Ok guys. So there is this girl I've been hanging out with at college for about a month or two now. Her name is Amanda. Amanda and I have been getting really close, and now I think I might be in love with her. I think she might like me too, but I'm not sure. Anyway, on Wednesday night, we were hanging out in her room just talking about random stuff together up until two in the morning. we also had a snowball fight and watched a couple of movies together that night. God it was amazing.
The problem is, I really wanted to ask Amanda out, but we both left the college for winter break on Thursday. We talked to each other a bit over Facebook since then, but it's not the same. I wish I could see her again. We also live 70 miles away from each other, so it's not like I can just visit her. I really want to ask her out, though, to tell her how I feel. Should I just call her? Should I just wait until January when the next semester starts? What should I do?
Why can't you hangout if it's only 70 miles?
Find a spot 35 miles away and going 60MPH it's only half an hour away. akudood;
Quote from: Angry Kewn Fruit on December 13, 2008, 11:16:43 AM
Why can't you hangout if it's only 70 miles?
Find a spot 35 miles away and going 60MPH it's only half an hour away. akudood;
I live on Long Island. She lives on Staten Island. Manhattan is kind of in the way.
I mean, sure we could hang out in Manhattan for a day I guess, but then there's the prospect of getting completely lost...
Quote from: Angry Kewn Fruit on December 13, 2008, 11:16:43 AM
Why can't you hangout if it's only 70 miles?
Find a spot 35 miles away and going 60MPH it's only half an hour away. akudood;
Why not go 200 km/h, it'd only be 15 minutes away. akudood;
What a coincidence the girl I like is named Amanda. O_0
Quote from: Pretty white woman on December 13, 2008, 11:24:20 AM
What a coincidence the girl I like is named Amanda. O_0
Too bad you're in high school and there's only one black guy on our floor, and he's only half black.
I'd wait until you two were back together at school. If you guys are watching movies together at night I think that would be the perfect time to make a move... Worked for me at least
Quote from: Red Lightning on December 13, 2008, 11:18:38 AM
I live on Long Island. She lives on Staten Island. Manhattan is kind of in the way.
Why does it seem like half the country's college students are from Long Island huhdoodame;
Quote from: YPR on December 13, 2008, 11:25:47 AM
I'd wait until you two were back together at school. If you guys are watching movies together at night I think that would be the perfect time to make a move... Worked for me at least
Why does it seem like half the country's college students are from Long Island huhdoodame;
because the rest of us are needed on the farm
Quote from: YPR on December 13, 2008, 11:25:47 AM
I'd wait until you two were back together at school. If you guys are watching movies together at night I think that would be the perfect time to make a move... Worked for me at least
Why does it seem like half the country's college students are from Long Island huhdoodame;
but that's a month away :(
Quote from: YPR on December 13, 2008, 11:25:47 AM
Why does it seem like half the country's college students are from Long Island huhdoodame;
because the north east is where the smart peeps live
Quote from: Red Lightning on December 13, 2008, 11:27:15 AM
but that's a month away :(
Well you can go hang out with her if you want I suppose... But if you're going to ask her out I think it would be better to do it when you'll be able to see her every day.
Quote from: Lotos on December 13, 2008, 11:34:21 AM
Where? I'm in Islip Terrace n_u
Holy fuck you're close. I live in East Islip.
Quote from: YPR on December 13, 2008, 11:32:44 AM
Well you can go hang out with her if you want I suppose... But if you're going to ask her out I think it would be better to do it when you'll be able to see her every day.
So should I call her then?
Still, 70 miles is kind of far to go and hang out.
Quote from: Angry Kewn Fruit on December 13, 2008, 11:28:43 AM
because the north east is where the smart peeps live
or rich people who buy their way into college
Quote from: Neville Longbottom on December 13, 2008, 11:46:49 AM
or rich people who buy their way into college
im going to college using student loans.
Quote from: Red Lightning on December 13, 2008, 11:45:38 AM
So should I call her then?
Still, 70 miles is kind of far to go and hang out.
Well if it's going to be weird, then don't go and just wait out the month. I don't know about calling her, but since you two seem to get along well it probably wouldn't be weird so I suppose you could if you wanted.
