So i've been at college for 4 days now, and what i have noticed way to frequently is that EVERY girl is following around all these douche bag guys. You know the ones who slept with every girl at their high school?
I just want to discuss with others what you think makes girls tick and do things like this.
they show confidence or something, whatever the hell that is
confidence is to women as boobs are to men
Guys like stereotyping other guys as douchey, because it simplifies the power structures inherent in and consequences of masculine power-jockeying, and guys like hyperbolizing the number of girls with said douches, because it's a way to take the blame off their own sense of insecurity and place it in the hands of someone who may or may not be worthy of the title.
not really. way more girls asked me out when i was a dick than they do now, being a mellow fucked in the head rdx.
it's not as complicated as girls would like us to believe. at the end of the day we're all part of the same species akudood;
Quote from: RTF on September 20, 2010, 09:37:42 PM
not really. way more girls asked me out when i was a dick than they do now, being a mellow fucked in the head rdx.
it's not as complicated as girls would like us to believe. at the end of the day we're all part of the same species akudood;
regardless, it's still an exaggeration to put it the way OP here did, so i'm gonna have to largely agree with pqqu here
im an asshole but no girl likes me
I think i didn't put my correct thoughts into the OP,
What im saying is, is why do girls take a look at the guy, who OBVIOUSLY has no care for their personal feelings and just continue to throw them selves at guys like that?
I'm not speaking out of ill will but out of watching my friend just drop obvious hint after obvious hint to this girl to leave him alone. And she won't she keeps begging for his attention while full well knowing he does not give one shit about her in any way shape or form.
vying for recognition and affection from a source that does not readily provide it translates in the mind of some as an indication that such attention is 'greater' and more legitimate than otherwise available and genuine care. therefore such is preferred, greatly desired, and fanatically crazed over, with terrible implications for reputation and vagina alike. to an extent, it is an appalling syndrome.
Quote from: Sheets are Swaying on September 20, 2010, 09:15:37 PM
Guys like stereotyping other guys as douchey, because it simplifies the power structures inherent in and consequences of masculine power-jockeying, and guys like hyperbolizing the number of girls with said douches, because it's a way to take the blame off their own sense of insecurity and place it in the hands of someone who may or may not be worthy of the title.
You need to meet some more fraternity brothers or "bros" n_u
tell your friend to say it to her face, that he's not interested. don't be a douche about it, but make yourself clear, otherwise she might think he's just leading her on when he wasn't at all in the first place.
there's numerous reasons that are all tied in with one another
'assholes' tend to have a very aggressive narcissistic, manipulative nature coupled with impulsiveness and irresponsibility.
the narcissism tends to create this aura of superiority that immerses the asshole's personality with an alluring, exclusive veil.
because the man's made himself exclusive, this causes the woman to feel somewhat 'restricted'. she no longer possesses the subtle ability to penetrate his persona nor have the customary luxury of having the man reveal himself to her. the restriction of her instinctual feminine techniques swell up motivational urges, which sometimes tend to be very emotional and irrational, until they are released. (via digging deeper in the man's psyche to figure out who he is)
besides the man's superiority, he also possesses impulsiveness and a lack of control--characteristics that eclipse with the primitive, instinctual human. these characteristics lure in the suppressed, instinctual animus of the female in which she can find raw passion and creativity. a regular man, jmv for example, would possess a more 'conventional' demeanor. but conventionality doesn't always have a symbiotic relationship with man's primitive nature. to adapt to a civilized world means to restrain the influences of the unconscious, and thus start to lose their instinctual nature until they become neurotic and overdose on celexa.
assholes--like selkie and RTF--are in tune with their instinctual nature...radiating health, originality, and excitement. ironically, as suppressive as society can be, such traits are bathed with praise. this brings us to socks' post--because of the man's superiority combined with their group's praises, their exclusive intimate attention becomes gold in the woman's eyes. and because the man's now considered a 'trophy', imagine the amount of esteem/praise the woman would receive if she successfully tames the wild beast! she believes her love will help heal the wounded spirit of the asshole--she's more interested what the asshole
could become, rather than what he already is. of course, this usually comes coupled with a dependency issue where she cannot leave him (habitual, rather than love) and drawn to the male's characteristics that she herself lacks.
also blah blah reductionistic evolutionary reasons
Quote from: Sheets are Swaying on September 20, 2010, 09:15:37 PM
Guys like stereotyping other guys as douchey, because it simplifies the power structures inherent in and consequences of masculine power-jockeying, and guys like hyperbolizing the number of girls with said douches, because it's a way to take the blame off their own sense of insecurity and place it in the hands of someone who may or may not be worthy of the title.
yes
YES
me86s usually do this shit--minimization of others along with exaggerating their 'kind' characteristics protects their fragile egos. it makes them seem 'better' than the rest, when they're really not. since they believe their friendliness and loyalty is such a valuable trait, they expect someone of high quality in exchange.
if denied, they'll overreact and call them a stupid bitch or whatever for rejecting their 'eternal loyalty'
i pretty much disproving that men even exist
uh
i agree with clucky.
because assholes are real men. vuvudood;
Quote from: Analysis Paralysis on September 21, 2010, 02:54:52 PM
assholes--like selkie and RTF
Oh god lol you don't even know what an asshole is, which is surprising considering your past actions n_n
Also this is not a problem restricted to men thinking other guys are assholes... Many women find themselves asking why all the guys they date are such assholes, so putting this all on the male psyche is complete bullshit.
