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Title: Do you think you'll find your person?
Post by: Hiro on August 19, 2009, 11:59:11 PM
I don't believe in the whole "one true love" or "soulmate" thing, but I do think there are a few rare people that a person can feel a true love for. If you haven't already when do you think you'll find them, if at all? I think (or at least hope) that I'll find someone eventually, but not soon nor in a long time. Maybe I'll find them in college, maybe shortly after. Maybe I'll find them in Sweden, or possibly I've already found them and just don't know it.
Title: Re: Do you think you'll find your person?
Post by: rdl on August 20, 2009, 12:07:06 AM
Meh, I don't believe in soul mates. If someone cares about you they can become your soulmate, but there's no such thing as love at first sight or anything like that. Something can happen that might seem like it was "love at first sight" but it's just a coincidence if both people end up falling for each other.

I doubt I'll find "my person", but I'm not really looking to find them. I probably couldn't support a family.
Title: Re: Do you think you'll find your person?
Post by: YPrrrr on August 20, 2009, 12:08:51 AM
I dont think you can just pinpoint where you'll find them... What makes Sweden such a viable spot?

Also, yes I think I'll find my person... My problem right now is that I'm dating someone I don't really love... I like her well enough but for whatever reason I can't bring myself to say i love her
Title: Re: Do you think you'll find your person?
Post by: The artist formally known on August 20, 2009, 12:09:26 AM
I think that I found her, though she is moving to Washington for two years so that will be fun.
Title: Re: Do you think you'll find your person?
Post by: Hiro on August 20, 2009, 12:09:54 AM
I already said that I agree with what you just said, I don't believe in true love. Ideally, I want two kids, one of them adopted. I think that I could eventually support a family of that size, I don't want kids until I'm 29-30.
Title: Re: Do you think you'll find your person?
Post by: Hiro on August 20, 2009, 12:11:49 AM
Ypr, I said Sweden because I intend on living there, at least for a while. So it would be possible that I could find her there.
Title: Re: Do you think you'll find your person?
Post by: snorkel on August 20, 2009, 12:12:13 AM
I've met one such person in my life so far.
Title: Re: Do you think you'll find your person?
Post by: Andria on August 20, 2009, 12:13:17 AM
Expecting to ever find someone who is perfect for you is just setting yourself up for disappointment in my opinion at least. Not only that I think there is more than one "true love" and that you can feel true love for multiple people its an emotion a very strong one but it isn't really an exclusive thing. Then even if there is one person for you out there the likelihood of you finding them is very very very very low.

However I am sure I will eventually meet someone who I fall in love with who loves me too and we will make a happy couple  giggle;
Title: Re: Do you think you'll find your person?
Post by: Hiro on August 20, 2009, 12:15:53 AM
Did you even read the post? I never said anything about a one perfect person.
Title: Re: Do you think you'll find your person?
Post by: YPrrrr on August 20, 2009, 12:18:21 AM
Quote from: Hïro on August 20, 2009, 12:15:53 AM
Did you even read the post? I never said anything about a one perfect person.
I think he's just stating that as a generality
Title: Re: Do you think you'll find your person?
Post by: rdl on August 20, 2009, 12:19:13 AM
Quote from: Hïro on August 20, 2009, 12:09:54 AM
I already said that I agree with what you just said
I never said you didn't.
Title: Re: Do you think you'll find your person?
Post by: Andria on August 20, 2009, 12:19:45 AM
Quote from: YPR on August 20, 2009, 12:18:21 AM
I think he's just stating that as a generality

That and a lot of people use the word soulmate to mean like someone who is absolutely perfect for you or whatever
Title: Re: Do you think you'll find your person?
Post by: Claquesous on August 20, 2009, 05:04:14 AM
I don't see myself finding anyone in the foreseeable future if I stay the same as I am now. Right now I could care less about finding someone to love. I'm perfectly happy as I am now, single.
Title: Re: Do you think you'll find your person?
Post by: Chris (JayJay) on August 20, 2009, 07:17:39 AM
I already have.  cjlubdoods;
Title: Re: Do you think you'll find your person?
Post by: Veal on August 20, 2009, 08:36:01 AM
It sounds like most of you are speaking out of inexperience and pessimistic assumptions. I've already found a nearly perfect fit for me, under the strangest circumstances possible, and we both had a list of standards before we even met each other and both fit them perfectly (I've seen hers and vice versa). But I'm not fooling myself, you can always fall in love with more than one person. Love is a choice, not a feeling. But there's definitely certain people you'll meet that fit you better and thus will be easier to love and will love you more.
Title: Re: Do you think you'll find your person?
Post by: Feynman on August 20, 2009, 08:45:55 AM
There's no "one" person for anyone out there. However, there are thousands of people they can actually love and live with for the rest of their lives.

