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I'm not feeling it.
I get to see a bunch of overly-emotional people telling me how much they miss me (They rarely ever speak to me anyways, oh wait--I reject their invitations!) and I don't do well with crowds.

MAKE MY CHOICES I'M PSYCHOLOGICAL ILL

Could this choice affect my entire life forever?

just go or don't, it's not a big deal but idk it was kinda nice to get some pictures taken and stuff

Quote from: Lain on May 29, 2010, 04:47:49 PM
just go or don't, it's not a big deal but idk it was kinda nice to get some pictures taken and stuff

tell me the details of your graduation to conduct an accurate decision skewed by personal biases  akudood;

Quote from: Analysis Paralysis on May 29, 2010, 05:02:56 PM
tell me the details of your graduation to conduct an accurate decision skewed by personal biases  akudood;

uhh it was exactly what you'd expect a graduation ceremony to be

we walked in a very specified manner and order to our seats, listened to some teachers and the superintendent talk, and then got called up for our diplomas, and then we went outside and threw up our caps for a picture, and then went back in to just hang out and talk to people and say some goodbyes and stuff

Quote from: Lain on May 29, 2010, 05:14:18 PM
uhh it was exactly what you'd expect a graduation ceremony to be

we walked in a very specified manner and order to our seats, listened to some teachers and the superintendent talk, and then got called up for our diplomas, and then we went outside and threw up our caps for a picture, and then went back in to just hang out and talk to people and say some goodbyes and stuff

no, not that
tell me what went through your mind and what you've felt  giggle;

Graduation is a boring fucking ceremony that people sit through because it's tradition and makes something almost everyone does look like an accomplishment.

i hugged my teacher omg

Quote from: Analysis Paralysis on May 29, 2010, 05:31:24 PM
no, not that
tell me what went through your mind and what you've felt  giggle;

"this is boring"

really, it's not special but it's not like it's unbearable, it's just kinda boring unless maybe you're the valedictorian i guess

Yeah, mine was really boring. If I were to go back I would not have gone.

I don't see why you wouldn't. I mean, it's not even about seeing people for the last time and saying your goodbyes. For me, it was about an official end of childhood, and a sign that I was finally moving on with my life.

No

Even if it's boring and stupid, it's a once-in-a-liifetime thing. If you have something which is more meaningful and rare, though, I guess do that.

In psychological terms, events like graduation and commencement function as "signposts." By defining the contours of your life through signposting, i.e. surrounding yourself with habits, events, and objects which contain a clear symbolism and help demarcate one thing from another, it is much easier to make sense of things. Or give you you energy to focus on being even crazier.

Quote from: Sheets are Swaying on May 30, 2010, 04:20:13 PM
Even if it's boring and stupid, it's a once-in-a-liifetime thing. If you have something which is more meaningful and rare, though, I guess do that.

In psychological terms, events like graduation and commencement function as "signposts." By defining the contours of your life through signposting, i.e. surrounding yourself with habits, events, and objects which contain a clear symbolism and help demarcate one thing from another, it is much easier to make sense of things. Or give you you energy to focus on being even crazier.

Aren't many opportunities a "once-in-a-life-time" thing? I first would have to have a reason as to why I would apply anything in my life as a signpost, and for what purpose. Am I suppose to add personal significance to it if I never really cared about it in the first place? Are signposts necessary? Wouldn't a gradual notice of self-growth be enough?

Quote from: Analysis Paralysis on May 30, 2010, 04:39:24 PM
Wouldn't a gradual notice of self-growth be enough?

consider who you're addressing the question to. ;)

Quote from: Analysis Paralysis on May 30, 2010, 04:39:24 PM
Aren't many opportunities a "once-in-a-life-time" thing? I first would have to have a reason as to why I would apply anything in my life as a signpost, and for what purpose. Am I suppose to add personal significance to it if I never really cared about it in the first place? Are signposts necessary? Wouldn't a gradual notice of self-growth be enough?

If you have something rarer or more worthwhile to do, then do it. I didn't go to my high school prom, which was a once-in-a-lifetime thing, for a lot of the same reasons you don't want to go to your graduation, and some others having to do with my mental health. Instead I've been trying to spend as much time as possible with the other students in a meaningful way.

None of pyschology is necessary. It's just a thing which can be helpful.  bassir; Slow growth is the way I process things mostly (yes, socks), but the signposting helps me out a bit. Or my shrink has convinced me it does.

My plan for spending time with students will be for next year, as I will start fresh and new  (Smaller environments, smaller classes, etc). Past experiences of going to large-gatherings didn't do much for me. I dislike attention very much if large groups give it to me--I prefer smaller groups. But a class of 900 students would cause me to feel very confused with the combination of noises and laughter.

I find the spiritual branches of psychology to be incredibly helpful, but JMV says it's bullshit and retarded and against science.  bassir; I think what would help me best would be to expose myself through acting in front of large groups of people, rather than just walking around large masses.

I just talked to my friend the whole time while the people made speeches.

Quote from: Analysis Paralysis on May 30, 2010, 05:27:00 PM
I find the spiritual branches of psychology to be incredibly helpful, but JMV says it's bullshit and retarded and against science. 

Third option is now void

Quote from: Analysis Paralysis on May 30, 2010, 05:27:00 PM
I find the spiritual branches of psychology to be incredibly helpful, but JMV says it's bullshit and retarded and against science.  bassir;

i like how you tell us what jmv says as if it matters or something to you when we all know you don't give a shit

Quote from: Lain on May 30, 2010, 06:38:32 PM
i like how you tell us what jmv says as if it matters or something to you when we all know you don't give a shit

Even better: we don't particularly care either. bassir;

Quote from: Analysis Paralysis on May 30, 2010, 05:27:00 PM
I think what would help me best would be to expose myself through acting in front of large groups of people, rather than just walking around large masses.

Careful what you expose and to whom. Waiting helped me with public presentation, in a personal and business sense.

Quote from: Socks on May 30, 2010, 06:50:57 PM
Careful what you expose and to whom. Waiting helped me with public presentation, in a personal and business sense.

I guess bagging and selling ice-cream has helped me be outgoing and social, especially when I need to use my French with people. But it doesn't feel like...personal development. When I get home and try to relax, I feel like I need to undo my habits/self at work, not internalize them.

i don't think college graduation would matter much. the people you're never going to see again you've only known for like 4 years, at the most, so it's less emotional. i would go anyway, because why not, what else do i have to do that's better? but if i couldn't go it wouldn't be a total travesty.

but if this is secretly high school yeah, go.

Well I guess it depends how you feel about your school. I'm definitely going to mine, just because I will really miss a lot of people, and a lot of my teachers, and my high school in general. I mean I spent 4 years of my life in high school, and it feels crazy to be leaving.