Quote from: YPR on December 13, 2008, 11:54:27 AM
Well if it's going to be weird, then don't go and just wait out the month. I don't know about calling her, but since you two seem to get along well it probably wouldn't be weird so I suppose you could if you wanted.
Well right now she's skiing up in the catskills, so the only way I'll really be able to contact her is if I called. I think I might tonight, actually.
Quote from: Red Lightning on December 13, 2008, 11:12:07 AM
So there is this girl I've been hanging out with at college for about a month or two now.
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Quote from: Red Lightning on December 13, 2008, 11:12:07 AM
Amanda and I have been getting really close, and now I think I might be in love with her.
o lawd
Quote from: Red Lightning on December 13, 2008, 11:12:07 AM
I think she might like me too, but I'm not sure.
O LAWDTo answer your question, don't commit yourself to anyone AFTER you've gone on break. That's just stupid. Wait until school starts back up before you TELL HER that you LIKE HER.
Quote from: Fredo on December 13, 2008, 12:30:20 PM
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o lawd
O LAWD
To answer your question, don't commit yourself to anyone AFTER you've gone on break. That's just stupid. Wait until school starts back up before you TELL HER that you LIKE HER.
Okay got it. Until then, should I just speak to her over facebook, aim, the phone, etc. or should I try to hang out with her, even though we live 70 miles away from each other?
It's just that she seems like the kind of girl I would want to spend the rest of my life with. I don't know. Maybe I'm rushing things...
Quote from: Red Lightning on December 13, 2008, 12:37:47 PM
Okay got it. Until then, should I just speak to her over facebook, aim, the phone, etc. or should I try to hang out with her, even though we live 70 miles away from each other?
It's just that she seems like the kind of girl I would want to spend the rest of my life with. I don't know. Maybe I'm rushing things...
You don't want to come off as clingy, so the occasional Facebook message or AIM convo should me more than suffice to let her know that communication between the two of you is important to you. If you can schedule a weekend or whatever to chill with each other, then by all means. But bring it up early (which would be NOW) and then mention it again when vacation is more in full swing. THEN you should probe more in depth to what she thinks about it. If she's down with the idea then work something convenient out for both of you. BUT, when you hang out with her, you must make out with her at some point in time. That way, she'll know you think of her more than just as a friend. That will work wonderfully, if either one of you or the both of you have been drinking.
Resume activities when school is back in session.
Quote from: Red Lightning on December 13, 2008, 12:37:47 PM
Maybe I'm rushing things...
Yeah, you are. You're in college. You're supposed to enjoy yourself, not lock yourself down forever. Explore your options before making any kind of serious commitment. People grow, sometimes the relationship between two people don't.
Quote from: Fredo on December 13, 2008, 12:51:12 PM
You don't want to come off as clingy, so the occasional Facebook message or AIM convo should me more than suffice to let her know that communication between the two of you is important to you. If you can schedule a weekend or whatever to chill with each other, then by all means. But bring it up early (which would be NOW) and then mention it again when vacation is more in full swing. THEN you should probe more in depth to what she thinks about it. If she's down with the idea then work something convenient out for both of you. BUT, when you hang out with her, you must make out with her at some point in time. That way, she'll know you think of her more than just as a friend. That will work wonderfully, if either one of you or the both of you have been drinking.
Resume activities when school is back in session.
Yeah, you are. You're in college. You're supposed to enjoy yourself, not lock yourself down forever. Explore your options before making any kind of serious commitment. People grow, sometimes the relationship between two people don't.
Well the thing is, I'm already going into Manhattan with my dad and my uncle from Virginia next week. I doubt she would want to hang out with me then. But then I would have to go into the city alone to hang out on another day.
The fact that I'm low on money right now further complicates things.
Also, I doubt we would be drinking. I don't have a fake ID, and I doubt she does. Plus we probably wouldn't be going to each other's houses.
Quote from: YPR on December 13, 2008, 11:25:47 AM
I'd wait until you two were back together at school. If you guys are watching movies together at night I think that would be the perfect time to make a move... Worked for me at least
Why does it seem like half the country's college students are from Long Island huhdoodame;
I'm next. n_u
Also, I'd think it would be better to wait for when you guys are together again. befuddlement
I'm calling her to ask her if she wants to hang out in nyc later tonight, possibly an hour from now. Any objections?