Quote from: YPR on September 21, 2010, 09:02:07 PM
Oh god lol you don't even know what an asshole is, which is surprising considering your past actions n_n
Also this is not a problem restricted to men thinking other guys are assholes... Many women find themselves asking why all the guys they date are such assholes, so putting this all on the male psyche is complete bullshit.
what made them date assholes in the first place akudood;
factors ranging from male physiques to the way how the male present themselves
of course, there's always the "
but i'm a smart feminist woman!!i will never date an asshole" but being in a state of hormonal rush tends to distort your perception which makes the man's manipulation incredibly effective
Quote from: RTF on September 21, 2010, 03:12:25 PM
uh
i agree with clucky.
shut the fuck up asshole
Are we talking about douchebags like frat boys, bros, and guidos or douchebags like 'oh he has a girlfriend and i dont he's a douche'
Quote from: Khadafi on September 22, 2010, 05:40:18 AM
Are we talking about douchebags like frat boys, bros, and guidos or douchebags like 'oh he has a girlfriend and i dont he's a douche'
i thought it was the former
Quote from: Analysis Paralysis on September 21, 2010, 11:02:16 PM
what made them date assholes in the first place akudood;
factors ranging from male physiques to the way how the male present themselves
of course, there's always the "but i'm a smart feminist woman!!i will never date an asshole" but being in a state of hormonal rush tends to distort your perception which makes the man's manipulation incredibly effective
shut the fuck up asshole
What makes selkie or rdx an asshole because I don't see it akudood;
Quote from: YPR on September 22, 2010, 07:06:56 AM
What makes selkie or rdx an asshole because I don't see it akudood;
doodthing;
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Quote from: Analysis Paralysis on September 22, 2010, 07:28:13 AM
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So you're just crazy and should be ignored is what you're saying
I wonder if girls flock to clucky confuseddood;
wow clucky
anyway, yea pretty much girls want what they can't have, and guys want hot girls.
That's all you need to know.
Of course I'm just telling myself that's all I need to know because really understanding girls is to me like understanding quantum physics. I don't know the first, middle, or last thing about a girl's mind. It's seriously the most fucking confusing thing ever to me.
And the fact that no 2 girls are the same makes it infinitely harder.
whyyyyyyyy >.<
I just have to go with my above average looks and my new-found confidence.
Quote from: Selkie on September 22, 2010, 12:05:28 PM
And the fact that no 2 girls are the same makes it infinitely harder.
But there are a lot of girls that are more or less the same... not that you'd want anything to do with them n_u
I think the main problem is that some guys try too hard to get a girl, while assholes typically don't really care and so come off as more natural and less awkward. Which is why some believe love finds you when you're not looking for it
Quote from: YPR on September 22, 2010, 11:40:32 AM
So you're just crazy and should be ignored is what you're saying
I wonder if girls flock to clucky confuseddood;
yes <3
they're as desirable as much as i desire ceratopogonidas
Quote from: Selkie on September 22, 2010, 12:05:28 PM
Of course I'm just telling myself that's all I need to know because really understanding girls is to me like understanding quantum physics. I don't know the first, middle, or last thing about a girl's mind. It's seriously the most fucking confusing thing ever to me.
I just have to go with my above average looks and my new-found confidence.
do you understand men as much as you do with women akudood;
ive never really been under the impression that i was an asshole and i havent been without a girl since like 7th grade
whats that, like 6 years
To be fair, quantum physics isn't that hard.
Quote from: Sheets are Swaying on September 22, 2010, 05:26:29 PM
To be fair, quantum physics isn't that hard.
yes because the mind of a woman is so complicated, nobody could ever possibly figure it out
Because they are more attractive and confident than you are.
Quote from: Socks on September 22, 2010, 05:31:24 PM
theoretically.
ZING
The concepts are fucked up, but getting there is a bunch of short steps that take less mindfucking than you might think.
Quote from: Sheets are Swaying on September 22, 2010, 10:45:16 PM
The concepts are fucked up...
oh yeah? i hope they're fucked up, i hope they're fucked down too, and maybe sideways.
Quote from: Socks on September 23, 2010, 02:22:06 AM
oh yeah? i hope they're fucked up, i hope they're fucked down too, and maybe sideways.
Nope, but they're fucked top and bottom. Charming, isn't it? Strange too.
girls like confidence, suaveness, outgoningness, humor, and handsomeness, and guys who have it all tend to be smug because they have it all and don't have to work for anything
Not all the asshole guys I know are good looking or popular per say. n_u
Maybe it has more to do with catching and taming the beast. Thinking they can change the unchangeable.