I think my significant other has found one such person. spam;

Sometimes women just want a smooth, loving, gentle, handsome and extremely intelligent man. Loving another's idiosyncrasies is a bonus, but it's not a requirement—once you fall for someone, you begin to appreciate everything about them much more.
Title: Re: Do you think you'll find your person?
Post by: Socks on August 20, 2009, 08:54:10 AM
Quote from: Bassir on August 20, 2009, 08:45:55 AM
Sometimes women just want a smooth, loving, gentle, handsome and extremely intelligent man.


women wouldn't know what they want if it fucked them in the face
Title: Re: Do you think you'll find your person?
Post by: Feynman on August 20, 2009, 08:56:57 AM
Quote from: Socks on August 20, 2009, 08:54:10 AM
women wouldn't know what they want if it fucked them in the face


That's very true, actually.
Title: Re: Do you think you'll find your person?
Post by: Hippopo on August 20, 2009, 09:22:59 AM
Nope.  I doubt it.
Title: Re: Do you think you'll find your person?
Post by: Veal on August 20, 2009, 10:12:26 AM
Quote from: Socks on August 20, 2009, 08:54:10 AM
women wouldn't know what they want if it fucked them in the face

True. I know from experience.
Title: Re: Do you think you'll find your person?
Post by: YPrrrr on August 20, 2009, 10:52:35 AM
Quote from: Veal on August 20, 2009, 10:12:26 AM
True. I know from experience.
Keep trying
Title: Re: Do you think you'll find your person?
Post by: Daddy on August 20, 2009, 12:29:35 PM
No.

At least in return.
Title: Re: Do you think you'll find your person?
Post by: Classic on August 20, 2009, 01:01:17 PM
No.
Title: Re: Do you think you'll find your person?
Post by: sans culottes on August 20, 2009, 01:12:14 PM
It might rain, it might shine, doesn't matter. If I find a perfect match, woo-hoo. I probably won't, and in that case, I'll be happy to be with anyone I like.
Title: Re: Do you think you'll find your person?
Post by: Veal on August 20, 2009, 01:15:52 PM
WOW GUYS

wow.

You're all horribly depressing.
Title: Re: Do you think you'll find your person?
Post by: YPrrrr on August 20, 2009, 01:16:46 PM
Quote from: coz on August 20, 2009, 01:12:14 PM
It might rain, it might shine, doesn't matter. If I find a perfect match, woo-hoo. I probably won't, and in that case, I'll be happy to be with anyone I like.
I don't think you've ever  been in love before
Quote from: Veal on August 20, 2009, 01:15:52 PM
WOW GUYS

wow.

You're all horribly depressing.
Hey it's just most of us, come on now
Title: Re: Do you think you'll find your person?
Post by: Classic on August 20, 2009, 01:17:19 PM
Quote from: Veal on August 20, 2009, 01:15:52 PM
WOW GUYS

wow.

You're all horribly depressing.

Not really. I'm just being realistic.
Title: Re: Do you think you'll find your person?
Post by: famy on August 20, 2009, 01:22:21 PM
idk i believe i already found that person blah blah blah

Quote from: King Shishkebaboo on August 20, 2009, 01:17:19 PM
Not really. I'm just being realistic.
no you're being gay
Title: Re: Do you think you'll find your person?
Post by: Veal on August 20, 2009, 01:23:18 PM
You're looking at yourself too much. Millions of people find someone and get married. Like... a vast majority of people are married as opposed to not. I don't see how you couldn't find someone. It may seem like it's not possible, like there's no way you'll find them, but there's a pretty good chance it'll happen.

Then again I'm a Christian so I believe in God's plan n all that so I'm a little more optimistic about it, also it happened to me when I least expected it so there's that too.