Since I don't feel like making a thread that nobody will care about:
So I've been hanging out with this girl for the past week and a half and I've known that she likes me, and I suddenly realized that the only reason that I was hanging out with her was because both of my two best friends have girlfriends who are good friends with the girl that I'm hanging out with... If that makes sense.
So we were at a dance last night and I was having a decent time, and that suddenly hit me. I felt like shit, since she's really nice but I don't want to go out with her. So I decided to just have a fun night and then stop seeing her, and when I drove her home, she tried to kiss me and I just moved my head aside and hugged her. I feel really bad now.
sup buyeh
Quote from: David on December 14, 2008, 04:40:47 PM
Since I don't feel like making a thread that nobody will care about:
So I've been hanging out with this girl for the past week and a half and I've known that she likes me, and I suddenly realized that the only reason that I was hanging out with her was because both of my two best friends have girlfriends who are good friends with the girl that I'm hanging out with... If that makes sense.
So we were at a dance last night and I was having a decent time, and that suddenly hit me. I felt like shit, since she's really nice but I don't want to go out with her. So I decided to just have a fun night and then stop seeing her, and when I drove her home, she tried to kiss me and I just moved my head aside and hugged her. I feel really bad now.
sup buyeh
your the man now dawg
but really dont do anything you dont want to.
You did what I would have done. Sounds like you were put in an awkward position.
Don't talk to her at all during the break. Make her wonder what you're doing, and want to reach out to you herself. After a long time apart, she may want to do when school starts, and then during that get-together you can ask her if she may want to formally escort you on a night in town.
You don't want to blog to her your every move through electronic communication—that way you'll have more to talk about during your next session, which'll make it more comfortable and easier for you to ask.
also, picture of said girl so i can further assist you and form a consensus on the rationalities of the situation
Ok here's my advice.
Quote from: Bassir on December 14, 2008, 08:46:04 PM
Don't talk to her at all during the break. Make her wonder what you're doing, and want to reach out to you herself. After a long time apart, she may want to do when school starts, and then during that get-together you can ask her if she may want to formally escort you on a night in town.
You don't want to blog to her your every move through electronic communicationââ,¬â€ťthat way you'll have more to talk about during your next session, which'll make it more comfortable and easier for you to ask.
also, picture of said girl so i can further assist you and form a consensus on the rationalities of the situation
Do the exact opposite of this.
Quote from: Angry Kewn Fruit on December 14, 2008, 08:53:17 PM
Ok here's my advice.Do the exact opposite of this.
Your ill-minded advice will get this Agent killed.
It's not like she's gonna fuck someone during the break and forget all about him—because if that happens, she really doesn't like him in the first place.
Quote from: Bassir on December 14, 2008, 08:56:24 PM
Your ill-minded advice will get this Agent killed.
ill-minded?
you didn't have to attack my insanity :(
Quote from: Angry Kewn Fruit on December 14, 2008, 08:56:59 PM
ill-minded?
you didn't have to attack my insanity :(
Go drink some Nasonex.
given both jmv and bassir's resounding success with the fairer sex, i would recommend completely disregarding their opinions akudood;
Quote from: Bassir on December 14, 2008, 08:46:04 PM
You don't want to blog to her your every move through electronic communicationââ,¬â€ťthat way you'll have more to talk about during your next session, which'll make it more comfortable and easier for you to ask.
This is true.
Quote from: Commodore Guff on December 14, 2008, 09:03:52 PM
given both jmv and bassir's resounding success with the fairer sex, i would recommend completely disregarding their opinions akudood;
i have a fair lass on the internets so that places me above bassir baddood;
Quote from: Commodore Guff on December 14, 2008, 09:03:52 PM
given both jmv and bassir's resounding success with the fairer sex, i would recommend completely disregarding their opinions akudood;
The nonexistence of my sexual life is not caused by romantic incompetence, but by a personal choice.
Quote from: Bassir on December 14, 2008, 09:09:15 PM
The nonexistence of my sexual life is not caused by romantic incompetence, but by a personal choice.
