two and I nearly died
talk about a double whammy
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Quote from: YPargh on May 16, 2017, 04:04:29 PM
Today she joked that she was eating for two and I nearly died
talk about a double whammy
I asked for clarification and she explained she was implying she was pregnant which did not help >_<'
rofl
why in god's name are you still talking to her
Quote from: FAMY2 on May 16, 2017, 03:33:49 PM
But if you talk about me behind my back or mean I remember. And some day it will come up in a conversation and I will remind you how cruel it was and how I was hurt. And this will be you. smth; smth;
lol
same
but i'm vindicative as fuck so
Quote from: Majorana's Mask on May 16, 2017, 04:12:58 PM
rofl
why in god's name are you still talking to her
idk she's nice and willing to do stuff I want to do
Quote from: Thyme on May 16, 2017, 04:14:46 PM
vindicative
i await your vengeance for this one
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rofl
why in god's name are you still talking to her
idk she's nice and willing to do stuff I want to do
welcome to the cycle of abuse
AHHHHHHHHHHHH NO SHE IS LATINA... U MUST REALIZE THIS IS NATURAL. I HAVE READ VERY MUCH UP ON THIS FROM OTHER FRIEND. LOW TRUST IS NATURAL, GENETICS, IT"S ALL GENETICS. U HIT JACK PAOT AND UR GONNA BREAK UP W? HER BECAUSE OF SOME TEXTS SHE READ? FORGET IT!!! IT"S JUST WORDS !!!
BREACH OF TRUST? WAT IS THIS ?? CIA?? FBI? YIPPERLEAKS? WTF? 2 BECOME ONE FLESH ALREADY, THE TEXTS BELONG TO HER
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rofl
why in god's name are you still talking to her
idk she's nice and willing to do stuff I want to do
welcome to the cycle of abuse
ehhhh idk about that. If it was abusive she wouldn't be so submissive about stuff methinks
Quote from: SVT on May 16, 2017, 05:12:43 PM
BREACH OF TRUST? WAT IS THIS ?? CIA?? FBI? YIPPERLEAKS? WTF? 2 BECOME ONE FLESH ALREADY, THE TEXTS BELONG TO HER
you right you right
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rofl
why in god's name are you still talking to her
idk she's nice and willing to do stuff I want to do
welcome to the cycle of abuse
ehhhh idk about that. If it was abusive she wouldn't be so submissive about stuff methinks
ah, the denial phase
i'm not going to try to convince you that it's now looking like a classic early-stage abusive relationship because:
1. it's not really my place
2. i have no relationship experience (wtf am i even doing in this thread)
3. i only have access to the few details you've provided on boyah
but i will say that, judging strictly by your comments here, her "submission" is probably learned psychological manipulation, whether she's deliberate about it or not
and the strategy has worked on you several times now, meaning you've positively reinforced her behavior
i will leave you with these and then drop the subject
https://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/Cycle_of_abuse
https://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/Outline_of_domestic_violence
https://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/Traumatic_bonding#In_abusive_relationships
https://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/Power_and_control_in_abusive_relationships#Psychological_manipulation
Lol yeah I think you're kinda out of your element. She's definitely not in the emotional manipulation category. I've dealt with girls like that, this is different. She just legitimately doesn't want to lose me because I'm pretty sure every other man in her life has treated her like garbage due to her weight and derived insecurities
Quote from: YPargh on May 12, 2017, 10:50:58 AM
Quote from: David on May 12, 2017, 10:47:26 AM
>current year
>aubrey still doesn't vape
I hit a volcano back in 2008 baddood;
But I don't want to be involved in that vape scene it's so pretentious
i hit a volcano like 6 months ago and got so fucked up that i ended up pissing all over the floor of my friend's bathroom
oops
wait, what
Quote from: Majorana's Mask on May 17, 2017, 01:11:24 PM
wait, what
it was when i made this thread
http://boyah.net/forums/index.php/topic,68430.msg1527746.html
Quote from: Ｐｏｐ"ｉｃｌ...！Ｐｏｐ"ｉｃｌ...！Ｐｏｐ"ｉｃｌ...！ on May 17, 2017, 01:09:49 PM
Quote from: YPargh on May 12, 2017, 10:50:58 AM
Quote from: David on May 12, 2017, 10:47:26 AM
>current year