Title: Re: Do you think you'll find your person?
Post by: ME## on August 20, 2009, 01:23:30 PM
Blah, blah, blah no, because I'm a horrible person blah, blah, blah.
Title: Re: Do you think you'll find your person?
Post by: Classic on August 20, 2009, 01:24:40 PM
Maybe one day, I suppose.
Then again, it's not good to be apathetic towards things like love like I am.


Quote from: Дави́д on August 20, 2009, 01:23:30 PM
Blah, blah, blah no, because I'm a horrible person blah, blah, blah.

Shut up.
Title: Re: Do you think you'll find your person?
Post by: rdl on August 20, 2009, 01:26:33 PM
What a lot of you don't realize is that it's not all about looks when it comes to getting a girl.
Title: Re: Do you think you'll find your person?
Post by: famy on August 20, 2009, 01:28:25 PM
Quote from: RDX on August 20, 2009, 01:26:33 PM
What a lot of you don't realize is that it's not all about looks when it comes to getting a girl.
or you can just get an equally ugly girl who has less options idk
Title: Re: Do you think you'll find your person?
Post by: Classic on August 20, 2009, 01:28:44 PM
It's not even about looks. Do I have the right to think down on someone about their looks? No. Look at me.
I just don't feel that I would be able to live up to his standards.


In other words, I'm too scatterbrained, uninteresting and incompetent to try to have a healthy relation.
Title: Re: Do you think you'll find your person?
Post by: rdl on August 20, 2009, 01:34:30 PM
Quote from: whiny bitch on August 20, 2009, 01:28:25 PM
or you can just get an equally ugly girl who has less options idk
Bullshit. Even though I've been told otherwise I think I'm a pretty unattractive guy, yet I got a fair amount of pretty girls back in my more vibrant days. Though I was pretty much a kid then so immaturity may probably factored into that. Still the point still stands that you can get a nice, pretty girl without being super sexy and having chiseled abs. Unless if you're just in it for the sex you probably don't want a superficial girl anyway.

Quote from: King Shishkebaboo on August 20, 2009, 01:28:44 PM
In other words, I'm too scatterbrained, uninteresting and incompetent to try to have a healthy relation.
Have you tried?

Also me86 would tell you otherwise.
Title: Re: Do you think you'll find your person?
Post by: famy on August 20, 2009, 01:36:05 PM
Quote from: RDX on August 20, 2009, 01:34:30 PM
Bullshit. Even though I've been told otherwise I think I'm a pretty unattractive guy, yet I got a fair amount of pretty girls back in my more vibrant days. Though I was pretty much a kid then so immaturity may have factored into that. Unless if you're just in it for the sex you probably don't want a superficial girl anyway.
well yeah, maybe for you because you're somewhat normal, but if you're the average clinically depressed boyager with no self confidence then that's a good start
Title: Re: Do you think you'll find your person?
Post by: Classic on August 20, 2009, 01:36:30 PM
Quote from: RDX on August 20, 2009, 01:34:30 PM
Have you tried?

Um. Yes. I have had two boyfriends.

Quote
Also me86 would tell you otherwise.

He thinks he's a terrible person.

Do you honestly want me to believe him?
Title: Re: Do you think you'll find your person?
Post by: rdl on August 20, 2009, 01:49:44 PM
lol famy, we all know socks is the only normal person here.

im not gonna list off my problems because only lamers do that. but famy just because you're depressed it doesn't mean that you can't get a girl. maybe she'll be the solution to your depression. plus besides your looks i have no idea what you're even depressed about.

Quote from: King Shishkebaboo on August 20, 2009, 01:36:30 PM
Um. Yes. I have had two boyfriends.
Well if you're happy being single then there's nothing wrong with that. Are you?

I have trouble putting myself into the shoes of a gay guy, and I have absolutely no idea how gay romance works in the slightest so I dunno what to say. All I can do is console depressed people :'(
Title: Re: Do you think you'll find your person?
Post by: Classic on August 20, 2009, 01:52:20 PM
Do I seem happy?