Quote from: Angry Kewn Fruit on December 14, 2008, 09:05:13 PM
i have a fair lass on the internets so that places me above bassir baddood;
i still can't tell which one of you is the bigger loser n_u
Quote from: Commodore Guff on December 14, 2008, 09:14:39 PM
i still can't tell which one of you is the bigger loser n_u
bassir :(
Quote from: Bassir on December 14, 2008, 09:09:15 PM
The nonexistence of my sexual life is not caused by romantic incompetence, but by a personal choice.
That's what they all say, Bassir. n_u
Quote from: Angry Kewn Fruit on December 14, 2008, 09:15:00 PM
bassir :(
I'll take the title, if it means so much to you.
Quote from: Thief888 on December 14, 2008, 09:17:13 PM
That's what they all say, Bassir. n_u
Actually, many blame it on the opposite sex.
Girls don't get me baddood;
Quote from: Commodore Guff on December 14, 2008, 09:03:52 PM
given both jmv and bassir's resounding success with the fairer sex, i would recommend completely disregarding their opinions akudood;
That means he should listen to me, right? n_u
Quote from: Commodore Guff on December 14, 2008, 09:03:52 PM
given both jmv and bassir's resounding success with the fairer sex, i would recommend completely disregarding their opinions akudood;
So we should disregard Bassir's advice and also not listen to JMV saying to disregard Bassir's advice.
I sense a paradox
Quote from: Angry Kewn Fruit on December 14, 2008, 08:53:17 PM
Ok here's my advice.Do the exact opposite of this.
But it works for me. spam;
I chickened out of calling her last night. Instead, I sent her a text message asking her how her skiing trip went. An hour later she responded "Good". Then I texted her back "lol was there enough snow on the ground?" She never responded. :(
Here's a picture of her:
(http://img.photobucket.com/albums/v96/yoseph/n573715474_5096795_896.jpg)
oh god you've got a crush on steal n_u
Quote from: Commodore Guff on December 15, 2008, 01:51:03 PM
oh god you've got a crush on steal n_u
Are you insulting my girl's appearance? madood;
She's not your girl.
Quote from: Fredo on December 15, 2008, 03:14:57 PM
She's not your girl.
Not yet.
Nevertheless, she is a friend of mine.
That's not your girl, that's everybody's freak.
Baby's like a dry cleaner, seen everybody's sheets.
Sorry, couldn't help myself.
Quote from: Fredo on December 15, 2008, 03:22:56 PM
That's not your girl, that's everybody's freak.
Baby's like a dry cleaner, seen everybody's sheets.
Sorry, couldn't help myself.
In all seriousness, while we were talking about random stuff together until 2am on Wednesday night, the topic of shyness came up. I reluctantly told her that I had never kissed a girl before, and then she told me that she didn't get her first kiss until she came to college. (We are so fucking alike it's not even funny. She has the same interests and personality as me and everything.) Then after that there was an awkward silence that lasted a few minutes since neither of us could think of anything to say. She though of something and the conversation started up again.
That awkward silence scared the shit out of me, though.
If there are uncomfortable silences then that usually means that people aren't compatible.
Cute camo jacket... and oversized northface hoodie...
Quote from: Fredo on December 15, 2008, 03:43:04 PM
If there are uncomfortable silences then that usually means that people aren't compatible.
Alright now you're just depressing me.
Quote from: Draco Malfoy on December 15, 2008, 03:49:04 PM
Cute camo jacket... and oversized northface hoodie...
She likes to wear oversized things. She showed me one of her sweatshirts that was a men's xl, bigger than what I wear.
Quote from: Fredo on December 15, 2008, 03:43:04 PM
If there are uncomfortable silences then that usually means that people aren't compatible.
Judging by the length of the silence, it was an internet conversation. Moments of silence are not uncommon between any two people when instant messaging because people also do other things.
Quote from: Bassir on December 15, 2008, 04:16:26 PM
Judging by the length of the silence, it was an internet conversation. Moments of silence are not uncommon between any two people when instant messaging because people also do other things.
No. We were sitting in the same room, face to face.
It was an awkward topic to be talking about, hence the awkward silence.
Quote from: Red Lightning on December 15, 2008, 05:06:51 PM
No. We were sitting in the same room, face to face.
It was an awkward topic to be talking about, hence the awkward silence.
OH GOD IT WAS FACE-TO-FACE?
i thought you were on the phone and that was bad. X:
uhhhhh, face-to-face awkward silence is definitely not a good sign. you should pretty much be talking constantly if you're in the same room, unless you're watching tv or something.