>aubrey still doesn't vape
I hit a volcano back in 2008 baddood;
But I don't want to be involved in that vape scene it's so pretentious
i hit a volcano like 6 months ago and got so fucked up that i ended up pissing all over the floor of my friend's bathroom
oops
lol n_u
Dats me and water bongs no thank you I don't wanna die
knowing only one definition of the word volcano, this last page has been extremely difficult to make sense of lol
but now i get it
do you guys now understand why i believe marine le pen would make an ideal boyager
[spoiler](http://i.imgur.com/nC96M5j.jpg)[/spoiler]
Quote from: Thyme on May 16, 2017, 04:14:46 PM
Quote from: FAMY2 on May 16, 2017, 03:33:49 PM
But if you talk about me behind my back or mean I remember. And some day it will come up in a conversation and I will remind you how cruel it was and how I was hurt. And this will be you. smth; smth;
lol
same
but i'm vindicative as fuck so
God help any one who does us both wrong. n_u Tec you have never crossed me at all. :3
Let's keep it that way. :|
actually, come to think of it
Quote from: FAMY2 on May 16, 2017, 03:33:49 PM
But if you talk about me behind my back or mean I remember.
i do the very same thing
but that's because i'm insecure and anxious and hypersensitive to criticism lol 5thgrade;
though i don't necessarily
do anything with that info, except let it drive me insane on restless nights
One night it will drive you to the point of no return. lol
im so glad im gay sometimes
Quote from: the MIB the on May 22, 2017, 02:31:30 PM
im so glad im gay sometimes
see the clucky post
Pretty sure it's just a human possessiveness/jealousy thing lol n_u
ok that was terrib to say
but uhh if you can assure her that all of what you said in the past, was PAST, and that you clearly overlooked those comments you made then and still were in a stable relationship up until she read those comments, would it make a difference you think?
Quote from: YPargh on May 22, 2017, 02:37:44 PM
Quote from: the MIB the on May 22, 2017, 02:31:30 PM
im so glad im gay sometimes
see the clucky post
Pretty sure it's just a human possessiveness/jealousy thing lol n_u
found it
i said it really casually
but in the end yeah possessiveness definitely
and looking over the thread it seems i am damn late as hell lol
Quote from: the MIB the on May 22, 2017, 02:40:00 PM
ok that was terrib to say
but uhh if you can assure her that all of what you said in the past, was PAST, and that you clearly overlooked those comments you made then and still were in a stable relationship up until she read those comments, would it make a difference you think?
idk i guess that's what I'm banking on. I wasn't really into the relationship at the beginning because I was still hungover from my last relationship and I told her that upfront although it doesn't make my lukewarm attitude towards her at the time any better. That's when I sent those texts anyway. But then I got over my ex and realized I was hanging out with a pretty cool person. Nothing really went wrong until the reading my texts thing.
Idk I guess she put up with me for a bit so I'll give her a chance to get over her hangups too.
Although tbh I'm unsatisfied with where I am in life and kind of looking to move and she couldn't follow if I moved within the next 2 years
Quote from: the MIB the on May 22, 2017, 02:31:30 PM
im so glad im gay sometimes
posts like these are why i used to get you and adx confused with one another lol
Quote from: the MIB the on May 22, 2017, 02:40:00 PM
but uhh if you can assure her that all of what you said in the past, was PAST, and that you clearly overlooked those comments you made then and still were in a stable relationship up until she read those comments, would it make a difference you think?
but this would lock him into thinking and speaking about her in a particular way for the rest of the little remaining time they have together as a couple
or simply not talk about her at all
he won't be able to so much as mention her name to another person without cowering in fear over what will get back to her and how she'll deliberately misinterpret it to torture him
"he won't be able to so much as mention her name to another person without cowering in fear over what will get back to her and how she'll deliberately misinterpret it to torture him"
this sounds...good.