I'm just too apathetic and busy trying to get a decent job. Maybe then I'd actually feel like it.
Title: Re: Do you think you'll find your person?
Post by: Paul on August 20, 2009, 02:03:29 PM
Most likely, but I don't think there is only one person out there for me. I'm a pretty compatible persona nd I don't think it will be a hard task but not easy. It comes with time.
Title: Re: Do you think you'll find your person?
Post by: NOA_Haunted on August 20, 2009, 02:20:33 PM
I've already found mine<3
Title: Re: Do you think you'll find your person?
Post by: Skylark on August 20, 2009, 02:58:35 PM
maybe.
i'm not really looking for them
Title: Re: Do you think you'll find your person?
Post by: Thyme on August 20, 2009, 03:02:55 PM
Quote from: Skylark on August 20, 2009, 02:58:35 PM
maybe.
i'm not really looking for them


This, pretty much. *shrug*
Title: Re: Do you think you'll find your person?
Post by: Socks on August 20, 2009, 04:19:59 PM
i just want someone who'll be loyal above all, is fairly intelligent, willing to have my kids, make me dinner, wash my clothes, and suck my dick from time to time

this i can manage
Title: Re: Do you think you'll find your person?
Post by: famy on August 20, 2009, 05:04:38 PM
Quote from: RDX on August 20, 2009, 01:49:44 PM
lol famy, we all know socks is the only normal person here.

im not gonna list off my problems because only lamers do that. but famy just because you're depressed it doesn't mean that you can't get a girl. maybe she'll be the solution to your depression.
i'm not depressed idk im happy and i have a girlfriend

i mean everyone else idk

Quote from: RDX on August 20, 2009, 01:49:44 PMplus besides your looks i have no idea what you're even depressed about.
and im damn fine |:
Title: Re: Do you think you'll find your person?
Post by: rdl on August 20, 2009, 05:05:23 PM
Whatever, I'm sick of playing psychiatrist.
Title: Re: Do you think you'll find your person?
Post by: Socks on August 20, 2009, 05:16:52 PM
Quote from: whiny bitch on August 20, 2009, 05:04:38 PM
and im damn fine |:


lol

Quote from: RDX on August 20, 2009, 05:05:23 PM
Whatever, I'm sick of playing psychiatrist.


where are my pills
Title: Re: Do you think you'll find your person?
Post by: rdl on August 20, 2009, 05:18:08 PM
You already overdosed on them. You're dead.
Title: Re: Do you think you'll find your person?
Post by: Socks on August 20, 2009, 05:19:31 PM
Quote from: RDX on August 20, 2009, 05:18:08 PM
You already overdosed on them. You're dead.


pew pew faget
Title: Re: Do you think you'll find your person?
Post by: the shortest route to the sea on August 20, 2009, 05:40:53 PM
I have a relationship of 9 months which is likely to turn into the rest of our lives. We communicate constantly and honestly, have a great deal in common, and love each other very much. I'm lucky in that I've found someone to spend the rest of my life with. She will guide me and I will guide her, we will share in our growth, our ups and downs, as peers and equals. She has made me the person I am today.

But I keep that separate from a person who can totally define and reshape one's life in key ways. For me, there is a different form of love there. There is a person who did that for me. I met him scarcely over a 4 week period 3 years ago, and he has shaped me and will continue to do so for the rest of my life. He put the first break in my emotional bubble that I had before puberty, and somehow the wild directions I'm going in my life are guided, or at least ghostily sketched, by my memory of him. I still feel so much attraction, like gravity, to him after 3 years. I haven't spoken to him in 2 years, and I haven't seen him in 1 year. That doesn't change a thing.

In short, my girlfriend / fiancee guides my life, but his memory sketches my future as it happens. One is my peer, the other is my shadow.
Title: Re: Do you think you'll find your person?
Post by: Himu on August 20, 2009, 06:52:59 PM
I've found someone that makes me feel as if I've never been in love before. giggle;

I don't really believe in true love, or "it's meant to be", so I'm never really upset when it doesn't work out.  Even though it may seem kind of wrong to most people, like they think I never actually cared.  I'm not in a big hurry really.  When it happens, it happens.  It'll happen to anybody, seriously.  I've grown tired of hearing "I'll never find love ;---;, I'm ugly, I've got problems, I deserve to die", you don't know that, especially at this young age.  Like I said when it happens, it happens. bassir;
Title: Re: Do you think you'll find your person?
Post by: Feynman on August 20, 2009, 08:29:22 PM
i used to say no

but then i met my girlfriend

and then i was like "lol is she serious"

... akudood;
Title: Re: Do you think you'll find your person?
Post by: Classic on August 20, 2009, 08:30:56 PM
I've gone through two guys and asked the same thing. One was a typical pig douchebag and the other had to relocate.


akudood;