Quote from: Draco Malfoy on December 15, 2008, 05:10:00 PM
OH GOD IT WAS FACE-TO-FACE?
i thought you were on the phone and that was bad. X:
uhhhhh, face-to-face awkward silence is definitely not a good sign. you should pretty much be talking constantly if you're in the same room, unless you're watching tv or something.
I think we were talking for like an hour before it happened. We were both getting tired.
God damnit you guys are scaring the shit out of me.
Well, I was going to disagree with RTD about the awkard silence thing because I thought it was on the phone, and I'm like that with everyone on the phone(I really dislike talking on the phone unless it's something really really important).
But in person? What were you talking about that it just stopped?
Quote from: Angry Kewn Fruit on December 15, 2008, 05:12:58 PM
Well, I was going to disagree with RTD about the awkard silence thing because I thought it was on the phone, and I'm like that with everyone on the phone(I really dislike talking on the phone unless it's something really really important).
But in person? What were you talking about that it just stopped?
Quote from: Red Lightning on December 15, 2008, 03:28:31 PM
In all seriousness, while we were talking about random stuff together until 2am on Wednesday night, the topic of shyness came up. I reluctantly told her that I had never kissed a girl before, and then she told me that she didn't get her first kiss until she came to college. (We are so fucking alike it's not even funny. She has the same interests and personality as me and everything.) Then after that there was an awkward silence that lasted a few minutes since neither of us could think of anything to say. She though of something and the conversation started up again.
That awkward silence scared the shit out of me, though.
That
It really doesn't matter whether or not it's on the phone or in person, nor does it matter what the subject matter is.
Sheesh, I would have just been stupid and been like "OH LOOK WHAT I CAN DO, I CAN TOUCH MY NOSE WITH MY TONGUE".
I can't stand awkward silences. Actually, I fear them so much, I go over more topics we can talk about as I converse with someone. ;-;
Quote from: Fredo on December 15, 2008, 05:20:33 PM
It really doesn't matter whether or not it's on the phone or in person, nor does it matter what the subject matter is.
If, regardless of the person, you are uncomfortable talking on the phone, it doesn't really mean you're incompatible. baddood;
then again i have a personality disorder and an anxiety disorder dont' listen to me
It was late, and at that point neither of us could think of anything to talk about. She made a comment about how the awkward silence was killing her, and I laughed. Then we started talking again. About 30 minutes later we had another brief moment of awkward silence as we were realizing it was beginning to get late, and I decided to say goodnight and wished her a safe trip home. I mentioned that we would keep in contact by phone and through facebook. We kept facebooking each other for a few days until she went on her skiing trip on saturday... Now we've said barely anything to each other and I'm getting worried she doesn't want to have anything to do with me. I'm probably being paranoid, but it still hurts.
I could think of a million things to talk about with her right now, but at that moment I couldn't.
Quote from: Angry Kewn Fruit on December 15, 2008, 05:25:19 PM
Then again i have a personality disorder and an anxiety disorder dont' listen to me
Don't worry, I'm not.
Quote from: Fredo on December 15, 2008, 05:30:39 PM
Don't worry, I'm not.
Someday you'll see my anxiety was for the good of society. baddood;
Quote from: Angry Kewn Fruit on December 15, 2008, 05:31:52 PM
Someday you'll see my anxiety was for the good of society. baddood;
Someday, you'll see my drug use was for the good of the entertainment industry. baddood;
Quote from: Draco Malfoy on December 15, 2008, 05:22:35 PM
Sheesh, I would have just been stupid and been like "OH LOOK WHAT I CAN DO, I CAN TOUCH MY NOSE WITH MY TONGUE".
I can't stand awkward silences. Actually, I fear them so much, I go over more topics we can talk about as I converse with someone. ;-;
I hate those too. Then I start talking about random things and saddood;
Does this mean I'm pretty much fucked? saddood;
Quote from: Red Lightning on December 15, 2008, 06:09:46 PM
Does this mean I'm pretty much fucked? saddood;
It means you're expecting too much, WAY too soon.
There's no need to be in a rush.
Quote from: Fredo on December 15, 2008, 06:23:35 PM
It means you're expecting too much, WAY too soon.
There's no need to be in a rush.