Quote from: FAMY2 on September 26, 2010, 07:32:11 AM
Maybe it has more to do with catching and taming the beast. Thinking they can change the unchangeable.
Finding the guy with an intolerable personality, yet confidence and good looks, and trying to change his personality in the long run?
That probably accounts for
some women who latch themselves on to these guys, yeah.
I think everything's being over-thought here. There isn't a whole lot to it.
I don't know why people are referring to "girls" as a collective anyway. When you bump into the stereotypical douchebag guy, the girls he usually attracts are often just as lacking in the personality department.
What the fuck my friend Jacob made this thread
He's not a douchebag but he gets a lot of girls, so I don't see why he's complaining
...:(
Quote from: Strongbob on September 28, 2010, 12:44:45 PM
What the fuck my friend Jacob made this thread
He's not a douchebag but he gets a lot of girls, so I don't see why he's complaining
...:(
does he rate them 1 or 0 when he sees them walking down da street
Nice guys, what you do is: be good-looking, mysterious, funny, and an asshole on the OUTSIDE to get the girl interested in you. Then, so quick they barely see it, you do something nice. She's intrigued, wants more. So you give her more, and at this point make it clear you want her too. Slowly. Slowly but surely reveal your true self to her as she falls in love with you and you become what she really wants deep down, while constantly flirting with other girls to make it clear that she could lose you at any second. Get drunk and make out with a random hotty 1 time, just in case. Look into her eyes as though you love her, but never actually say it. If she says it first, keep your eyes locked on hers and force yourself to throw up just a little so that it slowly runs out of the corner of your mouth. This shows that you too, love her, but could never say so. From here on out, you'll have to, and people may call you a pussy, in which case you just respond "You are what you eat." Which brings me to my next point: oral pleasure
to be continued
Quote from: Veal on September 28, 2010, 07:39:50 PM
Nice guys, what you do is: be good-looking, mysterious, funny, and an asshole on the OUTSIDE to get the girl interested in you. Then, so quick they barely see it, you do something nice. She's intrigued, wants more. So you give her more, and at this point make it clear you want her too. Slowly. Slowly but surely reveal your true self to her as she falls in love with you and you become what she really wants deep down, while constantly flirting with other girls to make it clear that she could lose you at any second. Get drunk and make out with a random hotty 1 time, just in case. Look into her eyes as though you love her, but never actually say it. If she says it first, keep your eyes locked on hers and force yourself to throw up just a little so that it slowly runs out of the corner of your mouth. This shows that you too, love her, but could never say so. From here on out, you'll have to, and people may call you a pussy, in which case you just respond "You are what you eat." Which brings me to my next point: oral pleasure
to be continued
WTF? lol never work.
Quote from: Khadafi on September 28, 2010, 03:31:24 PM
does he rate them 1 or 0 when he sees them walking down da street
I don't think so, since we go to different universities. However, I did tell him about the rating system and he thought it was a good idea, so who knows.
Girls generally don't like people for being assholes and people that consider themselves "nice guys" are generally complete dicks. I'd know from experience.
More than anything, women prefer guys with a "don't give a shit" personality. The less you whine and cry or struggle to impress, the more appealing you are to most women. Quit comparing yourself to other men and quit thinking you're better and things will steadily improve.
Yet girls have told guys they're too nice, you're like a brother etc.
It's not just a personal perception thing. Mostly I've heard from girls that nice guys are too predictable, boring, etc.
Girls don't like assholes per se, they just like guys that have confidence and know how to tease. Assholes have those characteristics by default.
Quote from: yoseph on November 28, 2010, 10:17:33 AM
Girls don't like assholes per se, they just like guys that have confidence and know how to tease. Assholes have those characteristics by default.
It's not even that, I think girls like guys who don't really give a shit the most, and those guys usually are assholes.
I don't think all girls like anal.
Cause all the non-assholes are nerds and who wants to go out with a nerd, you know? Well, other than girl nerds. :P
Quote from: cookieboy17 on December 14, 2010, 02:54:24 AM
Cause all the non-assholes are nerds and who wants to go out with a nerd, you know? Well, other than girl nerds. :P
fat squishy girl nerds will only go out with nerd guys because that's all they can get
I hope you're kidding.
Because we're hilarious.
Quote from: Tyler on December 19, 2010, 11:15:07 AM
It's sad, really.
it's sad because it's true cjlubdoods;
Why do girls like guy ass holes ??
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I'm tired of seeing this thread in "Serious" Discussion. argh;
Aaron, what do you think you are doing? This is serious business. baddood;
Something feels moved
Quote from: yoseph on December 19, 2010, 10:55:48 AM
fat squishy girl nerds will only go out with nerd guys because that's all they can get
Thyme isn't a nerd guy at all. n_n
thyme is a beanbag
thyme is an herb
Quote from: Thyme on December 21, 2010, 09:27:15 PM
i second this 5thgrade;
I don't see you that way. Shy maybe at times. n_n
Quote from: FAMY2 on December 21, 2010, 08:17:00 PM
Thyme isn't a nerd guy at all. n_n
he's much more of a freak
u wouldnt take home 2 mama