Ok. I've already slowed down by a lot. I think I sent her one message today, and that was 30 minutes ago. So I'm slowing down.
It's just that this is the closest I've ever been to a girl before. I just don't want to screw this up. And now that I think of it, even if it turns out she doesn't want to have a relationship, she'll probably still be one of my best female friends ever. So there's that.
I'm not asking her out until we get back, by the way. And even then, it's not going to be immediately. Maybe a day or two later.
This is funny in a way. Hyper asked me once what we we ran out of things to talk about. I said it was no big deal cause we could sit and stare at each other and I'd be happy. That happened. It doesn't have to be uncomfortable. No one can talk non stop... well maybe someone can.
Quote from: Red Lightning on December 15, 2008, 06:09:46 PM
Does this mean I'm pretty much fucked? saddood;
Not at all.
You're taking advice from Boyah, which should be the first sign that you are stressing out about this too much.
I would wait until January. Just continue conversing with her through facebook and if you still feel the same after you get back from break. ask her out then. This will really be much easier and you shouldn't really do it over the phone, just my opinion.
Also, don't tell her you think you're in love with her. Chances are all you have is a crush on her and if for some stupid reason you're like "I think I'm in love iwth you date me?" (I saw some guy do it once, really), it'll freak her the fuck out.
Quote from: Sam on December 15, 2008, 09:13:29 PM
I would wait until January. Just continue conversing with her through facebook and if you still feel the same after you get back from break. ask her out then. This will really be much easier and you shouldn't really do it over the phone, just my opinion.
Also, don't tell her you think you're in love with her. Chances are all you have is a crush on her and if for some stupid reason you're like "I think I'm in love iwth you date me?" (I saw some guy do it once, really), it'll freak her the fuck out.
Yeah I know that. I think I'm just going to bring some movies back to college and watch them with her. It turns out one of her favorite movies is Twister, which I am bringing back. We can watch it when we get back. :3
Quote from: Red Lightning on December 15, 2008, 09:36:25 PM
Yeah I know that. I think I'm just going to bring some movies back to college and watch them with her. It turns out one of her favorite movies is Twister, which I am bringing back. We can watch it when we get back. :3
Twister made me cry. :(
Is she aware that you know how she feels about the movie?
Quote from: Fredo on December 15, 2008, 09:42:08 PM
Is she aware that you know how she feels about the movie?
She told me herself.
Quote from: Red Lightning on December 15, 2008, 09:41:01 PM
but it's an amazing movie.
That is why it made me cry.
Though I only remember the scene where the tornado hit the shack and that other scene in the end.
Quote from: Det's Placenta on December 15, 2008, 09:44:18 PM
That is why it made me cry.
Though I only remember the scene where the tornado hit the shack and that other scene in the end.
What about the drive-in movie? And the scene with the cows flying through the air? Those are the scenes I remember the most.
Quote from: Red Lightning on December 15, 2008, 09:43:44 PM
She told me herself.
Well, it can still work in your favor.
Maybe she'll even let you get some under-the-shirt, over-the-bra action. O_0
Quote from: Red Lightning on December 15, 2008, 09:47:06 PM
What about the drive-in movie? And the scene with the cows flying through the air? Those are the scenes I remember the most.
Oh, yes. I'm talking about the drive-in movie. :3
I remember they were playing The Shining.
Quote from: Fredo on December 15, 2008, 09:49:35 PM
Well, it can still work in your favor.
Maybe she'll even let you get some under-the-shirt, over-the-bra action. O_0
lol we'll see what happens. at this point, i don't even care if anything sexual happens. i just want to be with her. wub;
well speak of the devil. she's online now.
EDIT: we just spent 30 minutes talking about random stuff again, mostly about how high school was so much easier than college.
buw;
Quote from: Clair on December 15, 2008, 06:35:54 PM
This is funny in a way. Hyper asked me once what we we ran out of things to talk about. I said it was no big deal cause we could sit and stare at each other and I'd be happy. That happened. It doesn't have to be uncomfortable. No one can talk non stop... well maybe someone can.
"Why do we feel it's necessary to yak about bullshit in order to be comfortable? That's when you know you've found somebody special. When you can shut the fuck up for a minute, and comfortably share the silence." - Mia from Pulp Fiction